Absolutely true, you can't be givin it up to just anybody but I think its just as important to know and understand there are times to give it up "appropriately" even if its a one nighter...
Women have obviously become more empowered when it comes to their sexuality but there is a huge difference between a stupid chick who gives it up at the drop of a hat for all the wrong reasons with unrealistic expectations and a woman who decides she doesn't want or is not ready for anything more than just havin her back blown out
If you just need it and you're not in a relationship and you're being safe about it ...then so be it, just don't expect that to turn into anything meaningful
Real women know the value of their P and know when they're dealing with a serious man who wants more than to just hit it, that's when you wait...
yes
· 11 months ago
Isn't that kinda weird though? The guy you really like you make his ass wait meanwhile you messin wit ol boy round the corner.
HeadMistress
· 11 months ago
Oh no! LOL!!! That wouuld be weird, I didn't mean that, well not for myself anyway, I guess some chicks would tho, but I just meant not every guy is made to wait cause the d*ck may be all you want from him
Alex_Delarge_From_Liveagl.com
· 11 months ago
umm..I'm not complaining..if it's easier for me..I aint mad at it (she would have to pass my extensive screening process ofcoarse)...
but I will say this, when I am in the mood for a special girl and would like to start a relationship, I look for females that show interest but on the other hand show that they are bit of challenge..it kind of tells me that they are not a push over, that they are strong willed, and they have morales and values that they hold important
HeadMistress
· 11 months ago
Exactly, when it comes to relationships / "relations" :-) not everyone you deal with is gonna be treated the same, women just have to be smart about how they conduct themselves
shawtydee
· 11 months ago
I, as a single woman, AGREE with you 150%!!! That's what I try to explain to my girl friends and they act like they dont understand anything coming out of my mouth. But that's just the way things are, and its real....
Slim Goodie
· 11 months ago
This is funny, I got a text a while back that said the sexual position formerly known as the 69 is now called the 96 due to inflation the cost of eating out has gone up too high!
Ness
· 11 months ago
You know wht's so funny about this psot?.....last wk sometime I did the whole phone sex thing w/ dude post. And everyone was telling me to sleep w/ dude. And I kept saying that I didn't want to and I wasn't sure yet and I needed more time etc....
This is post is the exact reason why. I value what I have between my legs in more ways than one. "She" is my life line in essence (if we as females think about it). If you don't take care of her then all hell will break loose. She gives life and reproduces for crying out loud. With the pu$$ no of use would be here point blank period. But if u let the wrong person near her, that can equal death especially with all these disease in full effect nowaday. All it takes is one person to give u something that will end ur life in a matter of months.
I value my pu$$y, I don't know about the other chicks out there who give it up for a nickle bag of smoke and a value meal.
She Ra
· 11 months ago
LOL Nick bag and a value meal!
Ness
· 11 months ago
LOL...but u know they do that tho!lol.... Not even a full nickle bag, just a couple of puff, puff, pass and it's str8t to the sak lol....
VIChick
· 11 months ago
Girl I feel you, you can't just pass your blackberry cream to every dude that you meet. I got girlfriends that tell me yea I fucked him and he aint call me back. Me: How long you known him? Her: Well I met him last week when I was at the gas station. Me: Ha Ha Ha, dumb ass what do you expect. I might be a little harsh sometimes but you gotta know the power betwix your legs. My blackberry is my bestfriend, that bitch got my back and I got hers and I know no one else can ever come between us. Because of friends like the ones I got they make the price of pussy plummet.
Ms.Htown
· 11 months ago
This is so true. I have so many friends who sleep around with guys they barely kno, I dont even have enough fingers and toes to count. But I dont sleep around with any random dude. Im single right now and any guy I have had sexual relations with have been my friend first. I do feel that some women think that its a competition. "If I dont give it to him, he'll just go to someone else." I heard this from my sister the other night. And I believe she only knew this guy for a few weeks. If he cant wait until Im ready then he dont need to be with me. Point blank. But I also feel that not only women are whores if they give it up on the first night, or too soon. I also think a man can be a whore if he just stick his sh*t in any p*ssy, when he might not even know her last name. Men need to have some pride in themselves as well!
