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1. Tell your current girlfriend you cheated and got someone pregnant with a baby on the way. If she stays, she stays. If not, you can't blame her. It's all your fault anyways.
2. Preggo side chick doesn't want anything to do with you. You already stated she doesn't want you anymore. Stop trying to push the matter. You can't make a woman be with you just because you knocked her up. Take it as a lost.
3. Think about your baby and plan for his/her future. Stop thinking about what YOU want.
It's that simple-- be a man and be honest. Can I get a "DUH!!"?
Dude has definitely f'ed himself
There's no light at the end of that tunnel. Most likely his main will leave him (cause I'm pretty sure open relationships come with rules. . .u know, no raw, no babies. . .etc) His side chick welllllllllllllllll. . . ..I don't think he has hope of ever getting her back because he started out what they had with a lie. His best bet is to take care of his child and move on. And like Ness said be by yourself for a while dude
I feel that is so low down to try and trap a woman because you weren't man enough to keep her on your own. . . .. SMH
This story just makes me mad, because you know what? This isn't some random ass story, this shit is redundant in the black communtiy, and this is how disease is spread, single parent homes are started and he is just adding to the fuckery because of selfishness Aye, his side chick really ain't getting a pass either. She is fucked up for actually agreeing to b his side chick with all that shit she supposedly has going for herself. Women gotta wake up too! What did she think was actually gonna come out of that? Karma for both of they asses, I have no sympathy for anyone in this situation but the unborn baby.
I ALMOST FEEL SORRY FOR YOU.
Obviously, she didn't stick around after you told her she was a side chick (except for the "One more time" sex you had which produced a baby). Your BM is a smart woman to stop the relationship..
STOP THINKING ABOUT WHICH WOMAN YOU ARE GOING TO POKE AND THINK ABOUT OPENING UP A COLLEGE FUND FOR YOUR BABY. Save up for them diapers. Costco has good deals on diapers on bulk.
Yeah she stuck around, but she also fell back..and that's whn u got her prego on the last hook up... c'mon now stop trying to make excuses
Truth be told, your main chick is probably sliding off with the next dude anyway so don't be surprised when she tells u that she's been messing w/the next dude and was actually in the process of replacing you....
Ha
karma is a bitch
smh
Plus sidechick will def x him out her life & take him to court for child support....
Sh*t is gonna get ugly & like u said...karma is a bytch....
BUT HE NEEDS TO TELL HIS MAIN CHICK.!!!!! THT'S THE MOST IMPORTANT THING B/C SHE NEEDS TO MAKE HER OWN DECISIONS BASED ON WHATS GOING ON. NOT ONLY DOES HE HAVE A BABY COMING BUT HE'S HAVING UNPROTECTED SEX WITH SIDE CHICKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! MAIN CHICK IS TRUSTING HIM W/ HER LIFE AS FAR AS HER HEALTH AND HE'S OUT THERE DOING HIM.
as far as for the child support and getting dumped by both of them is exactly what he deserves..
Maybe outside someplace...maybe in the car....but make sure he removed all blunt objects out of the car b4 hand.
Okay telling her in a public place would be better.....like outside where she can go off & then walk away and go home and not think about him ever again.
At the end of the day...her fist will do just fine ;)
As far as the side chick he got pregnant, I think it's a lost cause at trying to win her over b/c once a female is done with you then she's DONE...regardless of if she has your child or not. And not for nothing, u ain't sh*t for getting her pregnant on purpose...tht wa so damn grimmey b/c ur messing w/ ppls lives & emotions....(sorry but it's the truth)
At the end of the day, you're probably not gonna be with any of the two females (regardless of how much u love them) b/c the sidechick is already done with you and your main chick will most likely be done with you too...but at least u was honest w/her at the end of the day...
Why don't u just be single for a while b/c it sounds like you fall for ppl and then don't know how or when to "let go" and now 3 people are involved in your games which is the side chick (who tried to fall back from u after she found out the truth about ur situation) but ur spiteful ass got her pregnant on purpose...then u have ur main chick who was ur ride or die chick through all these yrs...and then u have a baby coming into this world who won't get to experience having a father in the household b/c daddy was "confused".
I am Ness and I approve this message!
