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Sexy N Sassy — Thu, 18 Dec 2008 15:30:27 -0000

I liked how you worded that story, it was very clear and concise.B/c some blogger are all over the place and go in circles and never get to the point.

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just sayin — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 14:13:43 -0000

I can see where Mimi is coming from but as with many, I have a problem with religion. It is man made. The real issue should be spirituality and your relationship with God. That has nothing to do with religion. If through your actions, you think God will approve - then do you. But if you're honest with yourself and you can sense that having sex just to quench your physical needs is wrong, then maybe its a choice you need to reevaluate. Our bodies are sacred, our souls are sacred. We need to treat them as such. Kudos to this young lady who is abstaining. And to the men who can't understand, they are probably losing out on great person.

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BlogXilla — Mon, 08 Dec 2008 12:02:52 -0000

so you like the ny BlogXilla in NY header?

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Ant_from_Chi — Mon, 08 Dec 2008 11:13:44 -0000

The party was great. Where are you at? Are you also in the Atl? I saved some just for you ;}

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HeadMistress — Mon, 08 Dec 2008 11:11:16 -0000

YEEEEESSSSS!!!! That shyt is HAWT!!!!!

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HeadMistress — Mon, 08 Dec 2008 10:47:18 -0000

Sorry I missed it! I'm in NY

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... — Mon, 08 Dec 2008 10:17:45 -0000

I wouldnt say ppl are using God as a cop-out. Our beliefs are OURS. If we want to follow our beliefs then its our decision to make. Just like its your decision to sleep with womever you choose. Ppl tend to forget that God gives us free will. Free will to make whatever choice we want to make. No one is dogging you out for your choice so please dont disrespect us for having our own opinions.

Last time I checked, Sex didnt make the world go round. It just happens to pay some of the bills. Sadly.

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B says.... — Mon, 08 Dec 2008 10:07:38 -0000

I know Im extra late and whatnot but I had to share my view as well.

The problem with todays generation is that we are extrememly impatient. Its always right here right now or else. Whatever happened to standards? Whatever happened to raising the bar? Why cant we as people have more respect for ourselves and our bodies? Because we're greedy. We only think about the "now" rather than the future. And thats sad. Im still pure at age 22 and proud of it. After almost losing it in the 6th grade I promised myself and God that I would wait and Im glad to say that Im still going strong. My reasons for waiting are due to my beliefs and the promise I made 6 years ago. Also because my mother raised me to love and respect my body. I was raised to have high standards. Because of this, the man that i will eventually wed and bed will have respect for me and high standards as well.

I also wanted to say that Im not "looking" for a virgin hubby because I know theres not that many still around. But I will say that whomever he is will be equally yoked with me. As far as times changing, its true. But just because the times are different it doesnt mean that we should respect ourselves any less. Laying down with random ppl is not whats up.

Stop making excuses and find solutions ppl!!!!!

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chastity — Sun, 07 Dec 2008 03:36:57 -0000

i most definitely agree

it's good to have a male perspective on waiting til marriage..thanks for you post

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HeadMistress — Sat, 06 Dec 2008 20:59:14 -0000

See! there you go again, startin wit me, you know you can get it....

gon' f*ck aroun' in this bad economy and make me sell somethin tryna get a last minute airline ticket to Chi...LOL!!!!

Have fun, just save me some ;-)

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Ant_from_Chi — Sat, 06 Dec 2008 15:59:09 -0000

Yeah I know what "It" is. I just wanted to hear you say it. lol I like dirty talk. If you're in the Chicago area, I'm having a party tonight. It's gone be live.

