DISQUS

kyas_mami · 1 year ago

Man! You hit it on the head Xilla..
These bitches out here are triflin nowdays.
And for no good reason, and it truly does fuk it up for the good women out there.
Thank GOD my man was MAN enuf to realize he had a woman an not a bitch....
As a REAL woman, I cater to my REAL man...Treat him like the king he is, i'm a lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets, I take care of my daughter, I work and I got my own!
So if these bitches wanna stay trickin for lil or nuthin and be used as a cum depository for them triflin niggas out there who wont it, feel free...
Jus keep your hands to yourself when it comes to me and mine cus I aint afraid to cut a BITCH! LOL

BlogXilla · 1 year ago

That's the thing we become so spoiled by the easy female. Now I don't believe there is a time limit on love and sex, but there is a difference between a hoe and love at first site, or conversation. it is what it is you know.

Angel_1 · 1 year ago

This is why I come to this site......Xilla, you speak the truth and that's no lie!

I know some stuck up B****** who loves to go to the club while the man is sitting at the crib taking care of HER 3 kids!

They LOVE the club. I guess it's for attention, free drinks and free sex.

Damn that Usher. Giving these people ideas about having sex "in the club". Now, I know GROWN women who go to the club just for it.

The Stuck Up B***** is fake from head to toe. Hair, Eyelashes, Nose ring, Earrings, Nails, Necklace, Breast, Ass,......EVERYTHING IS FAKE!

Now I know Beyonce is singing "If I Were A Boy" BUT If I had to be a "Stuck Up B****" then I rather be a boy

It's bad enough they make us chase them, spend money on them, give them whatever they want BUT then they get jealous when I been hanging out with Keshia who I went to high school with and grew up with!

They ask "Who look better?" between her and Rihanna. She make have all the fakeness about her like Rihanna (as that's keeps her pretty) BUT YOU ARE NOT RIHANNA!

With you and your fake everything, you could NOT touch Rihanna from "Disturbia"!

Real women are overshadowed by the stuck up. Sorry. But it's the truth.

BlogXilla · 1 year ago

Tell them why you mad son?

Angel_1 · 1 year ago

Dad, I'm mad because some women are MAD....

Not like MadTV

Mad like insane and because I got J's on my feet, you wanna fuck.

Because I post a video on You Tube acting silly, you asking for my name and age because I'm cute.

And then when you start complaining about hair, nails, shoes....

And it start sounding like Blah Blah Blah Blah.....

And you throw my mother's vase on the floor and I call you a bitch

You swear I'm not paying child support.....

And I hit you......

And when you think a man is a man with a gold grill and looks like T-Pain

OR EVEN sings like T-Pain

I like how the real women are replying to this....STAND UP!

Women don't get overshadowed but bitches are become larger by the numbers

Reesethe · 1 year ago

It became acceptable when men don't set their standards high enough. But there is a double edged sword to this. It is just as hard to find a man out here who doesn't want to hit as soon as he meets you. And god forbid if you want to get to know him because he will move right on to the next basket weaved chick he sees. Its not just me with this opinion though, my close circle of friends all have the same problem. We are all professional women but we get overlooked because of the fact that we don't "need" a man like some other females do. The wrong types of females do those types of things because they seek comfort in sex and gifts. Its sad but true. I've seen and heard women blatantly go after men because they think his chain is real or his car has rims. At the end of the day I would rather have a man who respects me and values my opinions then someone who thinks that buying me a Gucci bag will makes me happy.

BlogXilla · 1 year ago

High standards? Have you seen today's whore? They look like Beyonce, Rihanna and sometimes better and all you need to do is give them a bit of attention and buy them something reasonablly nice and bam the coochie is yours if you have a bit of status in the world you can get your balls licked up and down for low! There is nothing about standards. lol I'm just saying

But yeah I've heard women as well say he has a nice chain he can get it! Do you see the rims on his car. Have something that shines and you can hit it from behind. The golden rule of being a player.

kyas_mami · 1 year ago

yea, it aint about standards...
I think men know EXACTLY what they gettin into wit these nutbucket ass hoes...
I'm sorry i dont care what nobody says, u kno a hoe when you see one...there are telltale signs...
If they wanna be dumb enuf to ignore the signs...THEIR BAD!