ChucksFavorite
· 11 months ago
All of my closet guys friends, and my boyfriend are assholes! lol And I love it, because they say what's on their minds and don't hold anything back. this was indeed a very interesting post and I agree with some it and disagree with some of it too. A woman is going to do whatever she wants to do with her goods, whether you agree with it or not. but I have always been the type of woman who KNOWS that what I have, NO amount of money or material things can buy it. NOT FOR SALE!!! I've had men on both sides of the financial coin....and a big dick and deep pockets come a dime a dozen. A lot of women see their nookie as a form of payment..."if i give him some, then he'll buy me this bag...pay my phone bill.....take me shopping.....stay with me." And yes, there are men out there who will do those types of things for it, and there are also men on flip side who could care less how good, or bad, it is. They ain't doin SHIT!! Either you gonna give it to them, or not. and for every one who won't there are 5+ more who will. i wouldn't go as far to say that the "price" has fallen tho. Like I said before, ain't enough money in the world..... i think it depends on the type of women that you're going after. if you looking for cut buddies, then that's what you're gonne get. and please believe that you're not the only one she's "cuttin" but if you're after someone who is about more then what's between her legs, and you're putting out that same positive vibe, then that's what you'll attract.
What I do agree with 100% is the fact that women really don't realize the type of power that they posses. A man can pick and choose all day long til he's blue in the face (and other places too!) but, it's the WOMaN that has the final say as to whether to go along with it or to do otherwise. And a REAL man will respect either decision she makes.
Kee
· 11 months ago
Damn...that's some hella deep sh*t!
OakCliffChick
· 11 months ago
My thing is to each its own. If you like having sex with a dude the first night out with, do you. If you want to make that man wait 2 years, do you. But I do agree with Ant from Chi on the premise that if you hold out for a long time does not mean that dude in the mean time is not gonna do his thang. ESPECIALLY if you met dude at the club. Guess what, before he tried to talk to you, he hollered at 5 girls before AND after you. There's nothing wrong though with holding out though, just know that it's not guaranteed that he's going to value you. Easy women spoil these men into thinking they're suppose to get it the same night. So they walk around trying to holla at every chick so he has options for his "night cap".
Me, personally, I'm in the middle. I don't give it up on the first night, but I sure as hell don't wait months (hell I have needs to...lol)..
She Ra
· 11 months ago
True...Nothing in life is guaranteed...but for me my choice is to wait.
BlogXilla
· 11 months ago
I liken it to, a job... like if you get a job offer thats paying 20 bucks an hour and benefits that start 6 months from now and get another offer paying the same and benefits start from day one which job you plan on taking?
She Ra
· 11 months ago
You relate sex and the value of sex to a job? Wow.
Well if that's the case...I'll use your analogy
What if the job initially makes you wait but you get more room for advancement in the logn run rather than the job that gives you benefits right away but you can never move ahead??
BlogXilla
· 11 months ago
any job paying well is a job worth keeping but a job with better benefits is always a better job, even in the long wrong... but you take the time to examine the job and all it has to offer before making your decesion. It's a lot like sex isn't it? Well if you're not sleeping around recklessly...
All i'm saying is when faced with a choice nine times out of ten we as humans are going to pick the best one for the time being correct?
She Ra
· 11 months ago
That may be part of the problem, we don't think for the long term we only think about the now. I try to think about the bigger picture, what's best in the long run, not just for right now.
Ant_from_Chi
· 11 months ago
I'm of the mind that pussy is priceless so as far as i am concerned it can't drop. We all love sex on some level (I think), but if it's the only hting you're looking for then maybe you need to broaden your horizons. The whole of male/female relations seems so out of wack to me right now. I keep hearing shit like men are the new women and there are no more good men/women out there. It's disheartening. Bottom line is have some respect for yourself, surround yourself with good people and be a good person yourself. Have some decency about yourself and try to always keep it classy. When you do something, ask yourself , "what would my Mama say if she knew I was doing this?" If you answer yourself honestly and you don't like the answer. Fall back, wayyy back. In the end we all have to wake up with ourselves. When you look in the mirror, make sure you can handle the reflection.
ThatchickNik
· 11 months ago
ANT FROM CHI: I REALLY LIKE YOU, MAN. I LOVE AN INTELLIGENT SENSIBLE BROTHA!! PROPS!!
I agree with this post completely ! So much honesty. And the subsequent comments are even better. *ABOUT TO GET REAL MUSHY*: this really makes me smile when we both, male and female, can come together and speak intelligently on a subject that is affecting us. Remember if you have babies, they too will grow up and eventually start to have sex. So its important that we can openly discussing our issues and attempt to right our wrongs for their sakes as well.
WELL DONE!
Ant_from_Chi
· 11 months ago
Thank you. I love an intelligent sensible sista as well.
BlogXilla
· 11 months ago
pimping since pimping been pimping... I wish i had more time to sit here and debate this topic with folks... I'll be checking back in... business calls. What up ANT!!
