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BEST POST EVER..I EFFING LOVE IT..and yall know I hate everything
Puts me in mind of T.I's "Freak Tho"..that song is the perfect representation of turning a "ho" to a housewife. In song that fool says "They say you can't turn a ho into a housewife, but listen shawty maybe ion want a housewife"
I LOVE THIS POST..im bout to tweet it like 18 times lol
Most men don't want to wife "whores", "sluts", "freaks" cause they aren't secure enough in their manhood to handle it. Further, they probably can't sexually satsify these type of sexually assertive women.
I won't lie, I get a lot of "You aren't the wife type"..well if that means I can't be myself and I gotta be a lame, then I dont want to be the wife type.
Sad thing is..I'm awesome...and loyal, like you said in the "be a man" section.
Again..best.post.ever..okay..I'm gone
I've had people tell me I'm the wife type. I've also had men tell me im not good for nothing but pu**y but fuck them too.
I'm a very dominating, assertive, aggressive woman who loves sex. I'd rather be with a non-judge mental mature REAL man than a pu**y ass "I am holier than thou" lame.
So if that means that I have to wait a little while longer for my prince charming, so be it. Good things come to those who wait.
Just like you said Xilla, your past doesn't make you. & like true2me said, I refuse to compromise who I am to appease somebody else.
So fuck em. Either way, I'ma still get a nut & be happy & single to mingle...while supposed "wifey's" are happy at home with they "supposed" corny ass husbands....
Men are the ones who set standards - good, bad and double.
Men don't wife hoes because they don't WANT to wife hoes - PERIOD - no "How To" guide necessary.
Exactly how long is this "Hoes Are People Too" campaign scheduled to last?
If anybody is looking for me, I'll be in the Archives - Sep, Oct & Nov 08 had some damn good discussions...can I get a FTV? LOL!!!
Shyt I know some trifling azz "good girls"
what about what another woman does with her coochie makes people so MAD..I.just.dont.get.it *shrugs*
For one I dont knock either type of woman...NONE. I Dont give two shyts what the next woman does. I dont care why she does it, long as she not hurting herself or no one else, I dont give a shyt
Further, The so called "good girls" are the ones tryin to make it seem like they are more valuable. both Men and women do that. If you have to knock someone else to feel good about yourself that means you have low self esteem. And that my dear is clearly what you are doing. I have no issues with myself. I dont put down "good girls" ...I dont even categorize women really. I'm only doing it for posting sake on this blog. Women are different. You can't label a woman based on ANYTHING. PERIOD.
Again, I'll never feel bad about myself for anything to do with sex because I am not hurting ANYONE. I am confident in myself to know I'm a great woman regardless of who I do or don't do it to.
No one is "better" than anyone. Shyt happens. People are human. I dont hate on anyone.
Posts like this have to be made because its sickening for people to put down people based on BULLSHYT. Mofo's do that shyt because they need some sort of validation. Your response is classic validation by comparison. Validate yourself other ways. I'm sure you have alot more going for yourself other than whats between ur legs
*smiles and waves*
"Girl the bored married men be straying like A MUG...For real..gee I wonder why"
Boy, that didn't sound bitter or hate filled at all...girl just give up cuz ur points or points that u are trying to make but failing at are filled with contradictions...as I said I'm done...so u have a nice one.
Im not hate filled at the married girl. Most men cheat any damn way. Further, I was the married girl. SURPRISED. Probably. I decided to leave my marriage. I aint never stunting no ninja to put a ring on my finger. I'm happy with myself. with or without a man. I dont live my life to prove myself worthy to some damn man.
I have not contradicted myself ONCE..not ONCE. You are trying to make secure and confident true sexually free people feel bad about themselves to validate how much better you are. You should really stop. Its not appealing.
If its not your thing to be sexually free..say so...but dont knock others for what they get off on.
I just dont get concerning yourself so much with what other women do with their coochie..I just dont get it. You should try feeling good about yourself without comparing urself to other women's sexual history
You summed up EVERYTHING I was thinking.. Its coo if girls wanna go around and have sex, are they hoes? yes, but not any less than the dudes they are having the sex with..I dont do double standards..
My thing with the whole Beyonce/AMber thing is that Bey may be a freak in the sheets but that is where it is kept. The sanctity of the bedroom, I wouldnt think most men would want their woman to be "known" around as the town ho', sorry but I dont believe that.. How would you feel if a random dude just came up and ya;ll got into some kind of argument and the he just bust out with "That's why I nutted in your girl's mouth", HOW COULD YOU RESPOND TO THAT??
um...Im sure there aren't many virgins left...and Im sure most women have given head. You can have 4 partners your whole life and some dude can walk up to your girl and say "thats why I nutted in your girls mouth".
Again, since most women aren't virgins, there is no point to saying "but what if someone said they did it to your girl" .
Anybody bothered by someone else saying or doing your girl is insecure..PERIOD.
That argument was baseless
THAT is why I am confused that a MAN would not care if they knew other dudes was diggin they woman down or ran into him on the streets. Its plain and simple.. That is where the whole purity myth is formulated from..Its not that hard to understand but I guess you are not as smart as the rest of us.
So who is REALLY in control *smh*
You won't see me anywhere honeybunch. I'm not an irresponsible sexually free woman. Nor do I just do it to anybody that asks. Again, you have NO CLUE of what you are talking about.
I have NO PROBLEM with me, never have and never will. If a dude dont like who I am, he can kick rocks, cuz the LAST THING I am worried about is what some damn dumb azz dude thinks of me..seriously. He aint paying my damn bills so miss me with that.
