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Martinez Familia — Sun, 10 Apr 2016 17:13:45 -0000

Daaaaammmmnnn, smh.

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luciouskitty — Wed, 04 Mar 2009 09:25:17 -0000

I would have said more, but I didn't want to sound like the angry black woman.

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Sexy N Sassy — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 14:57:47 -0000

Great minds think alike, see people fail to look at the whole picture. Thats how STD's get spreaded and AIDS and they dont even know where they got it from. People are just real non chalant when it comes to their sexual health

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Sexy N Sassy — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 14:49:40 -0000

Yup,Thats what they do girl. They like them young and dump so they can take advantage of them. Plus its cheaper to keep her. They know a real mature woman is not having that shit.

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Sexy N Sassy — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 14:41:37 -0000

you know he will, you can tell just by the way he sound in his story

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Sexy N Sassy — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 14:35:13 -0000

I like # 3 , cause him thinking about what he want is what got him in this situation from the get go

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Mira — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 14:34:16 -0000

I'm probably late on the whole issue, but just wanted to comment quickly.

I think here we have a case of the old, "Want to have your cake and eat it too." I always say, well yea, who wants cake they cant eat? But in this case, not so. Why? Peoples lives and hearts are involved. To me, the situation was bad in the beginning, but it went from bad to WORSE when the child came into play. I dont really agree with people being selfish, but its almost okay to do it when you have just the adults involved, to bring children into it is just wrong.

So heres my advice, be the best father that you can be to that child. Forget about your current girlfriend and your childs mother. Put all feelings aside and give this INNOCENT child what he/she deserves. He/she didnt ask for this, so just step up, and do what a real man does and take care of your child.

Much success and blessings to you...Good Luck.

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Sexy N Sassy — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 14:16:35 -0000

LOL, c u sound like me,but I tried to go easy on him. but was ready to go hard on him like you. LMAO

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Sexy N Sassy — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 14:13:04 -0000

Honesty is the best policy, Its time to man up and keep it 100 with your official girl. She deserves the truth. It would look better coming from then the streets, ya dig. What you do in dark will come out in the light. I can tell dude is still young and immature when he said he was trying to get the girl pregnant by not using a condom because he still wanted to be with her and his lil plan backfired. Which is the karma setting in. I just hope he learns from this experience and know that its not all about him and what he wants thats how people get hurt.

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luciouskitty — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 13:34:18 -0000

I don't feel sorry for you at ALL!!!!! You got EXACTLY what you deserved, trying to be slick and have 2 relationships going on @ one time. All I have to say is STUPID, STUPID, STUPID!!! Figure your own shit out!!!! U didnt need help putting your dick into her pussy?!?!?

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SugarTits — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 09:15:19 -0000

We are the creators of our destiny. Handle it with your head high and shoulders back. There are no actions nor words that can change what has already been done.His perception can change and so can his behavior in future similar situations. Learn the lesson and move forward.
All the best!

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TRJ — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 19:04:46 -0000

that's a messed up way of letting somebody know you want to be with them, but anyway you need to be honest with everyone in the situation including yourself. there is no getting the side chick back, you said she got all this good stuff going for her and you messed that up, she not going to want you back. your girl might not stay with you either, depending on how yall relationship is. all you can do at this point is admit your faults and deal with your consequences, basically your sh!t has hit the fan, clean it up.

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chanel — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 18:33:10 -0000

first off you are straight up buggin. i think its a little too late to make a choice on who you want. you need to take care of your child and thank god you only walked a away with a second chance to be a real man and not aids.... are you serious???. your girlfriend shouldnt want to be with you no more and clearly your heart isnt with her or you wouldnt have been able to fall in love with a side piece. I suggest you start with a new lady and try to be truthful this time becuase you done burned both of those ladies enough.

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Ant_from_Chi — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 18:16:38 -0000

@ DomiMami
Finally someone with some sound advice for this stupid motherfucker. He's a good example of Niggas being the new Bitch. Ridiculous is not even a strong enough sentiment. Way to get his ass Dominique

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Ant_from_Chi — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 17:50:30 -0000

Nigga please. You need to get a real firm grip on your bullshit before it spins even further out of control than it seems to already have. Sorry for being so blunt, but again, Nigga please!!!