Especially with pointing out how f*ckep up it was for you to selfishly manipulate a situation and get her pregnant on purpose without thinking how it would affect her life and her feelings...
If you want to have even a glimmer of hope to salvage the relationship with your main girl, you HAVE to tell her and the sooner the better. It's not like you're gonna be able to hide it! It's gonna eventually come out. But don't hold your breath. I'm sorry bruh, but all the love in the world wouldn't keep me with a man who cheated and lied, claims he LOVES the other chick, and now has a child on the way with her. She'll always be reminded that you fucked up.
You are confused. I don't understand how some men and women can claim they live their main S.O. and then say the also love someone else. You don't love your girl if you're out there doing things you know are not in her best interests and would hurt her were she to find out. And you don't love your side chick if you couldn't even decide to let old girl go and put her first. You met the perfect woman for you but decided to keep her as a side chick?! GTFOH.
I mean, I hate for anybody to be in a situation like this. But I can't say I feel for you bruh. But good luck anyway, and SMARTEN UP!
How is he going to feel when is baby mama moves on with the next dude....?!?! B/c tht's what's gonna happen eventually...(believe me).
dude, you need to have some alone time. go sit in a corna and write, "i won't do da fool" 1000 times backwards in a composition book. stretch a condom over ur head while doing this[babydaddys dunce cap]
Yeah...he needs to do exactly wht u said... :) Maybe even write all the bs he did to the main chick in a letter, give it to her and if she wants to talk about it then she'll call him. If not then she'll delete his number & move on w/ her life.
Damn....!!!! WTF is up w/ guys getting girls prego on purpose....my gawd!!!! Sickening....lol
:P:P
He got what was coming for him.
1. Tell the main chick whats up.
2. Find Jesus and take care of your child.
the only relationship you'll have with your "side chick" now will deal with taking care of that child and that's how life goes.
Im glad somebody gave him the Niccas aint shy speech because he aint.
And he still aint shy for not tellin his girl yet. 4 MONTHS pregnant!!!! and she still don't know
And his friend a some ain't sh*t nuccas too for tell him to say f*ck it and leave the kid out there in the cold.
Side note: Doesn't this dude sound kinda selfish? Come on, man! "I love two different woman and want to be with them both." "How can I win my side chick back after she told me she doesnt want me anymore?"
And the crzy thing is that he did it probably knowing she wouldn't terminate the pregnancy due to religious beliefs which is even worse...smch...
I'm too through with this situation b/c it's pissing me off.
When was the last time you heard a female putting a hole in the condom & trying to pregnant on purpose?
This shyt right here is crzy b/c guys do far more worse things than females...but we always get the blame for our stuff.
I'm more so mad at the bitchassness of the situation....
But on a serious note. He needs to make a decision about who he wants to move forward with before he does anything. The very next thing he should do is come clean with his girl, explain EVERYTHING. He's in a lose-lose with her so he might as well just tell it all, at least she'll be able to respect his honesty.
As far as the side chick that's prego, I don't think he should worry so much about winning her over. I think he should focusing on taking care of his child, she'll notice that if she doesn't see anything else.
But yea, he's if f***ed up space lol
Onewayweezy r u serious???!!!!
The only thing he's gonna move forward with his his damn self and stacking money for that child.....he's not gonne b with either one of them.
And unless you did some extra extra shady shyt she most likely knew you weren't wearing a condom during your last encounter, so yeah, sorry to break it to you but she is, I won't say "as guilty" as you, but she is in no way shape or form blameless in this situation....
I took the condom off
Your not even a piece of shit. You are a crumb. She's a crumb just the same, if she fucked you one last time knowing you had other pussy u getting it in with. I felt a little bit bad (not bad for you, but about the situation) until you said the key words
"I took the condom off"
U sound like a real bitch right now. Who the fuck are you to just be yankin latex off your dick to trap somebody? Did she even know you took it off?
Obviously, if she wanted to keep gettin Raw Dick, she woulda stuck around.
And by the way, nothing about this story was confusing or complicated, Your just a dumbass and your OWN soap opera gets your head a little cloudy.
You got exactly what you deserve-----A CHILD SUPPORT HEARING!