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HeadMistress — Fri, 05 Dec 2008 21:02:21 -0000

Aww c'mon, you know,"It"... j/k :-), you're no stranger to the "on point" comment yourself

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Will E. Johson — Fri, 05 Dec 2008 19:16:20 -0000

I've been reading the comments and I haven't seen the male perspective in the same situation. I admit I too am planning to wait till marriage to have sex. Now don't get me wrong, I'm still human and I have been tempted several times. But I can gladly say for 26 I have been celibate for the last 3 years. Now I think that sex isn't important cause its a physical effect, its not something you necessary need and if its good, its based on feelings. You can receive most of the the sensations from sex from various activities and to my knowledge (and to my previous partner's knowledge) its way more amazing. Sexuality does not have to be based on the act of sex, its about knowing your partner well enough to find out what makes them tick. Unfortunately, for the male, it seems like he has no choice for being celibate or even a virgin for that matter. We have lost touch of the other two ways to connect with each other; through mind and spirit. I don't put anyone at fault and hope no one takes it to offense. I don't think there really is a difference in which is better nor worse. I think that at the end of the day if there is mutual love between the two (or how ever many you please) its fine.

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Ant_from_Chi — Fri, 05 Dec 2008 18:14:24 -0000

I ain't starting nuttin wit you sista, and what is it that I can get? By the way, your comments were very on point.

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HeadMistress — Fri, 05 Dec 2008 14:32:20 -0000

;-) don't start wit me Ant, you know you can get it

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TiddySinclaire — Thu, 04 Dec 2008 10:02:28 -0000

I'm over it and have moved on. I don't want you to feel sorry for me. This is a blog that has visitors with various views.

Enjoy!

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HeadMistress — Thu, 04 Dec 2008 00:10:53 -0000

Wow, 100+ comments later and this is still just as interesting as the 1st one up....

Times are a changing - and nothing wrong with it I'm just curious as to the thought process behind saving your virginity but engaging in oral or anal sex

My mind set has always been the exact reverse, if you were going to "give" some and "save" some, oral and/or anal would go into the save category.....idk ???

Not that just anybody can get the p*ssy, but in order of importance or "specialness" if you will:

men (cause there have been a few) that make it to the "do-able" list get the "P"

someone a lot more special will get f*cked & sucked

as for anal that ain't even on the menu, I've yet to meet the man who would make me change my mind about that :-|

for those guys that would appreciate a woman who saved her virginity, does it matter that she would admit "yes I saved IT for you but I have sucked a few and taken it in the ass" ???

no judgments, just curious...

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Mzz.Sweetberry — Wed, 03 Dec 2008 22:58:52 -0000

Personally, I feel its her choice. I myself who is 24 yrs old is still waiting although me and my boyfriend have explored other things to keep our relationship some what sexual but, I am very curious as to what will happen after I do have sex with him. Due to the fact that I've not had any sexual experience I'm feel like I'll suck at it so that's why I hold back from it. its kinda hard to explain but, hopefully I'm making some kinda sense... He has been a great partner and meaning he doesn't pressure me but, I feel like I'm gonna have to have sex with him before he put a ring on it. that's just the truth like Xilla said who buys a car without test driving it? i do feel like I'm ready for a more sexually relationship, cuz oral sex can only go so far. lol

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LUVBLOGXILLABLOG — Wed, 03 Dec 2008 19:02:06 -0000

Mimi Yeah do have a email or a blog I Agree with you totally 100% and i'm virgin I respect that I actually come on here Blogxilla and get some sex tips.

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musichead — Wed, 03 Dec 2008 18:58:47 -0000

Mimi whats your email your great speaker I'M virging i need to ask some questions

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Thoney — Wed, 03 Dec 2008 14:51:43 -0000

lol @ i ain that dark....i think i have a warped sense of my color since my family is sooooo light. let me tellit i'm chocolate. WHATEVA! duly note, i totally would have been that girl sitting next to us. the white guy was totally into her, buying drinks, being a gentleman. her ass was GONE! i likedta DIED when she got ta drunk talkin us to death. WOWEE!!!!

i hate that certain places have to be lights and whites only. i step into certain spots and serious feel like they have those throwback whites/lights only signs up. Mloung is a great intimate place to hear live jazz and get a cocktail. i refuse to adhere to our fugged up rules! i'm such a rebel! OW! i agree with ur last part....trying to force someone into celebacy ain' neva ok! serioulsy. u'll always end up hurt and wishing u didn't do it. for real. its best to loop up with someone that shares ur same kinda freakm crazy, beliefs whateva!

