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Re: Stand By Sex: I Only Call You When I’m Bored

Tanishalee — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 14:36:16 -0000

i gotta stand by guy as well and he is well employed when i'm not in a relationship.

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toocute2hav — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 20:36:18 -0000

I have a standby .... I dont want a relationship right now..too much maintence.. I told him up front... I figured wed chat then commence to the sex...its working but now hes talkin this girlfriend ish, trying to give me the key and gettin mad cause I wont spend the night... SMDh we arent not in a relationship!!! I think hes catchin feelings

Re: Stand By Sex: I Only Call You When I’m Bored

Reptile214 — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 14:55:45 -0000

That relationship is a beautiful thing if you know and play your role. Everybody gets what they want. She gets D, and I don't have to hear her complain about her job, school, friends etc.

It is a win win situation.

Re: Stand By Sex: I Only Call You When I’m Bored

hazysin — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 23:48:14 -0000

damn.So after commenting on this particular post, i remembered that i had a date with my stand-by. Man, cheating is pretty fucked up but nothing beats plain old experience!

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smiley — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 16:53:41 -0000

Oh hun, take a breather. LOL. Hopefully you'll wait till you get married but if you're planning to have sex before hand you should understand that no matter how high you place yourself, a lot of men won't place you as high as you want them to and the messed up part is that you might not even know that this is happening to you. Humans are funny that way. It's not really personal. It has nothing to do with you not being great. Sometimes a guy will just like you because your a good convo and everything else might lack a bit For Him. Not every guy is like this but don't get too hurt when you find out that you might be one of those girls to someone. It's like a friend that you would party with but not necessarily share secrets with. She's good for one thing and not for everything. And to tell you the truth, one day you'll might have a call guy and have no problem with doing that to a person.

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hazysin — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 14:48:38 -0000

Standby's...hmm. Ive had a few and i have definitely been a standby. Sometimes, its just better that way. My favorite "stand-by" is this guy name Ro. He's like 45 and a retire airman. OMG his stroke is mean, but we both have relationships so i only call him when im beef with my guy or he will ring if his 40y.o is being a bitch.

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kema042290 — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 10:01:59 -0000

ur 15 y/o? if so, u need an education sweetie...not cute!

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DaRuler — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 05:00:09 -0000

i got a stand-by, but she usually calling me... i ain't hollered at her in about 2-3 months now though... hmm.. should i? nah, it's too late 4am. maybe tomorrow... naaaaaaahhhhh.

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ThoneyGsweet — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 04:13:20 -0000

i've been on both sides before, but now at 15 i refuse to. niggas here are quick to put brown girls in tha "they ain' gettin checked so they should be EXCITED for the scraps" category. i'm cute, nice,will bussa head in stilletto platforms in a minidress w/o any nipslips or crackso'back, and i cooks a mean meal. what in that says settle. notta dayum thang! hehehe! i aggree tho. people need to know their role and play it well! when u step up outside ya place nothing good comes from that....

Re: Stand By Sex: I Only Call You When I’m Bored

whatever09 — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 02:15:57 -0000

I got tired of being a standby sex chick for this dude. It seems like everytime we got together to do it, he always got his and but I was stuck trying to get mines. When he came, he never asked or even cared if I came and was satisfied. It was over and I was headed home without a smile on my face and still wanting more.

Re: Stand By Sex: I Only Call You When I’m Bored

sunshyne84 — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 01:24:52 -0000

Maybe he was actually kinda feelin you on another level, but once you said you just wanted to get some he felt some kinda way and didn't want to be used, or maybe like Xilla said he's just not attracted to you sexually. Just move along. Obviously, if that didn't spark his interest he aint feelin it.

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biscuit — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 22:29:10 -0000

i have one of thoes.. we might not talk for 2 or 3 months.. but when i get that text message or phone call i already kno whats up. thats all i want from him.. i dont want no relationship with that nigga at all.. it would be a waste of time.. ima come over the house.. smoke a lil bit.. do the do then leave.. i got wat i wanted now bye.. i dont even think i like him as a person anymore i just like the D

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shebaddd — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 21:17:32 -0000

i must admit-i have a "call when bored" sex buddy. he knows i only call wen im bored and i know he only comes wen he has nothing else to do so its not that big of a deal. he comes over, we smoke a lil bit, fuck :), and thats it. after that we may not call each other for maybe another 3 or 4 months lol. doesnt make me a slut and it doesnt make him a bad person. we both get wat we want with no strings attached

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Peaches — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 20:31:56 -0000

Re: Stand By Sex: I Only Call You When I’m Bored

immaculate721 — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 17:37:42 -0000

No, I understand perfectly. In MY CASE, I'm saying I can't be that call girl, because I don't want my time wasted on someone that I'm giving 110% to and he is not giving it back. That's it fine if that's what you want. That's your life. It is a lot of men that SAY they would mind being the call boy if you had to be the call girl, but the next thing you know he'll 'popping up' at your door trying to damn near kill your 'company' and you'll running in a nightrobe flagging down the police. All I'm saying is everybody ain't always playing their position.

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Enola T. Raven — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 15:54:18 -0000

There's a saying "Never make someone a priority who only makes you an option." Not even gonna lie, I been the standby chic and I have a standby list. What's crazy is I have long term standbys - ppl who may not get it but once every other month or once every few years. Got a couple of standby on the 5+ year list but u better believe if I want it I can get it. :)

Re: Stand By Sex: I Only Call You When I’m Bored

Leatherette — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 15:14:33 -0000

Flying standby sux but it is what it is. We as women have our standby guys so why should we act too good when it comes to playing that position? There's always this type of double standard in male/female relationships that some people (i.e. the virgin) just don't understand.

Reading this made me think about my standby and I realized that I'm prob his standby too...so???

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nynikki — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 14:14:31 -0000

I've flown stand-by involuntarily and I hated it...BUT, once I re-categorized the guy as my own stand-by it was much better for me. He didn't like it much, but he adjusted once he realized it meant less drama all around.

To immaculate721: I have to say I held similar views at your age. Fast forward 15 yrs, and I understand that men, even when they like/love you, will do messed up things to you and the relationship (including wasting your time), because of their own issues. I also know that men in their 20's can respect you a lot and will still screw the neighborhood slut. Enjoy your youth, uphold your values, but don't forget to have fun and be safe.

Re: Stand By Sex: I Only Call You When I’m Bored

immaculate721 — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 13:47:32 -0000

No!! Even if I wasn't a virgin (in which I am), I wouldn't lower my self worth to just be the call girl. Even though I'm young (21), I was taught standards and I was also taught that men respect standards. If a man really wants to be with you, he wouldn't waste your time in that matter and vice versa. I don't apologize for sounding like a 'goodie 2 shoes'. Life is too short for me to be a booty call for anybody! Besides, it's too much S.T.I.s, AIDS (I have a bad immune system anyway ick!), and babies without mothers and fathers to playing rushing roulette with my life. I have shit to do. LOL

P.S.- I love your blog website and you should do T.V.! Hell they talk about sex, relationships, music, and celebrities, anyway.

Re: Stand By Sex: I Only Call You When I’m Bored

404 — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 11:35:03 -0000

Yes & I didn't mind at all.

It worked out well for the both of us.

You scroll through that raggedy cell phone, two or three times, Anaconda ain't home, P*ssy Monster ain't home.......the LOVE BELOW starts talkin to ya....