My unintentional sexual fast is bordering 6 years now. It wasn't tough for me at the beginning & it still isn't that crazy on my psyche now. Every once in awhile I'll get weak when I peep a fat ass, some luscious boobies, or a triple threat chick that passes my way. In the end though I have always maintained pretty good self -control with all of my appetites. There has never been a time when the head on my shoulders didn't have dominance over the head down below.
kimberlee
· 1 year ago
I am now on 5 years 10 month celibacy stint. On Purpose. I was like that for the first 9 months. I was irritable, but I was under control with mines. I only directed hatred towards the ones who deserved it. After the 9 months I stopped the mastrubation. I felt it was really not a help, and was just not turned on. I am not attracted to myself. lol
Now it doesn't bother me a bit. I work too much, and go to school and I have a family... so it is not really something I have time to think about. I am not trying to be stuck up, or just celibate because I can't get none. I am celibate even when I had someone laying next to me to jump. Cuz you got some people screaming they celibate... then when they laying next to someone they not celibate anymore. No, I am really celibate, even when I had a man laying next to me sexy as hell and smelling good.
When I meet that one I feel that is worth making some love to... I will. Until then... I am good. No drama, no health scares, no stalkers, no bullshit. This is my decision.
Princess0889
· 1 year ago
I just started about 3months ago I don't think my personality has changed much. But that could just be because I just started
Kee
· 1 year ago
SO FUNNY!!!! Its been 1year and 19days for me...
Killa
· 1 year ago
2 years and it didn't bother me at all. I'm currently back on a sabbatical, I've actually lost interest in sex. Too me it's just not that serious.
Mz k
· 1 year ago
I'm on a year and it's not doing anything to me. I'm not Horny nothing. I do feel sorry for my husband tho and my mood is fine im just so tired i don't even notice
VIChick
· 1 year ago
Dang one year and your married? Wow, what prompted you to stop having sex?
Mz k
· 1 year ago
Well we do have kids i spend the whole day running around and having no privacy by the night reach we all dead asleep
Ant_from_Chi
· 1 year ago
WHAT?
napps126
· 1 year ago
wow....when ur married ur not having sex?
Mz k
· 1 year ago
not really by choice
I Stay SMH
· 1 year ago
Lawd...I do feel sorry for my husband though. hoooooo!
power to ya, Mama
how old are the babies?
VIChick
· 1 year ago
The longest I have gone without sex was maybe 6 months. In that time I got "addicted" to porn and mastrbated like 4 times a day depending on what day it was. That was one of th hardest things I had to do. I tried the celibacy thing again recently but then I met this guy and after 3 weeks I was back to fucking. I can't help it, I am weak to the flesh of a beautiful dick.
Radio Girl
· 1 year ago
A beautiful dick will have you doing anything.
Miss Cocoa Luv
· 1 year ago
It will have you ass in Miami wearing a blonde wig making pancakes...or so i heard. lol
Miss Cocoa Luv
· 1 year ago
Amen to that. I think that I might have to break the emergency glass this time.
GuyaneseDyme
· 1 year ago
Man, I didn't get any for two dayz and I was a total Bitch! I gotta have it everyday!!!
Killa
· 1 year ago
GT in da house!!!
I Stay SMH
· 1 year ago
and when i DON'T????
I'm talking MAD shyt to the vibe,
"imma breakyoplasticass...what? what?"
ChucksFavorite
· 1 year ago
the longest for me was 9 months...it didn't really effect me that much. but now, i get crazy if i go longer then 2 weeks without any!
sexyma078
· 1 year ago
I cant go with out sex tahell wit that and as a married women I gets it in day in and day out we even during my dot days we have some kinda sex (i think some one did a post on that kinda loving earlier this week) i need sex bad like the air i breathe...Now i will say that after 15 years nine in marrigae and six kids i think God we are still interested in each other sexually and it is actually getting better with time and we have other interest outside of the sex part...but to me that is a very important part !!!....Ms K is there a reason you and yours havent had sex in a year...i mean I know to each threr own but it just seems that to be married and not wanna have sex with each other is odd. Oh and on the off chance we dont get it in a chick is PMS to the 10th power!!
kyas_mami
· 1 year ago
The longest i've gone was 3mos. while the BF was locked up an it was HELL!!! I was ok up until the last 30day.... I was a RAGING lunatic, errybody was gettin cussed out, the side eye, the finger... MAN!!! I kno i have a problem tho... The BF used to think I was playin, but I NEED sex in my life or I am a BITCH!!! Thankfully i have been gettin my issue!
MizzJuicY
· 1 year ago
the longest for me was 3 months and that was because i was in my last months of pregnancy and the 6 week wait after the baby.
Killa
· 1 year ago
For the ladies that can't go long without sex, is ti the act of the orgasm that drives you or do you yearn the connection with your partner when you have sex??
