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Re: The Obligations Of A Main Chick

MisterO1201 — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 23:34:54 -0000

I think it's nonsense! If you start off doing it you should finish that way; when it comes too sex. There are some things that automatically drop off, but you shouldn't start off doing things you really don't like in the beginning. If you don't like giving head then you shouldn't do it in the beginning. If you don't like eating p.... then you shouldn't do it in the beginning either.

that is false advertising and anyone who does that should lose their title as soon as it is discovered. if you don't have enough confidence to show the person you are in the beginning then shame on you!

That doesn't make any sense to me. Why would you do something that you don't like to impress someone new!?

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nubiangoddez — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 15:36:33 -0000

Been there done that!! the main chick should do everything required to keep it spicy, personally I'm a freak with my man, and have explored many options including poligamy, 3way's, stripping. I don't do anything I'm uncomfortable with, what I have a problem with is a man who's never satisfied no matter what you do. the reality is women don't have to turn themselves inside out to please a guy. if he moral and values to respect his union he won't go outside. women who say they won't do this or that is giving him a greenlight to cheat, now baring some crazy s*it like brining a goat in the bedroom, pissing on me, s*itting on me and other deviant crazyass stuff that serves no purpose to getting a nut. I'm down. just don't expect me to put up with mediocre sex, while you wanna creep and bringing back home STD"s. I just ended a 4 yr relationship with a man who got all the sex anyway, anytime he wanted. he got everything he claimed he never got in his last relationship, but was still creeping. I just dropped him like a hot potato. cause the reality is, I made the sex exciting he was mediocre and if I can put up with some mediocre sex and not cheat, you have no excuse. it seems women are expected to bust their ass to stay in shape, keep it fresh and exciting in the bedroom, when in reality 98% or men are completely clueless in bed and how to please a woman. 98% of women lie to men to stoke their ego's, fake orgasm or have to develop a fertile imagination to get off. while he lets himself go and can be halfassed in bed and still want to cheat. bottom line is men need to step up their game, how many men you know in their late 20, 30, and 40 body already shot to hell, and I'm supposed to bend over backwards to keep that and accept side hoing too. hell naw keep that ish moving. if men want women to keep interested don't cheat, don't come home with nasty smelling d*ck wanting a blowjob, don't bring home STD"S and expect me to still be sexually interested in you. the number one reason women get turned off, is knowing their man is cheating. a woman is she's not in denial always knows, you don't meet a women who loves sex and then a couple years down the road is turned off by dude. can't have it both ways. so until men realize that most women are getting tired of settling and won't put up with their mess then they will get all the freeky deeky sex their little hearts desires and can handle.

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HappyToBeNappy — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 10:01:34 -0000

The "representative" will do damn near anything to achieve wifey status. She'll pull out everything she ever saw or heard about in a porno. But wifey status is on lock, the "representative" can go away. . .then the real person comes out. That means, she will only do what she wants to do sexually. For some that still means no holds barred.. .but for others, that means she will be all about getting hers & not give a damn about being her man's private whore.

In all honesty, I just wish we could get pass this main chick BS. Why does there have to be a main chick? Why can't a man be happy with just one? That right there is the #1 reason I'm single.

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nynikki — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 15:38:50 -0000

I'm having trouble getting past "main chick" and "wifey". Those terms make my blood boil. I'm either your woman or I'm not. If you're seeing other women then I'm not your woman, I'm just someone you're dating...casually. And wife is legally binding, while "wifey" doesn't mean a damn thing.

That said, sexually I'll do what pleases me (and you, if it's in my comfort zone) regardless of title and I expect the same from a man.

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mika — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 14:11:57 -0000

me myself i believe that the main should keep doing what she did when they met. Thats how you keep your man. Me and my man been together 6years and the things we done when we first met we still do even though we have children. I just dont drink his man juice not me. But doing it outside and being spontaneous and what not keeps everything fresh and keeps yo man from straying. sometimes......

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bknychick86 — Sat, 05 Sep 2009 00:14:10 -0000

i fully agree. It is the main chick or wifey position to do the nastiest of the nastiest in the bedroom. That is what they are to do if they want to keep their man with them. The main chick is to to do things with their man to make him think twice about cheating on her. IF she can do 1 thing that blows his mind, what would make him think that another female can do it the EXACT same way his main chick does it! I agree @ molotovcoqtiz that is a theory. Havent these main chick heard of the infamous advice: "What you dont/cant do, he would find somebody else who will"? The same thing here!

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Re: The Obligations Of A Main Chick

molotovcoqtiz — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 21:09:19 -0000

I think this whole theory is an excuse for those who want to cheat and don't have the maturity level or "game" to simply be honest with the partners that they are dealing with.

I have heard of female friends say that they were cool with their guy going to the gutter chicks to do the "nasty stuff" as one so eloquently put it, I had to break it to her that she's 1) encouraging the low-budget men (& women) who use this as a cop out and 2) In doing so, he'll probably bring her back an std from said women.

I'm like the other posters, I'm glad that I'm in a relationship w/trust with my guy, seeing as this is an ass-backwards theory of not doing certain stuff with the person you chose to be in a relationship with.

To be honest, I don't even understand the whole "main" theory, either you're dating multiple partners; while not being committed to any 1 in particular or you're in relationship... I guess the only way I could see a "main" being justified is if the person is in a swinging relationship.

