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Re: The Switch - How To Date The Friend

Ness — Wed, 18 Mar 2009 13:08:31 -0000

I don't know why either (shrugging my shoulders)

It's obvious that she will never get the wifey title from her ex's bestfriend and she'll never get wifey from her best friend's ex..

She minus well let EVERYONE hit it and make a lil money off of it lol.

Re: The Switch - How To Date The Friend

DaRuler — Wed, 18 Mar 2009 12:27:13 -0000

perfect example the movie "my best friend's girl"..

Re: The Switch - How To Date The Friend

DaRuler — Wed, 18 Mar 2009 12:13:12 -0000

i don't see why other women don't feel the same as you. i mean that's how i look at from a male pov...

Re: The Switch - How To Date The Friend

sunshyne84 — Wed, 18 Mar 2009 01:14:20 -0000

You should wait until they've found someone new, they're less likely to be worried about what u two are doing. It would say it won't work if they were in something serious, but my friend's cousin is dating her ex so hey....maybe you can get lucky!

Re: The Switch - How To Date The Friend

TRJ — Tue, 17 Mar 2009 16:41:10 -0000

agreed that is messy and respect is what determines if a friend will try there hand or not, even with asking

Re: The Switch - How To Date The Friend

SW1 — Tue, 17 Mar 2009 16:29:27 -0000

Yes, thank you TRJ it answers alot. However, i still feel that this should not happen in any circumstances. If i have man as a fuck buddy it still is not cool for my girl to deal with him after. It's too messy.

I could not do that to any of my friends, it boils down to respect for both myself and my friend. It's too darn weird.

Re: The Switch - How To Date The Friend

TRJ — Tue, 17 Mar 2009 16:13:58 -0000

a man can be labeled as a hoe just as a female just not in the same way. yes it is true that if man can have sex with with a girl and her friend then he "pimping" if thats what you want to call it. but its only that way if the girls are cool with it. if the girl and her friend aint with that then dude aint doing nothing and he's labeled a hoe. but for a female it is different. if a girl just want to run through me and my mans then she is a hoe b/c i aint gonna lie me and my mans most likely is gonna be cool with that. however if i date a girl and we brake up then she starts talking to my mans i wont look at her like a hoe neither as pimping but i am going look at you like stupid b/c me and my mans chill with each other almost all the time meaning he is going to be damn near like me. does that make any sense and/or answer any questions?

Re: The Switch - How To Date The Friend

Ness — Tue, 17 Mar 2009 10:32:49 -0000

Lol...good morning to u too!

Re: The Switch - How To Date The Friend

Ness — Tue, 17 Mar 2009 10:30:34 -0000

yeah it can get messy....b/c I've heard plenty of stories.

guys never really understand when we decline b/c we're the one's that will get labeled not them

Re: The Switch - How To Date The Friend

Blacksand — Tue, 17 Mar 2009 08:51:38 -0000

And I'm gettin every drop of it. Now that is how I like to start a morning off!! Good morning beautiful!! (Very Big Smile)!!!

Have a great day!

Re: The Switch - How To Date The Friend

SW1 — Tue, 17 Mar 2009 06:34:03 -0000

Elaborate please....

Re: The Switch - How To Date The Friend

nynikki — Tue, 17 Mar 2009 00:40:14 -0000

Girl, it can get sooo messy. Hell, I wouldn't let a dude holla when I found out he lived in the same bldg as my off & on man. He thought I was buggin', but I knew it wasn't gonna be worth the drama.

Re: The Switch - How To Date The Friend

Ness — Tue, 17 Mar 2009 00:30:57 -0000

lol...tht was crzy for him to think that lol.

I had a situation where I was dealing w/ this guy off & on but ppl (our mutual friends) knew we were 'together'. One day one of his friends tried to holla. And I had to put him in his place...like dude I mess w/ ur boy and u know this...do u think I wud actually get down like that. His reply was that me and dude weren't solid and b/c it was off & on he felt like I should've been w/ him instead of the guy I was dealing with.

It made no sense to me & I told my (on & off) dude and he was a lil upset but he felt like that was his boys character and he knew where to keep him after that.

Re: The Switch - How To Date The Friend

nynikki — Tue, 17 Mar 2009 00:25:15 -0000

And all dude did was holla, he didn't even date my girl. He just thought I'd be happy to be the runner-up...bwahahaha.

Re: The Switch - How To Date The Friend

Ness — Tue, 17 Mar 2009 00:06:18 -0000

Keeping it 100% real...it's just shady especially if ya'll share mutual friends...

Is everyone supposed to be "ok" with u showing up w/ someone ur best friend used to date or show up w/ ur ex-boyfriend best friend....? It's just weird...and what happens if pregnancy happens...it's just too complicated....lol.

Re: The Switch - How To Date The Friend

nynikki — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 23:59:24 -0000

"B/c if the chemistry was there from the jump then I should've picked him instead of the guy who is classified as the ex."

Cosign! Been on the receiving end of an attempted switch and dude got denied for the above reason.

Re: The Switch - How To Date The Friend

Ness — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 23:36:30 -0000

Lol.... hahahahahahaha....

Re: The Switch - How To Date The Friend

TRJ — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 22:38:17 -0000

thats not completely true. its all about the situation and the intentions involved in this situation.

Re: The Switch - How To Date The Friend

TRJ — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 22:29:57 -0000

it wont work b/c my ex has alredy told her friend about all the things i can do, i cant do, my dirt (if any) i do, my flaws, etc...point is she will have certain thoughts (good or bad) about me and what i do based on my ex/her friend. n besides if they are very close friends for one they wouldnt consider doing anything like that and if i was to get with my ex's friend she might be just like my ex

Re: The Switch - How To Date The Friend

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Re: The Switch - How To Date The Friend

Upscale Swagger — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 19:07:18 -0000

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Re: The Switch - How To Date The Friend

Ness — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 18:55:33 -0000

lol..yeah....nice warm caramel drizzling down onto the cone ;)

lol.....

Re: The Switch - How To Date The Friend

divadreams87 — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 18:41:38 -0000

I REALLY wouldn't want to date a guy who's even looked at my girl like that, cause I cant play second choice. Sorry about my ego. Plus from experience the dude always wants to be kissing on me now, but as soon as my girl gets jealous that he's not looking for her attention anymore she wants to start getting it back. Men let their curiosity weaken them so they double dip, or go back to being her pet because they think they were possibly missing something. Then when he realizes its me he really wants, I have no love or second chances. I don't want to be any guy's plaything until he gets to what he " THINKS" is the next best thing.

Re: The Switch - How To Date The Friend

divadreams87 — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 18:31:25 -0000

I hate when guys do this because it takes me having a friendship of some sort with a guy to even think about dating him at all. I am also very sure to end on good terms because friendship means EVERYTHING to me, and just because we cannot work out does not mean I don't still have feelings for you. So although I wish you the best and hope you move on, move on to a chick who's not my girl. Cause then I wont even want to be around yall now or ever. Not because of hate, just that I need time to get used to they idea. At the end I loose two close friends, this shit happens to me all of the time! SMH

Re: The Switch - How To Date The Friend

Blacksand — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 15:53:49 -0000

LOL... you are welcome... a slice of delight.. Oh my, I can see the caramel dripping right now. can you? ummm, ummm, ummm... (i think)...lol.