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Re: The Happy Ending: Stop Crying Over Facebook x Twitter

missgigip — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 20:33:28 -0000

yeah i just went thru a situation..do not dismiss the high school sweetheart..trust me fb is the fuckin devil..if i didnt use it for business purposes and work id close mine..srsly it seems all innocent at first and believe me im not the jealous type but i found way too much info for my own good to believe it was nothing..old feelings get brought back etc."what ifs?" etc...so just be careful..and keep ur eyes open..all im gonna say

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Keli — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 05:26:18 -0000

If you can't trust him enough to be ok with him not putting your relationship status on blast...you just might have a problem. I have a friend who's status said he's in a realtionship, but his girlfriend needed him to link it to her page, so everyone would know who he's in a relationship with...

I mean, I guess. Of course I want to be claimed, but when is is stressing about all the wrong things? So what he's chatting with an ex girlfriend frm high school! big deal!

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stacy — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 13:00:35 -0000

myspace,facebook,and so on most people do get caught up on. I went this similar thing last month. My man/babyfather seen some comments he didnt like on my profile so he went off. But i wasnt doing nothing on there. So i gave him my code. I have nothing to hide, i only log in when im bored and when my children are in bed.

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oshh16 — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 13:17:05 -0000

I was just gonna say why not just be honest whether you on FB, My Space or not..just be honest and some kind of decency about you and they way you treat folk...all of this in regards to your Ex and the techie advice in last paragraph..honey thats irrelevant, if folk operated correctly period.

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TheDuchess — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 12:24:02 -0000

Just be SURE to learn the lesson that GOD presented to you!

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new2this — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 11:38:05 -0000

I know, right! During the time after the break up (which I sent to him via a Myspace message to let him know that by the time he read the letter, we would have already been broken up and how hurt I was), I made sure to be tested for STDs and every three months for HIV/AIDS. Being with him compromised my well being... after the time that has passed, I'm still trippin off of the "what if I was HIV-positive or had some other STD"...scary stuff, especially since he was my first.

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TheDuchess — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 11:27:20 -0000

I agree! I think all of them are juvenile! I would be DAMNED if I let folks know what I do on a day to day hour to hour basis.. When will folks grow the F up?

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TheDuchess — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 11:25:45 -0000

WOW!! Luckily you found out before the mfer gave you some incurrable ish!! Cheating ass dudes are just insecure mfers!! Keep it 100 DUDE!!

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TheDuchess — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 11:21:32 -0000

I sooo agree with you!!

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new2this — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 11:20:13 -0000

...and FB is too much. Anytime I can see wives asking FB friends how they feel about giving anal sex to their men, THAT's a problem. I'm pretty sure not many men want their wives friends to know that he likes his ass plugged in the bedroom.

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new2this — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 11:18:46 -0000

Since myspace is becoming synonymous with cheating, Facebook is taking over its place..."Oh, baby, it's just a facebook page for me to connect with my friends from college/high school." Since I'm not in a relationship, it doesn't bother me, but I'll share my Myspace nightmare, anyways.

To make a long story short, I found out, within a few weeks, that my bf at the time had two babies, was living with one of the BMs (who he told me was his cousin and used to call her using my cell phone), was going by a completely different name (ladies, KNOW the man's name/see his ID, SSN before having kids with him b/c taking a fake ass name to child support court is NOT a good look), and to boot, was considering being a booty pirate just to get money, drive a Tahoe (that belonged to some DL dude on Myspace), and get a cell phone...THAT was the straw that broke the camel's back...this dude was a cheating ass, lying ass, bi-sexual ass (I saw the messages), fathering two kids under the age of one even though we were together for two years ass, asshole. **WHEW!, that felt good to get off of my chest**

(look, I knew it was wrong to go through his myspace messages from jump, but I was 20 and young-minded at time time and he gave me the password b/c he said I could trust him (dumb fuck; I wouldn't even had checked it if he hadn't been texting all through a few of our dates)

Said all of that to say this: Cheating on someone you claim to love or care for is wrong; but, if it must be done, do it the old-fashioned way..technology is no longer your friend. These social networking sites can cause major drama for cheaters/flirters/curious ppl. I mean, imagine if I was really spiteful and crazier and put him on BLAST (printed his messages to the men, called his BM that he was contacting from my phone, etc...); so much could have gone wrong.

Since then (this was almost 3 years ago now), I've decided that if I ever feel like I'm being played, I just need to walk away...sometimes the truth is too much to handle.

Oh, and, relationships work better (IMO), if one person is less technologically-inclined (through social networking). If your s/o doesn't have a FB page or twitter account, 9 times outta 10, they won't care what you do on yours and u'll have a little (or LOT) less drama caused by jealousy.

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true2me — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 10:00:29 -0000

facebook is turning into the new myspace..friend requests from dudes I never met and we dont have any mutual friends...GET A LIFE..Im not giving you no FB Booty...

Re: The Happy Ending: Stop Crying Over Facebook x Twitter

HeadMistress — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 00:34:24 -0000

LOL...

It is so ridiculous how people get all caught up over FB bullshyt...

FB is supposed to be fun, if it's causing drama in your life you need to deactivate your account