Right now there are too many things being passed around out there now-a-days, also it seems that more and more, this kind of sub par thinking is actually becoming more and more tolerated & even celebrated.

Re: The Obligations Of A Main Chick

ALMiss — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 18:45:34 -0000

A REAL main chick shouldn't have to be asked to do anything sexual for her man that she did when she wasn't the main, she should do it willingly! One of the perks of being a main is doing things with no strings attached and going all out for your SO. If YOU don't go all out for your man, the jumpoff will try and in some instances, she may just succeed. I hate to say it, but that's just the way it is.

Stop being stingy...you better do that man right! lol

Re: The Obligations Of A Main Chick

EbonyLolita — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 18:18:51 -0000

Yeah this whole theory is ShytBull. Sex is a extension of your physical feelings. There are some ppl you will do 1 thing with that you won't do with another. Getting caught up on Titles is an excuse. I never understood the Madonna/Whore theory but I am aware that many men believe in it. If Im "connected" mentally&physically with a man Imma FuckFiyah outta him, whether he's my Man or Not.

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kikiwest — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 18:01:31 -0000

WOW I never heard of this either... I'm a married woman - he put 2 rings on it- and trust me when I tell you I do it ALL (except other people) for hubby... and I didn't start being so freaky until after i got the ring!!!

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TheDuchess — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 15:54:22 -0000

Turn his boring ass out! Take the D from him while he sleeping or watching t.v. No sexy attire need, just a nice wet mouth for starters.

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TheDuchess — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 15:37:43 -0000

I know that's right! He was a simpleton! Hilarious!

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napps126 — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 15:28:57 -0000

I agree. The main should be the one you try new things with.
Sexual fantasies should be fulfilled with them

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delight — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 15:20:11 -0000

I am the main chick, and I been with this guy for 13 yrs and there is still things I wont and he wont do. My mind is open to new things, Im losing interest cause he so damn boring, but Im willing to try things, there is a lot of things Im still a virgin at........................

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delight — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 15:20:07 -0000

Re: The Obligations Of A Main Chick

sunnydelyte21 — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 14:52:59 -0000

I think the main chick should do everything to pleasure her man. So that he will have no need to get another sideline chick. You can't get lazy because that gives him room to say "If you won't do some other girl will!" I think think she needs to take a comment Katt Williams said "If you know suck ya nigga's dick...he knows a raggedy bitch who will...and we got the bitches number one speed dial" LOL. And that is sooo True

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true2me — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 14:51:46 -0000

come on man..this topic is a no brainer..(no pun intended)

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Guest — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 14:16:27 -0000

My man has been "happily married" for twenty years, but has been with me for the last five. It's not only sex between us, but the way we do is pretty out there, for lack of a better term. It did start out as just sex between us, but over the years it has developed into something more. Three months ago, he filed for divorce and moved in with me. He's now working on the property settlement with her, and everything should be finalized soon. I'm not some idiot woman who thinks that her man will be forever faithful, but I do know that if he does cheat, it has nothing to do with sex.

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Angela Lynnette — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 14:03:41 -0000

The main chick IS the person to do those extras. period point blank. when your the side chick, your supposed to be a bit more reserved, do maybe 1 or 2 extras to lead him to want you on full-time status & once thats acheived you go full throttle, give your man everything he ever dreamed of & THEN some. Watch those porns ! , read those books. look up different things on the net. Wait till I get back into a relationship, he's in for a helluva time ! :) lol

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Angela Lynnette — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 14:03:28 -0000

Re: The Obligations Of A Main Chick

thejadednyer — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 13:56:10 -0000

Ewww... where did you hear such ridiculousness? Must've been from my ex-husband who felt that, because I was the mother of his kids, we couldn't do certain things. It was a factor in my decision to ask for a divorce.

Dear People in Relationships: GET IT TOGETHER! If you're serious about & in love w/someone you shouldn't feel ashamed of asking for or giving out what you want- especially in the bedroom.

Of all the asinine, bullshit ideals... where do people get this crap from? UGH. I blame the Vatican LOL

Re: The Obligations Of A Main Chick

sweetme — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 13:24:56 -0000

I thought the definition of main was to be the one and intense focal point ...sooo if you are the main chick u must fulfill all requirements of that resume....my aunt told me at 17 you better be able to clean his whistle like u clean the kitchen....u dont want him eating at home and getting his desert in the streets....so all the ladies that think u got a ring on it......and dont have to be his nasty gurl ....the side chick has her mouth on it and will keep it there if need be

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slimcute — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 13:23:02 -0000

Do I service my man? Absolutely-why because he "make me wanna" the passion I have for him will let me do anything he want and vise versa. I personally feel like he gota take me there; its all up to him what I would do for him or to him. My man knows that I get off on knowing he feeling good and the icing on the cake is that it make me feel good too. Don't mean he will only come to you (not saying all men cheat or nothing cause I love to thnk my boo is faithful az am too him but.....) it jus guarentees he'll be back.

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Blacksand — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 13:21:48 -0000

The main chick gets it all and does it all. WHENEVER, WHEREVER, WHATEVER. AND THAT'S ALL I'M GONNA SAY!!!!!!!! (My Joe Clark moment)LOL