Starr · 1 year ago

Yeah that nice chain and those big rims come right along with that die slow that he's carrying. Tricks need to get it together! The way he got you is the same way he got the rest of the tricks like you. Fast and thoughtless. Choose to be smart in '08 or your family will be choosing the lining on your 6 feet under resting place.

Angel_1 · 1 year ago

Listen to Xilla because he is right.....

High standards for most usually "whores" is if she is going to lick ass tonight or not!

Most even flip a coin to see who's going to lick ass and who's going anal.

I remember my cousin buying a girl a drink in this club and she cut a hole in her pants so he could fuck her while everyone thought they was dancing

I'm sorry but my people of BlogXilla BUT LOVE IN THE CLUB IS NOT COOL!

Well.....maybe....it depends....

Shine and you WILL shine!

I agree, Xilla!

Starr · 1 year ago

These noodles out here kill me sometimes. Real women don't need to trick off some man to keep themselves laced. That's why we make a honest living by WORKING. I can't stand hearing some ol' chicken heads talking about how this ninja better get her hair or her nails or her feet done. Or how he better come through to pay her phone bill or her car note....BITCH!! How old are you? A woman is supposed to already know how to maintain that upkeep without having to depend on someone else to do it. And why are you bragging about a ninja doing some shit like that anyway? You mean to tell me you don't make enough to pay for your own shit? And you're flaunting it like that's what's hot in the streets? What's wrong with that picture? No ma'am Pam....they already have that mentality though like they are owed something for nothing. Grow the phuck up already and stop making the good women out there who are real about their shit look bad.

kyas_mami · 1 year ago

PREACH GIRL!
SMH... and these be the same bitches givin real women the side eye...

kingsmomma · 1 year ago

I agree, this is what I was trying to say in response to that you tube what do you like post. I was a bit iffy in the beginning but I agree. Women are our own worst enemies.

3piece · 1 year ago

I actually think the female species can be divided into three categories: Women, Bitches and Whores. There are real women out here (myself included) who are ride or die but who have raised our standards to no longer accepted anything that crosses the threshold and call it a man. I have a son so I am not raising anybody's child, I never knew my father and am no longer in search of one but it seems the hardest thing to find on god's green earth is a MAN. But in that same token some of these men out here have never been taught how to identify a real WOMAN when they encounter one so they treat everyone the same no matter what. Real women don't go to the club like it is religion, Real women will protect their family like a lioness, Real women don't lay with every swinging dick they meet because they know swinging dicks are like buses another one will be along in 15 minutes but I have also come to the conclusion that men aren't really looking for Real women they are looking for a conquest to brag about. So sad. Maybe if I teach my son well he will be able to have the gift of discernment.

kingsmomma · 1 year ago

I think about this everyday in terms of how I want my son to treat women. I left his father because I refused to bring him up in an enviroment that fosters mysogny and just like abuse that behavior is learned. Xilla had it right. There are two categories: women and Itches and that can be further divided down to specify which particular brand of Itch she is.

As many times I've been cheated on I will never say well someone did it to me so i'm just returning the favor. (Yep ur a Itch)
Luvn in the club and it isn't the man you came with - Itch
yeah it really is trickin if you got it b/c what TI failed to mention is that is how they got it. -Itch
running to the club b/c its NBA All star weekend/draft weekend/ nfl anything and you think you can lasso in Kobe- Itch
any person who utters -that's okay b/c when you're kissin him you're tasting my cucamonga- Itch
jumping on myspace and creating ebeefs- Immature Itch

These Itches are like Scabs- the union workers want a contract and they crossing the damn pickett lines.
Im so tired of the tired as itches.

Reesethe · 1 year ago

Youre right. Real women know the difference.

Ness · 1 year ago

What it all boils down to is that 'real' women feel like they don't NEED a man to do anything for them. Men don't wanna hear the sh*t (I'm sorry, but it's true). Yeah we all want to be independent women but we don't know when to sit the f*ck down and sh*t the f*ck up. Real women r too busy bumpin their gums about what they can do for themselves and how they don't need a man to help them with anything, not even bustn a nut. So all the 'good' men go out and find the 'easy' women and get their jollies off that way.