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Smile08 — Wed, 03 Dec 2008 14:40:15 -0000

I for one agree with Sunshine 08. I myself am saving myself for marriage. As I read through the blogs I see that a lot of the responders are accustomed to living in this hellacious world! For the last comment that was posted by Sugar Tits (what a name) I cant seem to understand how you feel that "knowing who you are as a person" has nothing to do with God. People are not using God as a copout. If you are human, most of us have some spirituality in our life and we know right from wrong. Just fucking as you put it is wrong and I feel sorry for you because you dont value your worth and you dont understand that you were not made to be used as just a "fuck" But you know like you put it, do what you want to do, to each is own. I am upset with blogxilla because a couple of weeks ago you had a blog on why the "pussy is plummenting" For some reason I feel like you are contradicting yourself. You made it clear that a female should hold on to her good good and know the value of herself. Make it worth something, but now you feel as though we live in the "microwave age" and have to have everything now, why not sex? Giving yourself up so freely is why less and less women actually have a good good. I agree with Mimi for taking a Christian aspect on it. People today are so sucked up in what they think is right by the ways of the world. If you holy roly christians would read your bible you would know that the bible says do not conform to the ways of the world! DO NOT!! Pre-marital sex is something that has been excepted by man and this world. And for everyone who feels that experience is necessary for you to know who you are getting involved with, you just dont get it. Sex is meant for procreation not all the extra stuff that man/world has put on it. Based upon the bible you are not even suppose to know what he, she or the next is working with. You are not suppose to be able to compare your sexual experience with Marcus as being better then your sexual experience with Sean. I wish people open their eyes and pay attention that we are living in our last days and it is important to know who you are with God in your life. You better bet that all that is happening in the world today has been written in the book of life. For females learn your worth and stop bending for these sorry brothers! As Lauryn Hill says, "dont be a hard rock when you really are a gem, baby girl RESPECT is just a minimum!" Respect yourself and your body!! For my brothers, get it together. You are more then what is in your pants and what you think you can do in the bedroom. A woman will flock to you because you excude strength and confidence. Learn what it is that you deserve from a woman and not just her body but her spirit and her mind. Then you need to do like Sunshine 08 says and PUT A RING ON IT!!

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TiddySinclaire — Wed, 03 Dec 2008 14:15:24 -0000

The more comments that I read it seems that people are using God as a cop-out. You fuck because you want to. You don't because you want to. Or you can't cause you aren't getting approached by the opposite to engage in such wonderful activities.

If you choose not to sleep with someone until you are married.ok. But please do not involve God, Jahovah, Allah, Buddah, Rip Van Winkle, The mean ass troll under the bridge or anybody else in your decision making for YOUR body.

Know who you are. And please believe that we are far more than some zombies walking around being guided by invisible strings of Geppetto, Jesus or the next being.

Just keep it light.

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Ant_from_Chi — Wed, 03 Dec 2008 14:01:35 -0000

Bravo HeadMistress

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Ant_from_Chi — Wed, 03 Dec 2008 13:58:07 -0000

That's why I took you to the South side where dark skinned woman get plenty of attention. I talked to a few of my female friends here in Chicago and a few of them agreed that it seemed like cats here were colour struck. I never moticed it before and I still don't believe it. I just thought it was important for Thoney to see the brothers and sisters in our element doing our thang. M lounge was cool, but like I told you when we were there. I can only hang in an environment like this for a short time. Now that I look back on last night at M lounge, most of the women in there were kinda light except for that chick with the white dude sitting next to us and you. And like I said last night, you ain't that dark. I can take you to some other spots where you would enjoy yourself and also have a pretty good chance to get a date. It won't be downtown or on the northside though. It's gone be on the southside.

As for this post, Xilla you always know how to get a conversation started. For me, it's a moot point because I don't plan to get married so if I run in to a woman and this is the conversation, then we can be friends. There would be no need for me to pursue her because we don't want the same things. That's the key though isn't it. If you're going to impose these types of sanctions on someone, please find someone who wants something similiar. It's not right to make someone wait and that's not what they're into. SOmethings bound to happen. Sorry for getting in on this so late. I been jet lagging.

@Circa. Nice points.