Ant_from_Chi
· 11 months ago
What up Xilla? I love your blog Bro'. I have been reading it for about 6 months now, but just started adding my little nickles worth. You have a really interesting and diverse collection of people gathered here. I'm digging it. Keep up the good work.
BlogXilla
· 11 months ago
Thanks man I'm just trying to remain a float in this internet world. ..l ol
HeadMistress
· 11 months ago
@ Thatchicknik Re: Ant from Chi....I KNOW RIGHT!!! :)
Sher
· 11 months ago
I never knew pussy had a price for it to even "plummet". Pussy is priceless.. and so is dick honestly.. Well good P&D. But Ill go along with it for a sec. If the price of the pussy thats around you or the pussy you seem to attract has dropped.. There isnt only something wrong with the pussy, there may be something wrong with the dude.
You attract what you put out.
So if you present yourself in a certain way.. You are going to get that in return.
its like when women say (which I hate) "all men are dogs".. or "all my exes are shit.." Well maybe there is something wrong with YOU!!! What you put out attracts dogs, and if all your exes are shit.. then what are you? so if the pussy you are seeing is dropping in price.. or losing its value... or the stock as fallen..lol it has a lot to do with you.
A Real Dude
· 11 months ago
Like Katt said before he went crazy what about you attracts aint shit men!! same apply huh? lmao
Sher
· 11 months ago
basically..
sexyma078
· 11 months ago
100 Kings you tried to clean that up real good at the end but I'm still going to go in on you for all the BS you spewed before it. First of all I love how men always say oh she let me hit it on the first night...oh really so you let her hit on the first night. I think what were finding is women are now on the same page as most men have been for years...we will hit it and quit it with no thoughts about it (sound familiar) and in fact do it better....most of my single female friends now refer to sex as "getting some azz" they are no longer being held back by the fact that society says that we a man sleeps around he's a "mack" or whatever but a woman is considered a "whore" . I mean society's double standard is all through you little rant up there...maybe men need to realize that woman have changed and though you see it differently most woman aint putting up with no bullsh** these days you cant do right ...kick rocks....you want that BIA....have her.....also not all females treat they sh** as a tool to get money some of us are educated and have our own dollars so there never was a price to began with not monetary and as you stated a man can play a part to get some so it's really not even about that it's an attraction and either it's there or its not and no dollar amount will change that
She Ra
· 11 months ago
I don't think he was talking about using it for money literally, the way I took it was that women should value what we have, realize that a man should respect us on all levels BEFORE we give up the good good. And although some women have decided "if a man does it so can I", does that make it right? I personally am not in competition with the sexual prowess of a man (and why would I want to?), and the double standard does exists not that it's right but it's there. 9 times out of 10 A man will look at us as a "whore" (as you used) when we give it up easily. That's just the way it is. Almost ALL of my male friends always say if you want a man to do right by you, keep your legs closed. And these men go from street dudes to corporate dudes, there is some truth in it. IMO
sexyma078
· 11 months ago
And you certainly have a right to your opinion, but in my opinion like he said a man will pretend not to be everything you say you hate just to get it so how seriously can you take the "respect" that is being shown to you when we all know there are other motives...and I agree women should relize there worth but in this posting the worth that he is worried about is Pu*** and thats what I stuck to....I was not speaking about myself (I am married for nine years come next Thursday so none of this applies to me) but if Im speaking on myself my worth ends at what is between my legs I HAVE WAY MORE TO OFFER than good pu**y....but if you are single and tried of all the games that silly men play and decide that there is only one thing a man can offer...screw what society says ( I Mean society at one point said it was okay for black people to be treated as non-citizens so society's mind can be changed) a woman can do with her body..... and if men feel as though the "price" has plummeted than they should step there ish up!!
She Ra
· 11 months ago
Congrats on 9 years!!
I hear what you're saying. I agree there is more to offer than what's between our legs, unfortunatley most men don't realise that, thier quest is rarely to find out what's between our shoulders, but wha't between our legs. So why give it to them so freely and without some sort of standard? I'm single and have rules and regulations that I follow to a tee, when I'm dating, I don't have sex for at least 6 months and I don't budge on that no matter how sexy I think the guy is, that really weeds out the lames lol. True...dudes need to step their game up but we need to make the game a little harder for them. Society can't tell a woman what to do with her body and defintiley it's up to her but she can't be mad if she keeps getting dudes that hit and quit when she gives it up at the drop of a hat.