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babydoll — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 12:47:56 -0000

YEP! People are really f*cking up with this one.

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Maria (@ImAVeronica) — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 11:52:54 -0000

Excellent advice. So much in that letter to get vexed about, but the man *did* ask a question.

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babydoll — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 09:44:41 -0000

umm, that was the point I was trying to make. Your BM didn't end it, so she continued to have sex with you, even if it was once or 50 times she still chose to f*ck. Sooooo, like I said before, she was willing to be the side chick, even if it was temporarily. And if these woman are going hard on you and your BM is because we are so sick of hearing these trifling ass stories, like I said before this fuckery that you did is redundant and tired. I'm not trying to go hard on your BM either, but if you want to put your business out on the streets everyone gonna feel it. So no one is truly innocent here except the baby....sorry. God Bless though!

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IamJavone — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 21:43:30 -0000

This is where you being 23 comes into play. First of all he did mention she pulled back when he told her. However, he continued to come around, and thus began to treat the side chick like the main chick. And IMO, can't NO man be taken that doesn't want to be took. So her fault was what now. Going on vacation (because I know he paid, just out of mere guilt), shopping and spending up his money. Was it her issue that he continued to keep coming around?

Then you mention settling. Is this settling for someone else's man? Because aside from this dumb ass thing he did, does not mean he is any less of a man. Clearly he stated he will take care of the child. Which on the surface, says he can provide, thus having a good job. There is nothing here regarding the capabilities of him taking care of either young lady and the baby he has coming. Going on vacations, dinners, and taking care of two women is NOT cheap. So he has some ends.

But again, you being 23, the issue isn't with her standards. She thought she had a stand-up guy in the beginning. They travelled outside the states, etc. Sounds like he was doing everything right.

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Advice from a chick... — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 20:43:24 -0000

I think you need to do what's right. Tell the truth and make a commitment for the sake of your child. Separate from your main girlfriend and try to patch up the relationship with the chick on the side. Though you and your main girl have years of history, you are not married to her. You guys have no true ties or claims on each other outside of sex and um.......... history. As much as I hate to say it, the bond between you and your chick on the side is more important because you have a child. Plus you love her don't you? I say try to make it work with the chick on the side. I believe that child DESERVES to grow up in a home with two loving devoted parents, who not only love the child but love and are COMMITTED to each other. If things don't work out with the chick on the side, remember you are a father first and foremost and your child's well being comes first..........NO MATTER WHAT.

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bitchiemood — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 17:54:57 -0000

WOW SO BABIES ARE THE NEW HANDCUFFS?!!

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BlogXilla — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 14:37:47 -0000

Umm I just gave him some good solid advice without judging him... But he needs to come clean. Point blank period and if he wants his BM he needs to cut the wife loose all together, and try to get his BM back... He might not be able to do it and he might end up losing them both but the only way to get one of them is to break it off with the other one and THEN try to get the one he wants.

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Haniplease — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 14:34:45 -0000

YES! seriously! i refuses to be a baby mama.... since the liklihood of me having kids with a loving black man are slim to none i've decided to become a foster mom... if i get THAT dayum curious about how my kid will look, i'll run to the sperminator. seriously... i'm disgusted by how ridiculously low our standards are nowadays.... we were once a people that believed in family and togetherness. now its like niggas have babies for fun and sistas will just settle for anything.....

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Haniplease — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 14:31:44 -0000

weeeelll[in that good ol' souvern chuch voice" cleary ur side pice isn't of high moral standards. u think she DIDN'T tip a on u. HA! b 4 real....

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Isis — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 14:08:24 -0000

Ok. . SO what you are saying is this man is in no way at fault for playing with two lives (and in the midst selfishly creating one), playing with real ppl with real emotions, lying & being an all around ass. Being labeled a "rugrat" does not give you an excuse to be ignorant. I am of your generation (I'm 24)but I do not use it as an excuse. I know right from wrong just as he should, I know the difference of getting what I deserve verses settling. So lets not blame it on the generation but on personal preference.

Shouldn't he have been upfront about what was preoccupying his time instead of lying ???

and if you want to break it down further. . . .What about the main chick who agreed to allowing him to play in the streets ???

How about being angry with the whole situation and the person who's hiding the most.

Growing up in an ignorant generation does not give you cause to be ignorant. (Something my mom says)