DISQUS

Lili · 7 months ago

Oh maaaaaaaaaan...I saw this resurrected clip on another blog, "I run through baby mamas" (*frowning @ the name* lol)...Ridiculous. I almost died when this joint aired.

It's terrible how he treats his women, but dammit...when a man tells you he's an ol' school G'- BELIEVE HIM!

Lili · 7 months ago

Great post Xilla!
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"I know I need a woman in my life, a woman who can complete me, and help me achieve the tremendous success I am destined for.

Yet a lot of times I come across women who are so selfish that they can’t see my hard work is for the best of us. "

^^You know, it's very rare to come across young men who think this way. What I've been seeing (of course this could just be an age thing: 22-25) with myself, friends and guys we've dated...most guys are so focused on what they're doing and want to accomplish, they don't really think about their significant others and what they bring to their lives presently, let alone how what they're trying to do can benefit the couple (again, that's something I believe is reserved for individuals who are a little older than me).
I'm totally fine with being in love and doing what I gotta do for myself, while my S.O. does the same...but hell, that seems to be too hard for some guys.


It seems like more people want to achieve everything on their own nowadays. That's fine, and completely doable, but I think the ride is that much sweeter when you can turn to your partner and recognize what you both have accomplished individually and as a unit. Just knowing you have someone who is there through the good times and bad...I don't know...I think the number of people who appreciate relationships like that is dwindling...

taut_7 · 7 months ago

wow. is dude really an old school g though? not really.

HeadMistress · 7 months ago

Beating and cheating are definite deal breakers for me

thejadednyer · 7 months ago

That video... LMAO! I cannot deal with these two.

As for your post, I only have one thing to say: don't look for someone to complete you. Look for someone to complement you.

Only YOU can complete YOU, and no one wants to be with an incomplete human.

And so ends my Big Momma advice... god... I just showed my age LOL

ink · 7 months ago

wow. i was so shocked by that video. my mouth was literally hanging open towards the end of it.
ok, arguments do happen, and nothing is perfect. however, verbal and physical abuse of any kind should never be tolerated.
i think the diff btw arguments and abuse is that arguments are to make a point, and to take a relationship forward, while abuse is to tear the other person down and force them to your demands.
i hope xilla finds a chick who wont throw hell when he has to work, or play with his kids... as women we just have to find a balance between making our needs known and being unreasonable.
as for the man in the vid, he was just wrong, and for the 2 women, they obviously dont love themselves enough to walk away...
waiting is worth it baby, dont rush into nethin too sers...

toronto · 7 months ago

you have to understand that women who tolerate this kind of behavior accept it because their tolerance comes from a place of deeper scarring. they didnt just wake up one morning with such messed up judgment. it takes a lot of work for someone to get to that point where they are so far removed from the basic principles of what is acceptable and unacceptable.

you have your:
daddy issues, mommy issues, she was probably used to seeing similar relationships since she was a child, or she has been in a constant cycle of dating no good men. and the most common of all LOW SELF ESTEEM

you'd be shocked to see what you are capable of if you let your self esteem drop to dangerously low levels. it ain't pretty and with enough bad encounters it can happen to any of us

FanceeFoxx · 7 months ago

He is an old man with a big ego and don't let him fool you he all mouth probably. Xilla, I know what you mean about that corner pocket. Cuz that old man so abusive in the video -I feel sorry for him if he get sick or have to go to jail he want have neither one of them women in his corner.

Your blog topics are off the chain. Now to menton your page's image projected- your ease of graphics- the way you look in print is so professional. I don't know if you can -but right now I can't see how you could get any better. You practically own the net,Xilla.

nynikki · 7 months ago

Men who think a woman can't do nothing for them usually end up with women who don't give a damn about them. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy. As for Jay-Z saying Bleek > his wife, it's fucked up but that's between Jay and B.

Xilla, do you let your woman know that you're down for her? Usually a woman is a lot more understanding of a man's time away from home when she knows for sure there's an "us/we" thang goin' on. (From a woman once accused of being unappreciative.)

magoo · 7 months ago

As far as the clip goes, if he was a real g he would have made her ass get in the car.

As far as the post, I kinda feel you on the women being selfish but everyone is out for themselves now and days, so personally I kind of expected. I do agree with another poster in thinking that you should find someone to complement you but even thats difficult, good luck to you and as soon as you stop looking you'll find her(thats the bu!!$hit that say, don't know how much truth is in that but I'm done looking).

maymajesty · 7 months ago

Lmao. This is one of the few cheaters episodes that I actually saw. I was speechless then and I'm speechless now.

Xilla, I can see that you're lonely cuz you have been mentioning it quite a bit in the last few weeks. I don't know your past, and you seem like a really cool guy, but dare I say you might be suffering from a bit of the big K (karma). I am a believer, and had to learn the hard way that what comes around goes back around. I think eventually you will find your mate and be happy as a lamb. Don't give up.

I do believe in love. I'm soon to be back on the market after a failed marriage of an 11yr relationship. I was not shown an example of a good relationship, and I had to figure out what my needs and wants are. Sadly, my soon-to-be-ex didn't fit most of it. I was in such a rush to be in a relationship, that I let my standards slip and I didn't see (didn't want to) some flags that I should have seen. Whew now that that's off my chest, lol...

SkyBlu · 7 months ago

LOL I watch this show faithfully every week. I remember this crazy arse dude. The ones getting caught always be more upset than the ones that were cheated on. I think he whooped up on her quite a few times which is why she used Cheaters.