Ant_from_Chi
· 11 months ago
Why stop at 6 months? Why not make him wait for a year or more? Of course i'm being sarcastic because I find it a bit ridiculous to make someone wait 6 months just to have sex. If someone is honest and true they are going to represent that. If they are full of shit, then they can represent honesty and truth as long as it takes to obtain their objective. Also, I would be curious to know what homeboy is going to be doing with his urges while he waits for your draws to melt off. I'm not trying to front you off or nothing lke that, i just don't understand what the wait is for. I can understand getting to know a guy and holding off before things get physical but damn. 6 months. Sheeeeit, I wish I would.
She Ra
· 11 months ago
Well for one thing...sex isnt the main thing that moves me, I'm into the mental, we need to be friends first, I need to know you you need to know me and from my experiences a person's 'representative' takes a while to fall back and the true person shows themself.
Maybe if folks stopped putting all the importance on sex waiting wouldn't be an issue.
Ant_from_Chi
· 11 months ago
I agree that sex shouldn't be the main thing that moves you, and I spoke to the "representative" thing when I said that if a cat is full of shit they can fool you for months or years on end. I just don't see why you would take sex out of the picture for 6 months if everything else is going seemingly well. What if after the 6 months yall finally get together and you find out that you are not sexually compatible. How long do you think the relationship will last then? I was in a relationship for about 5 years with a woman who I was crazy about everywhere but in the bedroom and eventually it got to me. I just couldn't take it anymore and I ended it. Again, i'm not saying that sex is the most important thing in relationship, i'm just saying what's the wait for? If you're trying to find out all you can about a person, isn't sex part of the investigation? Isn't intimacy just as important in a relationship as whether or not he/she is respectable? If you're withholding the sex for six months, i'm curious about what other aspects of the relationship you're keeping to yourself.
She Ra
· 11 months ago
Why is sex such an important issue for you? You had a good relationship and ended it over sex?? Really? Was it that serious? That seems very surface to me. For me it's a personal choice and I tell that straight up at the start, if he's down then he knows what the deal is, if not no hard feelings he can go, no loss to me. Why would not having sex off the bat mean I am withholding other aspects of myself? I am not defined by sex and I don't define my relationships by sex, I have alot more to me than p*ssy. What's the wait for?? Why not wait? Didn't people wait for marriage before they had sex?? Sex complicates and distorts things when it happens to soon, at least in my experiences, and I can only speak for myself. If you can't wait, that's up to you, do you homie! I just know for me it works.
Ant_from_Chi
· 11 months ago
Sex is not just an important issue for me. It's probably an important issue for you as well. I'm not saying jump in the bed with a cat just cause you feeling him, nor am I saying you are or should be defined by sex. I'm just curious about what magical thing is going to happen in six months and why only 6. I'm just wondering what made you decide on that number. Was it just an arbitrary decision? Hope I didn't touch a nerve sweetie. That wasn't my intention and if Ihave said something here that has offended you, sorry. That also wasn't my intention.
As far as that relationship. Hell yeah I ended it. I tried everything I could to get things rocking and after a while I realized that it just wasn't going to happen. So before I went and started tricking off, I ended it. What can I say, as much as I like stimulating conversation, compatability, respect and all those other wonderful things. At the end of the day I wanna fuck, and I'm nasty.
Good luck to you.
She Ra
· 11 months ago
It's all love Ant, no hard feelings at all. We just agree to disagree.
I came up with that number based on some questions I had asked my male friends about dating and when is a good time to have sex. They all said about 6 months, so I took thier advice. You're right it was better to end your relationship then cheat on her, that would have hurt her more.
Ant_from_Chi
· 11 months ago
No question. It's all love. And I don't think we totally disagree. I was just wondering about the length and now you've answered that.