Better be lucky it was a baby and not Herpes you dirty mutha fucka. Fuck givin you a break. Ima give it to you like you gave it to us.
And dont try to take up for Baby Momma. She's a dumb bitch for letting you hit one last time. There aint NEVER been dick so good that I'd just forget Im a side bitch. She musta not been that perfect for you, you didnt try to wife her up. She's a stupid crumb too....and even dumber for havin your seed.
I dont normally believe in abortion, but i woulda killed that little bastard. (harsh?)
Good luck with them Monthly payments dude!!!!!
~Signed
The perfect girl for HIM.....the one he wifed up and sowed legitimate seeds!
Dominique
Yup!!!
But f*ck it, harsh is what some people need and I'm 100% with you on the abortion, don't believe in it for myself but just for the simple fact that it was a trap woulda made me get rid of it...
This was the epitome of bitchassness...hopefuly he's matured and won't use his kid in negative ways just to try to hang on to its mother
Finally someone with some sound advice for this stupid motherfucker. He's a good example of Niggas being the new Bitch. Ridiculous is not even a strong enough sentiment. Way to get his ass Dominique
that was real triflin how he knocked her up though but she went with it and didnt take no plan b or anything, thats probably why she's not answering the phone, she mad as hell she let u set her up
he also need to stop relying and worryin so much about what other ppl think about his chick(s), u are the only one that lives ur life and has to deal with the decisions you make, aint nann one ur friends bout to be payin them child support checks cuz ol girl aint takin ya back!!
The moral of this story is, the grass always looks greener on the other side. If side-piece wants to take you back, that's all well and good, but who's to say that it will be worth it? Maybe you'll discover that she is not all you cracked her up to be, while you did your main chick super dirty. I won't bash you (although you deserve it), but there are enough people on here who have said all the words I would use to describe your actions. SELFISH AS HELL!!!
Speak the truth, Damn that check each month for a nice sum with a couple zeros.
LOL
Nah for real mami, you did the right thing....ok lemme rephrase
you got it right the second time with not trappin ole boy.
I know he happier than a pig in shit.
But this man....THIS DUDE RIGHT HEAH
is an idiot. I just re-read his plea to zilla and the tone is ignorant.
He is happy as hell he is in this situation and get to tell the whole BLorld about it.
Mickey Fickey shame
You wild for that one
1. put your child first before everyone and
2. think about which woman is best suited for you to be with long term. which of the woman can you most reasonably see yourself building a life with. you need to chose ONE lady and COMMIT to her.
there is a very good chance that you'll end up empty handed, but you've already seen what happens when you try to have your cake and eat it too. the only way that this situation is going to get better is if you start telling the TRUTH to everyone. there is no easy way around it. no cop outs
its life situations like these that separate the boys from the men. and its your turn to man up and make a decision and stick with its consequences
The light has never been brighter. Go'on Girl.
If you notice, I didnt cut the wack chick no slack either. It takes two. Musta been a helluva nut.
Still SMH, LMBAO @"She’s xx and I’m 2x"
Fool, this was posted anonymous, and you responded and we STILL dont know you. Yet you wont tell your age.
Ladies....He gotta be what 21, 22?
That sounds about right
and lets see....OLE Girl ...Does XX=15 years old? I gotta ask because these ig'nant momofuuckas like em young so they can TRAIN EM AND TAINT EM.
Damn Shame.
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He needs to be up front and honest and tell his girl, better to deal with the consequences now than to drag it out and she finds out and things become worst. Not to judge, but I have to say that it is quite troubling for someone to say that they impregnated a woman to keep her, he clearly has control issues. He has put himself in a very compromising position where he is going to hurt someone and hopefully he will learn from this situation and make it a priority to not repeat his actions. I feel for all parties in this situation.