Having sex when u want is not a BAD THING. IT ISN'T...just cause YOU THINK SO doesn't mean it is. Its not a good thing either..it just is what it is
U aren't arguing with a brick wall, you youself are a brick wall. U won't open up to the idea that some women just like to have their cake and eat it to.
I’m gonna go out on a limb here and make an observation. Never met Xilla personally so I don’t know him from the family of four driving across the GWB in a blue Honda right now, but I’ve been reading long enough to dare say he doesn’t "fully" believe this shyt any more than most of us do…
What’s the best way to get people talking?
Write some off-the-wall controversial shyt and watch them react to it.
What makes it even better is when a bunch of dumb-asses who've never known what it feels like to be truly respected as a woman take it too seriously and co-sign their lives and trashed reputations to it.
Now you got even more people reacting and talking...
What makes it even, EVEN better is now putting a battery in said dumb-asses’ backs makin them believe they're the shyt and their lives are on-point and then watching them go wild tryna convince the world that whoredom is good for you…
Oh wait, look, what's that? More. People. Talking.
You’re a smart effin dude Xilla…F*ckin Love You...but enough of the hoe shyt, that horse died a 100x
Back to the Archives where real Urban Relationship talk lives…LMAO!!!
LOL, get ur comments up boo! You know where I'll be ;-)
You have two daughters, would you really encourage them to f*ck randomly and indiscriminately as many guys as they could just for the sake of gaining as much sexual experience as they could???
There are some societal judgments that are valid and if anyone chooses to behave contrary and they're comfortable with that, by all means continue but don't get mad when you get the side eye for your conduct (general you, not you-you)
The meaning of hoe IS set in stone, people wanting to change the meaning, pretty it up and call it empowerment doesn't change what it really means.
Someone thinking you're a hoe and you really being a hoe are two different things.
People can think whatever they wanna think about you it means nothing - it's your action, your conduct that makes you what you are.
Ditto Head Mistress. My sentiments exactly.
Oh yeah Xilla, *in my granny's voice* "I'm hip to yo game." ;)
My brother stated that he believes any chick who has slept with more than 3 people in her lifetime is a "hoe, whore etc". I laughed and asked him if that means our mom is one and he said yes. LOL this is his STANDARD or opinion. Was I offended? Nope.
No Man can label me to be anything that I don't believe I am. I have had hoeish moments..I'm sure most of us have. I do what I do because I want to. Not because of insecurity..or needing a man to love me or anything else.
I know the Power of my Vagina..I know it's worth. Dudes aren't F*ckin me..I'm F*ckin them!
The difference of a H*e to me and a so called lady..is that a H*e is too out in the open while a lady has many bones in her closet.
Speaking on Amber Rose & Kanye, if they do marry... I just hope he sticks with a prenup b/c if the cash runs out, that hoe is gone.
We all judge, and we’re all judged - all day, every day, everywhere we go - people are judging us and we’re judging them right back – sometimes it’s positive, sometimes it’s negative. Every decision we make and every decision made about us, in our favor or against, is a judgment.
Whether you’re accepted into the college of your choice, whether you get the job, whether you’re approved for the loan, whether you get the apartment, whether you get a date or dick or pussy - All Judgments - some valid, some not, some fair, some not, some should matter to us, and some shouldn’t.
“Eat the meat and throw away the bone.”
Mistress- I agree with ALL you said on this post!
What?- You were on point too!!
Just don't be a sorry hoe (low self esteem/no self respect). Don't be a lifetime hoe (never growing up and maturing). Don't be an icky hoe (not taking healthy care of your bodily business). Don't be a triflin hoe (pushing up on OPP).
I dont care what many people think about me but sometimes it's the people who are closer to you to have an affect. Anybody looking from the outside, I really dont care. Its not easy when your parents cant't understand you and they get mad at your opposing views. My grandfather is a pastor and my family grew up in a church. The judgement may also come with non acceptance because I am not the reserved lady as I should be to them. Right now my parents dont understand my views but hey, I have a lot to learn myself. Im only 18, so i really cant complain.
Trust me, I've been there...and my answer is the same: "You’re gonna live a pretty sad and reclusive life if you put that much stock in what other people, parents/family included, think."
Make well thought out decisions based on what you know to be right from your upbringing - “Eat the meat and throw away the bone.” - combined with your own views and do what you believe is right for you - they'll probably not like it but if their love is unconditional as it should be they'll still love you despite disagreeing with your views and eventually they'll get over it for the sake of having you in their lives
btw...church girl gone wild fresh out the gate is more likely to lead to regret than feelings of freedom - nothin wrong with having sex and feeling good but take baby steps, at this stage of your life limit it to someone who truly cares for you and whom you trust - give yourself some time to live comfortably outside of caring too much what your family thinks, you got plenty of time and there will always be cute guys on the train
I understand what you are saying completely. But as far as the church girl gone wild that is far from me lol. I've made my mistakes a few years back while I was in church. Then I stopped going to church. Now I am an atheist and a feminist. Although this topic is about sex it can represent so much more being the feminist that I am. So I'm not going to rush to have sex with just anyone. The connection has to be there for me. Sex is good. A great conversation and sex is even better.
Btw. I love how you express your point of you. The ending was great "you got plenty of time and there will always be cute guys on the train." :-)
An atheist and a feminist, huh? The double whammy - I Love It! :-)
Parents will push and push and push and count on their disapproval being the thing to make you do things their way
I've always been a rebel so I figured out quite by accident that one of two things happens:
You do it their way, they're happy, you're not
OR
Do it your way, you're happy and they'll adjust (quite nicely I might add)