Thoney Gangstasweet
· 11 months ago
I really enjoyed the back and forth between you and She Ra. I'm from the go, I'm a freak [most virgos are i've been told.even though we won't give it up to just just anybody, we dont wait 1/2 a dang year]
I don't understand men here. Ant, i like your forward nature, and I'm going to aks you str8 up why don't brown skinned sistas get love here? I am 5'7 160lbs[thick flat stomach] I am pretty cute and put most in the mind of Gabrielle Union[will fwd a pic at your request] I can not get a date in chicago. when i go to nawlins, n-y, or even miami or la i'ma star. i've had men offer to buy my life just to sample the goods[and i bout shoulda said yes had i known ian inevitable lay off was coming lol take me higha LAWD where is dude now lol] any who it bothers me that men here will deal with fighting and fronting and all kinds of monkeydoodlefoolishness if the girl is light or has a big booty. i recently spoke with some of my guys and my cousin[all of which are currently dealing with light skinded sociopaths] and they said "you are intimidating. a nigga see you and think 'i'ma have to take her somewhere nice and then she prolly don't get down.' i'm tired of it. so much so i've had to take to internet dating just to find a brotha. WTF?! i'm so over it. seriously! help me out?! White men here worship me, and while I love being treated like a woman, i am not as physically attracted to them. should i hooch up my attire? start payin niggas what?!?! lol i mean i've been bred to conduct myself with class, but i'm not a stranja to watching the game [and enjoying it] or headin to Uncle Remu's chicken and watchin it go down on Madison....i don't get it! lol
p.s. i used a bit more slang for emphasis. i'm not this ignorant while donning my mask for the "othas" i just like to let loose round the brothas. ;D
Ant_from_Chi
· 11 months ago
I can't answer the question why don't dark skinned sista's get love here in the Chi. I actually didn't even know that was the case. What side of town do you live on? I just happen to have just gotten back in town. I have some free time so get at me, let's get a cocktail or something. We can discuss this light skin dark skin issue.
Ant_from_Chi
· 11 months ago
I'm not sure if I can reply to this email, but if you get this, I think we should meet. Maybe I can help restore your hope in the brothers in the Chi. At least in one of them. For what it's worth, I am having a bitch of a time with the ladies here in Chicago myself. I was born and raised in the Chi, but have also live in L.A. San Francisco, New York, Philly and a few other places. This has done some things to me I guess as I don't seem to really fit in here anymore. I don't give a fuck though. I love my city. Send me that pic and let's get a drink or something.
Thoney Gangstasweet
· 11 months ago
look at u trying to hook up with me! i'm down. you MUST write a wonderful review of my everything though post meeting lol hit me at tstompkins on gmail and we'll see what's what....i live in the hood on the wesside but i'm from the burbs. no matter where i am my color sistas and darker don't get love. in the burbs brothas marry women like my mom[racially ambiguous lol] or white. i'd like to see a dark sista gettin that money and family, but it seems damn near impossible here. u truly have to be a michelle ol'bama or something! cute, bangin body, super job, well connected, etc just to possibly have a slim chance. thas fugged up! lol
Ant_from_Chi
· 11 months ago
Speak of it Ma.
She Ra
· 11 months ago
This is REAL talk! I agree 100% with this post!! Women need to really stop throwing p*ssy around like a frizbee, just hoping some dude will catch it. Especially coming from a guy, ladies we need to pay attention to what guys tell us about certain things, alot of the time it's on point.
A Real Dude
· 11 months ago
this is on point!! Classic
Sher
· 11 months ago
I wanted to add, there is someone for everyone.. You have women who put a price on the pussy which DOES make their value drop, and their ok with that. Yet have men who are ok with that. Then you have females who DONT put a price on the pussy and holds onto it for dear life and doesnt "give it up".. for material things.and you have men who understand, respect and love that.
So for the chicks who put the price on it and allow their value to drop.. I would NEVER say they need to change or stop what they are doing. If that makes you happy DO YOU, cuz honestly yall are VERY necessary in this world. Plus, yall make me (and females like me) feel better and make my stock RISE.. So keep on, keep keeping on :) *deuces*
Breezy
· 11 months ago
this post left me kind of speechless.I see girls throwing their shit around left and right to any dude that shows the slighest bit of attention. Just because he says 'hello' doesn't mean you owe him anything Ladies. I agree that many females don't know their worth and look for some dude for some type of confirmation. but not to point blame but if a chick is giving it up to you dudes, you know you have the option of turing it down. If she down to giving it up right away, chances are, it isnt that great (just my opinion)
M.Y.
· 11 months ago
I agree. he is an asshole but what he had to say is so damn true..that is why i believe my ish is priceless and other woman should carry the same mind frame...
there are many duplicates of this idiot in our world and we just need to know how to weed their weak asses out. Personally, i am not down with one night stands and sex on the first date..i made my b/f wait for 5 months and before that we were friends. Men like the chase and the fact that relationships are played down and the media amping up a whole lot of sex ads making us all horny ain't helping either. Its a sense of maturity that comes with the thought of wanting to be commited..remember that thing called relationship and monogamy?! Although I don't agree with the whole "price on p****y bit what he has to say with the level of women giving it up just to give it up and not understanding and seeing themselves as precious jewels has defenitely deteriorated sex really isn't everything **ducking behind table**
BlogXilla
· 11 months ago
LMAO!! 100 kingz is an ass but thats my brother!! lol he keeps it a hunnid!! CHEA!!! lol
Smooches
· 11 months ago
Where can I find this guys blog? I like him, he is so real.
