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Re: Xilla Poll: Can Long Distance Relationships Work?

OooLaLa — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 11:54:46 -0000

Commenting from personal experience, LDRs don't work for me. I don't care how much we communicate via phone sex, web cam, email, texts ...etc, I want, and I need the physical touch, the companionship, and the spontaneous sex.

Re: Xilla Poll: Can Long Distance Relationships Work?

theFOXXX. — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 06:16:36 -0000

the answer for that IMO, is
negative.

the elements of being in a good, solid relationship =
1. TRUST
2. RESPECT
3. LOVE [obviously]
and
4. ACTUALLY having that face-to-face interaction with Mr./Miss So & So. FREQUENTLY.
and not to the point where your sick of seeing that person, but enough, to have your own space. LDR and seeing someone constantly, are complete opposites,
so in a healthy relationship theres got to be some kind of balance.

Re: Xilla Poll: Can Long Distance Relationships Work?

Chadillac — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 03:12:03 -0000

You really cant say LDR can't work unless you tried one. Both of us have to be on the same page at all time and have the love and dedication to making it work. If not, it wont work. Ive been in one for almost 3 years now and its very frustrating and difficult but trust me when we arent long distant the time we spend is MAGICAL.

I aint gonna lie ive had some jumpoffs over here and i dont even know what she doing over there...all i know is that when the time comes when we arent long distant, it's gonna be that much stronger. Really i have jumpoffs because i miss her not because i dont love her.....if that makes any sense

Re: Xilla Poll: Can Long Distance Relationships Work?

Qrazy — Sun, 15 Mar 2009 21:14:24 -0000

nope.
(wow a short answer from me for once)

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TRJ — Sun, 15 Mar 2009 14:18:38 -0000

i dont think it can work...outta sight outta mind

Re: Xilla Poll: Can Long Distance Relationships Work?

HeadMistress — Sat, 14 Mar 2009 15:10:02 -0000

I'd have to say "All of the Above" with a 60% of that vote going to "No", 20% to Yes with an O/R and 10% each for the other two

An LDR can work if it is a temporary situation and the understanding is that at some point within a reasonable amount of time the two of you will be together in the same place

It also depends on how it starts out...to me it seems like when its starts out regularly and then turns into an LDR the adjustment is harder, especially for the mate left behind, they are in the same place around the same people for the most part but the one who moves away is experiencing a whole new atmosphere and meeting new people...loneliness and the basic task of getting to know your surroundings is the perfect recipe for that person to start innocently forming new relationships that can eventually lead to cheating

If it starts out as an LDR I think there is better chance that it could work with less frustration on the part of both people as they are both still in their own comfort zones and the newness and anticipation of meeting up however often they decide too is something a little more exciting, something to look forward too and to hang onto as opposed to one just being left behind

Phone sex is a must and honestly depending on how long you may be apart both parties have to be somewhat realistic and discuss whether an open relationship is something that shoud be considered...

No one wants to think about their mate being with someone else but realistically I would rather have my man with a clear head (before he gets a hard dick) decide to take care of his needs, that way at the very least he makes sure he is protected...it can also keep him somewhat detached from what he is doing

Idk if its "less likely" that feelings will form if he's "allowed" to do what he needs to in that situation but I do believe the excitement, randomness, and guilt of cheating under those circumstances would leave anyone a little more vulnerable thus the potential for it to lead to more

Bottom line is if you're talking about a serious relationship with two serious & reasonable people there is a lot to discuss and consider, definitely not a situation to go into haphazardly or fly through by the seat of your pants just hoping it will work

Re: Xilla Poll: Can Long Distance Relationships Work?

Mr_Jones — Sat, 14 Mar 2009 10:36:02 -0000

I said no. But I feel like you have to be strong in order for this thing to work. I know I can't really be in a LDR. It does not make since to me to only see my girl a couple times a month.

Re: Xilla Poll: Can Long Distance Relationships Work?

jc — Sat, 14 Mar 2009 08:49:06 -0000

They can id you REALLY LOVE!!!!!!!!!!!!! that personThey just dont work forever.........And you have to see each other every so often.....It worked for me for about10 months. We got through it now everything is smooth!

Re: Xilla Poll: Can Long Distance Relationships Work?

DaRuler — Sat, 14 Mar 2009 04:31:24 -0000

ain't no way in hell.. even if it's 30 miles away. it ain't gon' work..

Re: Xilla Poll: Can Long Distance Relationships Work?

Nixx_01 — Fri, 13 Mar 2009 22:44:01 -0000

It takes a certain couple to make an LDR work. And most don't fit the profile...

Re: Xilla Poll: Can Long Distance Relationships Work?

taut_7 — Fri, 13 Mar 2009 22:00:23 -0000

i really believe that LDR's can work as long as both sides committ to making it work. I think eventually someone is going to have to move closer to the other person though. It wouldn't work for like 10 years.

Re: Xilla Poll: Can Long Distance Relationships Work?

DomiMami — Fri, 13 Mar 2009 20:37:30 -0000

Absolutely not.

Re: Xilla Poll: Can Long Distance Relationships Work?

Chadillac — Fri, 13 Mar 2009 20:02:13 -0000

They can work. lol...im in one right now until the future if everything works out...but it can work. It's hard and frustrating but yeah...it can.