All the females out there getting tricked on and doing all this strange sh*t is b/c 'real' women toss 'good' men back in the sea. So these women go to great lengths (which real women see as being a hoe or a b*tch) to keep these men coming back b/c they know that these men do have standards it's just that men can't get an inch with the so called 'real' women out there b/c their standards are so high that they can't look down and recognize a good man.

And with black women it's the worst. We're walking around with chips on our shoulders, and wonder why they can't find a descent man. A man can walk past a woman on the street and say a simple hello and she's rolling her eyes and suckin her teeth. All of that isn't necessary. Say hi back, smile at a brother. Every hello, or how r u doing isn't an invitation to f*ck.

kyas_mami · 1 year ago

I agree...
Just like Xilla said men get used to the bitches, I think women get used to their male counterparts...
The same way we want men to open their eyes and steer clear of these bitches
We need to realize that there are good men out there!

Ness · 1 year ago

Women want to complain b/c men are dealing w/ b*tches and whores, or dealing w/ white women or asian women.
When r we going to get it together?
We're loosing our men to so many elements & with the woman to male ratio, we're gonna loose out on a potentially good thing.

Shayna' · 1 year ago

i agree. women are having a hard time finding a good man who wants more than to just have sex with them, cuz these "bitches" out there giving up easy.
easy ass bitches in the club wearing next to nothing, easy ass bitches on myspace w. slutty ass pictures. smh.
I've been single for almost 2 years and celibate for 1 year (by choice). 2 of the dudes i dated for a quick minute just wanted sex, and thats not what im about right now. im young (20) but i want something more than just a fuck buddy right now, but that seems to be on every dudes mind that i meet. im not a picky person, and i definately can appreciate a good man sadly have yet to meet anyone lately.

SarahLove · 1 year ago

Wow this whole post is sooooooo sad!!!
I have daughters, and it saddens me that this is the world they were born into.
Men calling women, b*tches, and whores, women calling women b*tches, and whores.
I always go back to 'who raised these b*tches, and whores?'.
We do what we know. And when you see that someone doesn't know, why take advantage, why not teach. Be a real HUMAN (not man) and let them know that what their doing is leading to nothing.

The human race is in a sad place right now:(
To me if your sexually intellegent you don't need to take advantage of a woman who is hurting to get some sex. And trust when I say women who are doing this are hurting.
Compassion!!!!! I wanna order some of that!!!

chanel · 1 year ago

..WOW.. you on point.. lol i need to meet you..but anyway my comments:

1. STOP BEING LAZY!! (women) get a job
- i don't have a job im 18 but i am fortunate for parents that dont mind paying for my college and nessecities but trust and believe i dont need no man to get me things i can get myself.. smh
2. PERFORMING NASTINESSS ON NIGGAS YOU DO NOT KNOW
- me and my then boyfriend used to do everything EVERYTHING but the was MY MAN.. so therefore the rigght to be a naughty little girl inside his doors.
3. WE ARE IN A RECESSION
-if you are gonna be with a nigga your gonna have to put out alot more to get money...


BYEEz

BUT.. · 1 year ago

i know who's fault it is....my opinion.

if you have sex with a boy
give a boy head
treat him like he is a king
when he is a boy that don't have anything going for him
but a functioning d*ck
you are telling that boy that he does not need to grow up and become a man
he already has everything that men strive for...money respect, sex & head
the solution is stop letting your kids have sex before they are of age
this is what really killed the "good man"

ALMiss · 1 year ago

I agree! Some of my high school friends started having sex wayy too early! For most of them 7th or 8th grade, and although they were my age, I'm thinking "WHAT?? We're really only kids!! Are you serious??" And today, it's only getting worse....

Breezy · 1 year ago

Well said SarahLove. B*tches definitely give the real women sideeyes probably because they are ashamed of themselves and their whorish ways. I used to think the issue was me, but then I realized it was those "women" don't know their worth and don't know the harm in their actions. I dated a (college) football player and you would not believe the locker room stories I've heard. As a female I was ashamed and so hurt for my gender. Men would never treat us with respect until we respect ourselves as females (talking 2 the b*tches). and its sad because those fools think that just because they treat one girl like that, they can step to the real women that way.