BlogXilla
· 11 months ago
you can find his blog here on my blog. You remember the 13 reason to avoid dating single mothers?
TruthseekerTruthspeaker
· 11 months ago
Actually Dear One, there is nothing assholish about you, you are simply speaking the truth. I guess your delivery could be why you're labeled as an asshole but I digress...
Women have truly bought into the bogus theory that there are not many good men around and that when you run into one who seemingly has head on straight, by all means please him the best way that you can before someone else does and he bounces. What I have found to be true about men is that though you have had your minds white-washed and manipulated by the illusion (or better yet delusion) and imagery created by the entertainment industry about what kind of woman that you want, you truly still want someone who is internally a church girl but externally a what's the term y'all use?? Banger? While simultaneously, we women have bought into the same deluded imagery leading women to emulate the behavior of what they THINK men really want yet misunderstanding that men only the facade of that illusion.
Though a bit disjointed, all I am saying is that you are right. Women are the gamechangers and don't even know it. Demand more, stop sucuumbing to your insecurities and your lust and you might actually find yourself with a man who was an asshole before he met a chick that made him actually understand that the best things never come easy and with hard work and humility he can have the best...you.
She Ra
· 11 months ago
Your name fits perfectly!! This is so true and so well put.
zzzzzzzzzz
· 11 months ago
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BlogXilla
· 11 months ago
very cleaver...
CC
· 11 months ago
This is true...and a little funny at the same time. Both sexes are to blame. I am a woman who hasn't forgotten the value of my assets. There is always going to be that one person who I just lose my mind over, but I will check him if he seems like he wants to degrade me. For all other men it's priceless. They usually can't spend enough time and money. I'm a little on the gold digger status too so you know how that goes.
Melz
· 11 months ago
Yo , I gotta say man, you touched on some good issues here. I've had this discussion with my girl and something I've noticed is the increasing number of independent women out there who put their careers first and sometimes just need a nut. In desperate need of that nut they fun a real dick slinger who brakes them off and then she don't want to get rid of him even though he ain't shit! So what I'm saying is that she let herself be devalued. It's the classic example of role reversal.
SassyScorpio
· 11 months ago
What's crazy is that most women nowadays have flip the script and are sick of the good for nothing men in there lives and just want to get off like men. Why bother with the BS of having a boyfriend/husband who in the end will cheat. I once had a man tell me "Men aren't supposed to be with one woman, we are meant to have many"....needless to say he got dropped like a bad habit, but I wonder do most men think like this and do we as women condone it? I, myself don't do relationships. Its a waste, but I also don't just give it up to anyone.
But for those who don't think like me it all comes down to a woman knowing her worth.
circa-81
· 11 months ago
As a man what I have observed since being a teen in the nineties and in my twenties in the new millineum. Inhibitions have perised leading to a more sexually liberal woman. Women are more likely to be as sexually aggressive as men these days because of their business mindstate. They would rather chase their money than chase men around. It's the exact same mentality that we as men carry; focus on your biz (for the smart ones amoung us) and treat the p*ssy as a second or third priority. I don't thinks this is all bad. Women being able to distinguish emotions from lust, and men benefiting from that. Now as for the dumb broads out there; well some people are just "suckers for love."
Lady
· 11 months ago
i agree with you a hundred and ten percent! i do not think that you are a butthole, you are a realist. i tell my girls all the time make a man work for you. coochie is like the american dollar in foreign lands, it has no value. we are looking for a bail out and it is not an easy one. quit being so pressed for a dude just because he is cute or drives a nice car. i once was that chic i described but no longer. i got nothing out of the deal. when you know better, you do better.
LovelyK
· 11 months ago
Kudos! Females ARE giving it out like free toys with the happy meals these days... im not going to lie... i've been one to lay down with a guy for the wrong reasons mayb twice... but seeing articles like this and after feelin like **** afterwards has made me feel otherwise. Just to know how easy it is to catch something or end up pregnant at 21... made me stop and think that these dudes aren't worth me struggling to be infected or to be raising a damn child this young at my age. That's why all these young people my age... like 19-21 are birthing out kids faster than rabbits because there is no value when it comes to sex these days.. and that **** is really sad...
Thoney Gangstasweet
· 11 months ago
you are amazing. i've never read your blog before and i loved this article. i too am a regular asshole and oddly enough vagina prices are soaring in othaland. brothaville ain' buying it, but the market's way more favorable among white test subjects lol i know that i'm a nuke[the bomb] and refuse to give up to ol anybody. i wish more women felt the same way! keep writing cuz i'd be reading!