Take care of yours and dont tell the main chick make a lie up
2. Dont fell bad about it, females do this everyday ..there just more smart about who when,and where they trap
3. Are you a momma boy or raised in a single parent home ? just a question
if your having sex with a man that you know is in a relationship, he takes off the condom and you know that your not on any type of birth control what the hell are you thinking???
the ONE thing a woman has control over is her uterus. if your having sex with a man and he discards the condom the first thing you do is come back to earth from your ecstasy and ask some questions. unprotected sex with man that you are knowingly not in an exclusive relationship with means DISEASE AND KIDS. so i have nooooo sympathy for her at all
"We hung out three maybe four time once alone, the other times in a group setting after she found out.......................I took the condom off"
I inquired if Baby Momma knew about him taking his condom off and I think I scared him away. He never responded to my vicious attack {clutch my pearls}
OR, maybe when he logged off, he went'on ahead and gave his Mainery the lowdown on the baby momma...........AND HIS MAIN CHICK KILLED HIM (lol)
~~~~~~~~~Where is he buried Xilla?
Unfortunately a guy can take a condom off without you knowing/seeing him do it, it happened to me once but I can FEEL the difference and dude almost got his dick torn off for that dumb shyt...but I digress
Depending on a woman's experience she may not be able to tell, if that was the case and she didn't know he removed it then yes she absolutely was trapped into "the pregnancy" and its probably why she has chosen to have no dealings with him.
Again if that's the case she gets a pass on the unplanned pregnancy but still an EPIC FAIL for flagrant side-chickery!
You are not making your case any better
You tell wifey yet. Do you even want her as wifey? Just a question since you bigged up BM, but merely discribed your girl as someone you're still with because yall been together so long. Is she anything more than that? Or is it that you're just fighting to keep normalcy?
If she is in fact just a chick you're holding on to then I dont see any reason to tell her. Just break up.
Also, did you two (your main lady) have any discussion as to when you are allowed out in the streets, what you are actually allowed to do. She ok with you doing you're street thang, but is she cool with you catching feelings the way you have or hittin pussy raw.
Think about whats fair to your girl. She may not want to be with you after, but you should have enough love for her (as you professed earlier) to make that HER decision....That is, IF you even want to be with her after carefully considering your options (or lack there of).
So in addition to deciding that you were gonna hold her body and her life hostage to your selfishness you also set into motion a situation where you put two women's life at risk as well as your unborn child - when you're dividing your attention between two women what you're giving can't possibly be fulfilling to either, so that begs the question(s)
What was your main chick doing while you were spending all this time with your side chick?
What if she got lonely and decided to cheat too? What if her n*gga on the side decided to take his condom off? And who else was he f*ckin besides your Main?
What was your side chick doing while you were with your main chick?
What if she was f*ckin another n*gga besides you? What if he decided to take his condom off? And who else was he f*ckin besides your Side?
Is the baby even yours? You may wanna wait til the little bastard nigglett (I keed) is born and get tha
D to the N to the A test done.
You said it yourself that "My child will be well provided for, that is and never will be an issue" Maybe you are her mealticket!?
Shouldn't he have been upfront about what was preoccupying his time instead of lying ???
and if you want to break it down further. . . .What about the main chick who agreed to allowing him to play in the streets ???
How about being angry with the whole situation and the person who's hiding the most.
Growing up in an ignorant generation does not give you cause to be ignorant. (Something my mom says)
Then you mention settling. Is this settling for someone else's man? Because aside from this dumb ass thing he did, does not mean he is any less of a man. Clearly he stated he will take care of the child. Which on the surface, says he can provide, thus having a good job. There is nothing here regarding the capabilities of him taking care of either young lady and the baby he has coming. Going on vacations, dinners, and taking care of two women is NOT cheap. So he has some ends.
But again, you being 23, the issue isn't with her standards. She thought she had a stand-up guy in the beginning. They travelled outside the states, etc. Sounds like he was doing everything right.
All the best!
I think here we have a case of the old, "Want to have your cake and eat it too." I always say, well yea, who wants cake they cant eat? But in this case, not so. Why? Peoples lives and hearts are involved. To me, the situation was bad in the beginning, but it went from bad to WORSE when the child came into play. I dont really agree with people being selfish, but its almost okay to do it when you have just the adults involved, to bring children into it is just wrong.
So heres my advice, be the best father that you can be to that child. Forget about your current girlfriend and your childs mother. Put all feelings aside and give this INNOCENT child what he/she deserves. He/she didnt ask for this, so just step up, and do what a real man does and take care of your child.
Much success and blessings to you...Good Luck.