Miss Cocoa Luv
· 1 year ago
Good question. I think that it's a combination. The closeness, the orgasm, the feeling of being pleased or pleasing someone.
kimberlee
· 1 year ago
If I was married I couldn't go like that without making love to him. I think within a marriage it is unfair to make that choice unless it is a mutual one, or because of health issues.
Ess
· 1 year ago
Im 27 as well... Ive done the casual thing, but Im at a point in my life...where if Im not in a relationship, I just cant have sex with someone. Its not the same. So there is not set time for me or a "how long Ive been able" to go. Im good being celibate until I find a man to be in a relationship with. IMO sex on a whole is freaking overrated. How many times have you heard someone say "yea I fucked such and such, but hell nah I didnt kiss that mofo".. I mean I have been there as welll.. but it makes NO SENSE! Plus in todays day and age...where 1 in 4 people have Herpes and NY 1 in 5 have HIV? I know what Im worth...and Im good just chilling. Im too good for just some casual sex.
Now when Im in a relationship and the feelings are there.. Im a horn dog.
miss smith
· 1 year ago
the comments are the funniest part of this whole mess. I guess i can't relate. i'll have to have sex first and then go without and then have it again to find out how "the drought" feels.
TX_VIRGO
· 1 year ago
Xilla, I totally feel u, I think that sex is over rated!!!!! I have had so many bad experiences with it. I currently on a 7month drought and doing fine. I will wait until I can find someone that gives as much as I do, SO WE BOTH CAN ENJOY IT.
Killa
· 1 year ago
Exaclty, sex is more than just stick it in an have an orgasm, I'm more interested in a spiritual, mental connection, now that's the BEST sex you will ever have.
Randumb dude
· 1 year ago
You can't say that because you haven't had ME yet!! CHALLENGE!!! lol I kid I kid.
Qrazy
· 1 year ago
Well, going without sex hits you in stages. Stage one...you think you can do it...that lasts about 3 weeks. Stage two...you get the itch..that lasts about 2 weeks Stage three...you are willing to just get drunk and go for it with anyone you find attractive.. that lasts about a weekend Stage four...you snap back to reality and spend 1 week recovering from a hang over Stage five...freedom! You are no longer a sexual being! to get over you moments of weakness you take care of yourself. At this point its too late to turn back so you can go awhile!
Miss Cocoa Luv
· 1 year ago
One month and I was not pleased. I love how she used "The Dealer" that is funny. My dealer was on some shiz then too. And I did not want to break the emergency glass and call the next dude and still be in need. Not getting any can and has been worse than PMS. Right now I am on strike...it's been about 2 weeks.
DomiX
· 1 year ago
Try going almost 8 months. I managed to survive, but I didn't like it.
I am currently on month six of my involuntary hiatus until my boyfriend gets here for Thanksgiving. By the time he gets here, it will be seven months.
Ness
· 1 year ago
I've gone about 2 hours w/o sex lol (j/k)
The longest I've ever went was 6 months. I was fine, I didn't loose my mind b/c it was a decision I made for self. Not b/c I couldn't get it.
Starr
· 1 year ago
As of now it's been 6 months and 12 days.......LOL. At first I was kinda, sorta losing it. But afterwhile, I don't think about it as much. I mean I get the random thoughts and urges but it's not how it was in the beginning.
I can't do the casual thing anymore. I'm an emotional being. I'd rather be in a relationship and hope and pray that it remains monogamous...plus with new diseases poppin' up every five minutes, you really have to be choosy in who you bang. That is just too scary. Go get tested for STDs BEFORE you bang.
crash
· 1 year ago
i feel your pain i have been in an even longer drought , and i am depressed for quite some time , and everyone says you dont need someone to make you happy , no just someone to rock my sox off , lol
HappyToBeNappy
· 1 year ago
Right now I'm on month 5 of no sex & I'm not handling it too well. I am horny all the time & think about doing it with damn near every guy I know. It's bad. On 2 different occasions I've gone well over a year without & it wasn't that bad. I never do it on purpose, I just get tired of the bullshit & take myself out of the game for awhile. I think in another month or 2 I'll be okay. Masturbation is the only thing that gets me through. . .no matter how long I go without the real thing, I can't go more than a few days without loving myself! I gotta have it some way!
Ant_from_Chi
· 1 year ago
A few things, dick and pussy ain't nothing but meat on a bone. A true spritual, mental and physical connection is a blast like no other. I for one, don't particularly like to go with the casual fuck, but I be damned if I'm going to go on some celibate shit. At the same time, I can dig just coolin' and not having my sexual urges dictate my life. It's funny though because the last two women I have went on a date with came out they face with some abstinate conversation, and this was before I even broached the subject of sex. I am a firm believer in connections and sometimes you connect with someone and you just know you're going to fuck them come hell or high water (as my mama used to say) As grown folks, we should be able to make these types of decisions in good faith and be good with them. But we all know how it goes after the morning after. In the end, do what works for you and be cool with it.