Dina09
· 11 months ago
This all too funny but all too real. You are putting alot of women and men up on some game. This is the world we living in now and this ish happens everyday. I had followed a link from necole b*itchie and i will come to your site often as a matter of fact i think i just registered.
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Women have obviously become more empowered when it comes to their sexuality but there is a huge difference between a stupid chick who gives it up at the drop of a hat for all the wrong reasons with unrealistic expectations and a woman who decides she doesn't want or is not ready for anything more than just havin her back blown out
If you just need it and you're not in a relationship and you're being safe about it ...then so be it, just don't expect that to turn into anything meaningful
Real women know the value of their P and know when they're dealing with a serious man who wants more than to just hit it, that's when you wait...
but I will say this, when I am in the mood for a special girl and would like to start a relationship, I look for females that show interest but on the other hand show that they are bit of challenge..it kind of tells me that they are not a push over, that they are strong willed, and they have morales and values that they hold important
This is post is the exact reason why. I value what I have between my legs in more ways than one. "She" is my life line in essence (if we as females think about it). If you don't take care of her then all hell will break loose. She gives life and reproduces for crying out loud. With the pu$$ no of use would be here point blank period.
But if u let the wrong person near her, that can equal death especially with all these disease in full effect nowaday. All it takes is one person to give u something that will end ur life in a matter of months.
I value my pu$$y, I don't know about the other chicks out there who give it up for a nickle bag of smoke and a value meal.
I might be a little harsh sometimes but you gotta know the power betwix your legs. My blackberry is my bestfriend, that bitch got my back and I got hers and I know no one else can ever come between us. Because of friends like the ones I got they make the price of pussy plummet.
What I do agree with 100% is the fact that women really don't realize the type of power that they posses. A man can pick and choose all day long til he's blue in the face (and other places too!) but, it's the WOMaN that has the final say as to whether to go along with it or to do otherwise. And a REAL man will respect either decision she makes.
Me, personally, I'm in the middle. I don't give it up on the first night, but I sure as hell don't wait months (hell I have needs to...lol)..
Well if that's the case...I'll use your analogy
What if the job initially makes you wait but you get more room for advancement in the logn run rather than the job that gives you benefits right away but you can never move ahead??
All i'm saying is when faced with a choice nine times out of ten we as humans are going to pick the best one for the time being correct?
I agree with this post completely ! So much honesty. And the subsequent comments are even better. *ABOUT TO GET REAL MUSHY*: this really makes me smile when we both, male and female, can come together and speak intelligently on a subject that is affecting us. Remember if you have babies, they too will grow up and eventually start to have sex. So its important that we can openly discussing our issues and attempt to right our wrongs for their sakes as well.
WELL DONE!
Pussy is priceless.. and so is dick honestly.. Well good P&D.
But Ill go along with it for a sec.
If the price of the pussy thats around you or the pussy you seem to attract has dropped.. There isnt only something wrong with the pussy, there may be something wrong with the dude.
You attract what you put out.
So if you present yourself in a certain way.. You are going to get that in return.
its like when women say (which I hate) "all men are dogs".. or "all my exes are shit.."
Well maybe there is something wrong with YOU!!! What you put out attracts dogs, and if all your exes are shit.. then what are you?
so if the pussy you are seeing is dropping in price.. or losing its value... or the stock as fallen..lol
it has a lot to do with you.
I hear what you're saying. I agree there is more to offer than what's between our legs, unfortunatley most men don't realise that, thier quest is rarely to find out what's between our shoulders, but wha't between our legs. So why give it to them so freely and without some sort of standard? I'm single and have rules and regulations that I follow to a tee, when I'm dating, I don't have sex for at least 6 months and I don't budge on that no matter how sexy I think the guy is, that really weeds out the lames lol. True...dudes need to step their game up but we need to make the game a little harder for them. Society can't tell a woman what to do with her body and defintiley it's up to her but she can't be mad if she keeps getting dudes that hit and quit when she gives it up at the drop of a hat.
Maybe if folks stopped putting all the importance on sex waiting wouldn't be an issue.
As far as that relationship. Hell yeah I ended it. I tried everything I could to get things rocking and after a while I realized that it just wasn't going to happen. So before I went and started tricking off, I ended it. What can I say, as much as I like stimulating conversation, compatability, respect and all those other wonderful things. At the end of the day I wanna fuck, and I'm nasty.