ALMiss · 1 year ago

"Mad like insane and because I got J's on my feet, you wanna fuck.

Because I post a video on You Tube acting silly, you asking for my name and age because I'm cute."


You killed them with that one!! I know plenty of girls like that and it's not cute at all! When are young ladies these days gonna learn?

occasional lurker · 1 year ago

As a single woman handling my own business, I get upset at a lot of my female counterparts that feel it is acceptable to give head and fugg for a hair do, light bill or whatever the object may be. I had my time as a child and I acted as a child, but as a grown azz woman I had to put those behaviors away and be responsible for my actions. Not that this is the answer, but I keep myself to myself until I find someone who is seemingly worthy of me. U don't fugg cause you took me out to eat , I can do that for myself. I have a homegirl right now that is 28 and will suck and fu*k for a meal at applebee's. Women need to realize that we teach men how to treat us and as Xilla said, when a person shows you who you are believe them. It's Itches that mess it up for us real women, but us real women need to be able to recognize when a real azz nugga come into our lives and give him the respect he deserves for being such.

rawdawgbuffalo · 1 year ago

i dont think Chivalry is dead - look at me

mzvirgo · 1 year ago

Xilla, this is a great post.

It's hard for a regular square like me (yes I said square) who works hard and has no kids to find a good man because men rather deal with b-tches. At some point, I have been called "stuck up" and "high maintenance" and it was all because of how I carried myself. I don't own LV or Prada or Gucci, but because I carry myself with class, that automatically means stuck up? I don't ask for a man to get my hair or nails done, or for him to pay bills.

As far as wanting to try freaky things with your man and worried about being labeled, I think we need to be comfortable with our sexuality and stop dealing with "boys". Because "boys" will label you and worry about where you learned that freaky move from.

404 · 1 year ago

Mornin!

I feel that it is not only the bitches who make it hard for women but it is also the men who PREFER the bitches. Here in Atlanta everybody knows the ratio is 17:1 women to men, and within the 17 I would guess 85% are bitches. Leaving the remaining 15% to battle with these clowns for some respect. Grant it, it is a recession and it is slim pickins I get it, but GOTDAMN, it's hard out here. Like Xilla stated in a recent post "the price of pussy has plummeted" lmao and it has. I can tell by the way men approach women now. There is no introduction just, "gimmie yo number" or "here go my number". Nigga naw, I don't even have a jus to make a rational decision as to whether or not I wanna speak with you again..........EVER!!!

The bitches think they stars, wanna get next to stars, and fuck stars...............A woman knows that she doesn't need any additional "accessory" to shine.

Killa · 1 year ago

LMAO...OTFR!!! Don't you sleep with a married man and announce it like it's something you're proud of?? And don't you feel it's ok to have or be a side piece? So which one are you??

I'm just sayin'...

404 · 1 year ago

I do sleep with a married man........ and quite well actually.

And yes, if you want to sleep with someone outside of your relationship, I don't give a shit, do you.

And why you so angry?????

Killa · 1 year ago

If you notice I started the comment laughing, I actually find you quite entertaining I'm pretty much guaranteed a good laugh. Not angry at all Boo Boo... I was really looking for some clarification since I found it an oxymoron for you to be commenting on a post about women and bitches, considering your moral standing is questionable since you find it acceptable and seem to be quite proud of the fact you sleep with married men, I was actually curious as to which of the two you consider yourself.

And it does become an issue for WOMEN when bitches sleep around with WOMEN'S husbands or significant others with no regard for that WOMAN.

404 · 1 year ago

AAAAAWWWWWW POOR THING...........................

You have nothing better to do than judge strangers on a blog?
The name calling is juvenile & I don't get offended easily, so if your goal is to get a rise outta me, you're going to have to come a lil bit harder....................Go get some business...............

Killa · 1 year ago

Once again...LMAO, Nope why would I try to get a rise out of someone on a computer, and??? I made an observation and was just asking you a question you haven't answered yet.