Mz. K if you ain't fucking your man sweetie, then who is? Maybe that's a bit harsh but damn a year of not making love to you HUSBAND demands a bit more explanation. (not that you owe me, or anyone else one) but damn Baby, I could see if you were single and making a choice like that , but there ain't that much busy in the world. You got a Man at home. Give that Ninja some pussy and quit playing. At the very least, blow his head.
yes
· 1 year ago
It definitely affects ur mood when u stop having regular sex for awhile. Gradually that need will drop. lol I can go long periods or time but sometimes u still go through withdrawals and yearn for some good ol pussy pounding.
talicia
· 1 year ago
I went almost a year without sex ( last year) . I was not in a relationship and was no indulging into casual sex just for he hell of it. if the guys was not my man then it was not going to happen.once i was rejecting a lot of them they got the clue and it seperated the real from the fake. it was a refreshing experience way of letting the bad apples out my life
Vhision
· 1 year ago
27 years old - 11 months w/o - I want to pop the heads off small children and eat them!
MayMay81
· 1 year ago
*kilt* Lmmfao!!!
sfbrat
· 1 year ago
i love your details! i think i can go 3months. i'm selective so knowing my partner is important. however it doesn't mean i go completely without.
PEGGY SUE
· 11 months ago
WOW I CANT GO 1 DAY WITHOUT SEX AND I WANT IT 3 OR 4 OR MORE TIMES A DAY SO WEEKS, MONTHS, AND YEARS ARE DEFINETLY OUT OF THE QUESTION FOR ME.....IT WAS HARD ENOUGH WAITING AFTER HAVIN MY KIDS......LOL
All Comments
Now it doesn't bother me a bit. I work too much, and go to school and I have a family... so it is not really something I have time to think about. I am not trying to be stuck up, or just celibate because I can't get none. I am celibate even when I had someone laying next to me to jump. Cuz you got some people screaming they celibate... then when they laying next to someone they not celibate anymore. No, I am really celibate, even when I had a man laying next to me sexy as hell and smelling good.
When I meet that one I feel that is worth making some love to... I will. Until then... I am good. No drama, no health scares, no stalkers, no bullshit. This is my decision.
power to ya, Mama
how old are the babies?
I'm talking MAD shyt to the vibe,
"imma breakyoplasticass...what? what?"
I was ok up until the last 30day....
I was a RAGING lunatic, errybody was gettin cussed out, the side eye, the finger...
MAN!!!
I kno i have a problem tho...
The BF used to think I was playin, but I NEED sex in my life or I am a BITCH!!!
Thankfully i have been gettin my issue!
So there is not set time for me or a "how long Ive been able" to go. Im good being celibate until I find a man to be in a relationship with.
IMO sex on a whole is freaking overrated. How many times have you heard someone say "yea I fucked such and such, but hell nah I didnt kiss that mofo".. I mean I have been there as welll.. but it makes NO SENSE!
Plus in todays day and age...where 1 in 4 people have Herpes and NY 1 in 5 have HIV? I know what Im worth...and Im good just chilling. Im too good for just some casual sex.
Now when Im in a relationship and the feelings are there.. Im a horn dog.
Stage one...you think you can do it...that lasts about 3 weeks.
Stage two...you get the itch..that lasts about 2 weeks
Stage three...you are willing to just get drunk and go for it with anyone you find attractive.. that lasts about a weekend
Stage four...you snap back to reality and spend 1 week recovering from a hang over
Stage five...freedom! You are no longer a sexual being! to get over you moments of weakness you take care of yourself. At this point its too late to turn back so you can go awhile!
I am currently on month six of my involuntary hiatus until my boyfriend gets here for Thanksgiving. By the time he gets here, it will be seven months.
The longest I've ever went was 6 months. I was fine, I didn't loose my mind b/c it was a decision I made for self. Not b/c I couldn't get it.
I can't do the casual thing anymore. I'm an emotional being. I'd rather be in a relationship and hope and pray that it remains monogamous...plus with new diseases poppin' up every five minutes, you really have to be choosy in who you bang. That is just too scary. Go get tested for STDs BEFORE you bang.
i have been in an even longer drought , and i am depressed for quite some time , and everyone says you dont need someone to make you happy , no just someone to rock my sox off , lol
Mz. K if you ain't fucking your man sweetie, then who is? Maybe that's a bit harsh but damn a year of not making love to you HUSBAND demands a bit more explanation. (not that you owe me, or anyone else one) but damn Baby, I could see if you were single and making a choice like that , but there ain't that much busy in the world. You got a Man at home. Give that Ninja some pussy and quit playing. At the very least, blow his head.
Lmmfao!!!