Good luck to you.
I came up with that number based on some questions I had asked my male friends about dating and when is a good time to have sex. They all said about 6 months, so I took thier advice. You're right it was better to end your relationship then cheat on her, that would have hurt her more.
I don't understand men here. Ant, i like your forward nature, and I'm going to aks you str8 up why don't brown skinned sistas get love here? I am 5'7 160lbs[thick flat stomach] I am pretty cute and put most in the mind of Gabrielle Union[will fwd a pic at your request] I can not get a date in chicago. when i go to nawlins, n-y, or even miami or la i'ma star. i've had men offer to buy my life just to sample the goods[and i bout shoulda said yes had i known ian inevitable lay off was coming lol take me higha LAWD where is dude now lol] any who it bothers me that men here will deal with fighting and fronting and all kinds of monkeydoodlefoolishness if the girl is light or has a big booty. i recently spoke with some of my guys and my cousin[all of which are currently dealing with light skinded sociopaths] and they said "you are intimidating. a nigga see you and think 'i'ma have to take her somewhere nice and then she prolly don't get down.' i'm tired of it. so much so i've had to take to internet dating just to find a brotha. WTF?! i'm so over it. seriously! help me out?! White men here worship me, and while I love being treated like a woman, i am not as physically attracted to them. should i hooch up my attire? start payin niggas what?!?! lol i mean i've been bred to conduct myself with class, but i'm not a stranja to watching the game [and enjoying it] or headin to Uncle Remu's chicken and watchin it go down on Madison....i don't get it! lol
p.s. i used a bit more slang for emphasis. i'm not this ignorant while donning my mask for the "othas" i just like to let loose round the brothas. ;D
For what it's worth, I am having a bitch of a time with the ladies here in Chicago myself. I was born and raised in the Chi, but have also live in L.A. San Francisco, New York, Philly and a few other places. This has done some things to me I guess as I don't seem to really fit in here anymore. I don't give a fuck though. I love my city.
Send me that pic and let's get a drink or something.
You have women who put a price on the pussy which DOES make their value drop, and their ok with that. Yet have men who are ok with that.
Then you have females who DONT put a price on the pussy and holds onto it for dear life and doesnt "give it up".. for material things.and you have men who understand, respect and love that.
So for the chicks who put the price on it and allow their value to drop.. I would NEVER say they need to change or stop what they are doing. If that makes you happy DO YOU, cuz honestly yall are VERY necessary in this world. Plus, yall make me (and females like me) feel better and make my stock RISE.. So keep on, keep keeping on :) *deuces*
there are many duplicates of this idiot in our world and we just need to know how to weed their weak asses out. Personally, i am not down with one night stands and sex on the first date..i made my b/f wait for 5 months and before that we were friends. Men like the chase and the fact that relationships are played down and the media amping up a whole lot of sex ads making us all horny ain't helping either. Its a sense of maturity that comes with the thought of wanting to be commited..remember that thing called relationship and monogamy?! Although I don't agree with the whole "price on p****y bit what he has to say with the level of women giving it up just to give it up and not understanding and seeing themselves as precious jewels has defenitely deteriorated sex really isn't everything **ducking behind table**
Women have truly bought into the bogus theory that there are not many good men around and that when you run into one who seemingly has head on straight, by all means please him the best way that you can before someone else does and he bounces. What I have found to be true about men is that though you have had your minds white-washed and manipulated by the illusion (or better yet delusion) and imagery created by the entertainment industry about what kind of woman that you want, you truly still want someone who is internally a church girl but externally a what's the term y'all use?? Banger? While simultaneously, we women have bought into the same deluded imagery leading women to emulate the behavior of what they THINK men really want yet misunderstanding that men only the facade of that illusion.
Though a bit disjointed, all I am saying is that you are right. Women are the gamechangers and don't even know it. Demand more, stop sucuumbing to your insecurities and your lust and you might actually find yourself with a man who was an asshole before he met a chick that made him actually understand that the best things never come easy and with hard work and humility he can have the best...you.
But for those who don't think like me it all comes down to a woman knowing her worth.
im not going to lie... i've been one to lay down with a guy for the wrong reasons mayb twice... but seeing articles like this and after feelin like **** afterwards has made me feel otherwise. Just to know how easy it is to catch something or end up pregnant at 21... made me stop and think that these dudes aren't worth me struggling to be infected or to be raising a damn child this young at my age. That's why all these young people my age... like 19-21 are birthing out kids faster than rabbits because there is no value when it comes to sex these days.. and that **** is really sad...