And please read again where did I call you a name??

Kirk · 1 year ago

On Point

louisej · 1 year ago

as many women have stated on here, its hard out here for real women. i was dating a guy off and on for five years. he was a hustla. i left him because i was tired off the door being kicked in, gun shots all time of night and different itches talking to him. He had the audacity to call me a triflin hoe. I dont think i was wrong for leaving him. Everytime he get on, some scallywag come along and gets his attention and he dont want to be with me. he often blames it on me being in college. then when he aint on he wanna be all in my face. its not the fact that he got money that i am with him, i was with him when he didnt have a pot to piss in. but im a hoe because i am tired of putting up with the itches sucking and f*cking for a ride. Real women have it hard out especially the ones handling it on their own.

NubianGoddez · 1 year ago

Good article and 100% true, blame it on the BET and VH1 era and the moms who had no parental skills and raised these b*tches to be the same thing. unfortunately society has gone to hell, these b*tches have no morals or self love and respect, they are beyond pathetic and do make it bad for real women out here, we can't blame the men, we allow them to dog and use us then the good guys pay for that. there is a book by Akil called Goddess Black Woman, Mother of Civilization. should be mandatory reading also Marcus Garvey. sometimes I really wish we had a drop squad for most of these brain dead zombi black folks. I just pray for them and keep it moving, you ain't gonna save everybody.

Sad · 1 year ago

I caught up with an old friend from school via myspace. And the majority of her pics were of her high with a kid not a few feet away from her. One of the captions read on her daughters pic read "break them pockets girl" meaning she is teaching her daughter to be like her, and try to get any and everything they can from a man and it's so sad. She has about 4 kids from different guys and she is 26. A lot of these women were raised this way. Single mom, who is all about partying, drinking and going to the club. Children growing up, look up to their parents and want to be like them. Asking men for money and things is something I have never been comfortable with and I've been with my guy for 10 years now. But back to the point, girls that are hardcore in trying to get everything they can from a man, don't even know better half the time b/c that's all they saw growing up or that is all they were around.

OnDaReal · 1 year ago

I'm sorry, but the way I see it, you get what your looking for, or paying for, or however you'd like to put it. I have no symapthy for a chick who's talking about being a real woman, but your dating a hustla? Who does this? Give me a break. This is why things are the way they are. Hustlas rule the world... At least "our" (black folks) world anyway.

Riddle me this: I'm a black male, just hitting 30, business owner, well established, mature, college educated on the graduate level, and by all accounts I'm a good looking, muscular, 6'4 guy...

I can't find a chick to compliment me to save my life...

I'm in Miami and all the chicks I've run into basically meet me for my looks, talk to me based on potential, and then fade away because I don't have golds in my mouth, I don't care to put 24's on my ride, and I don't have some stank ass dreads looking like Lil Wayne... I'm sorry, I have no sympathy for sistas now-a-days. Most of them would'nt know a good man if he walked up to them and spit in their eye...

Yea so.... · 1 year ago

Late addition to this post, but I have to say I can agree to some points in this post maybe most but I can't get behind some of these comments because I am an educated woman on the graduate level I am very independent can't say I'm one of the chicks that has to have a man but I have been considered "easy" back in the day and sometimes even now depends on how I feel but I don't do it for the status or what a man can give me sometimes I just want to be the one who controls the situation it makes me feel empowered in a way just to know that I'll probably fuck you and never call but I understand that karma will probably come back to me on the things that I have done past and present but I can honestly say I tried, when I first started dating, to be that great woman, that woman who did anything for her man but being that I started in college and most college guys don't feel the need for relationships when its being tossed at them in every direction I was taken for granted and cheated on so after being naive for a period I time I learned from it and stopped being stupid. I can't say that I've met a good man there was one that I thought was great but turned out to be a manipulative bastard who also cheated but lied about it until I just said fuck it maybe its the guys I'm attracted to or maybe its me and how it takes me a while to open up and most guys aren't patient in that aspect... and my last guy before i decided to lock up the cookie jar was a lying bastard so yeah ... no good guy for me so I don't know would you still consider me a bitch.