DISQUS

SassyScorpio · 6 months ago

Okay so I may be a little guilty but I tell men upfront I AM A BITCH, if you can't handle my smart ass comments and my sarcastic, fuck it mentality then you may not wanna stick around. I don't take too much serious and so that is why I come off the way I do. It seems like we as women are getting stronger and men seem to become weaker. Kinda like role reversal. It may come from a lack of father figures and being raised by only their mothers but men ya'll need to get tougher skin.

hazysin · 6 months ago

Sassy!!!!....girl let me tell u. I have been screaming role reversal for years. especially the eighties baby. These boys dont even want to begin to accept the responsibility of being a man.

My boyfriend and i are going through it right now because as he says, i have an "aggressive" personality. Someone has to have the backbone in this situation. I feel that if his mother hadn't coddled him for 25 fucking years i would have to talk to him/treat him like hes my 2nd son.

Xilla, sure we as women we do things to bring the pussy out of a guy but truth...if he was a MAN, the would be no pussy. If he were a MAN and took care of responsibilities as a MAN, he would not have any issues. This top his a special part of me because any male who has accepted role his ROLE as a man...doesnt have any bitch in him. I would haven't have to wear the pants...if my MALE wasn't so comfortable in a skirt!!!!!

SassyScorpio · 6 months ago

OKAAAAY....tell em way you mad girl. I agree 100%.

Who Dat · 6 months ago

To be honest you sound like you take pride in having the traits of a MAN. Thats a problem, too many black women act like men, and then they wonder why black men cheat. No straight man wants to be with a man. A man is naturally dominant therefore if he isnt in that position he will eventually search to be in that position- its natural, so more than likely he will cheat on your dominant ass with a woman more submissive. Black women can learn a lot from white women and foreign women who still understand what it means to be a woman. So next time you want to be a "bitch" close our eyes and imagine being 45 years old lonely, unattractive and yearning for a companion. While the guy you were so proud of being a bitch to is banging some late 20-somethng year old chick laughing at your bitter ass. Get it together.

mimi · 6 months ago

LMAO...true Xilla we often point out things in other ppl we don't like. Our mates often reflect where we are in our lives. I used to think when my man is whiny about dumb shit, it is b/c I entertain his mess. But it could also be b/c I'm not promoting positive energy or I'm whiny about my shit! I firmly stand behind Toni Morrison's commentary at the end of The Bluest Eye, "love is never any better than the lover.Wicked people love wickedly, violent people love violently, weak people love weakly, stupid people love stupidly..." I think both men and women need to use his/her mates as a mirror!

candyangel23 · 6 months ago

LMAO!!!!! YAAAAASSSSS FINALLY SOMEBODY UNDERSTANDS WHAT IM GOING THROUGH
THANK YOU ZILLA

BlogXilla · 6 months ago

hi Candy Angel... I don't know who Zilla is but I'm glad he understands what you're going through.

Tell him Xilla said what's up... lol just kidding.

1AM · 6 months ago

*STANDS AND APPLAUDS*

JayeGo · 6 months ago

This makes a lot of sense cus a lot of times women forget that men have feelings too (i kno im guilty of it). I got a smart ass mouth and can be kinda mean n my joking but I'm learnin to tone it down a bit when I'm wit my man so as not to make him feel like a lil bitch which leads to him actin like one... I think sometimes women are so quick to not wanna seem like they need a nigga they kinda push him away and thats another time he get to actin like that, especially if they really like you!
Good read! I'm mos def gon RT this one LOL

BlogXilla · 6 months ago

Thanks Jaye, but it's a two way street by no means should that kind of behavior be tolerated but at the same time it's like y'all women must know y'all are acting out of line. I've learn to cut a chick off but its the same thing with men we hold on in an attempt to make it work... or good men i should say and some times we end up letting a little bitch out. I swear i found myself having to stop like iight Xilla you need to man up! ICE COLD!! and then i cuts the bitch off. lol

Lisa · 6 months ago

I hope I have enough battery left in the iPhone for this one. Yes, women push buttons and hit below the belt. Yes, we make insults that could make a grown man cry and doubt his self-worth. But what self respecting man behaves the way you described? Under him 23 hours a day? And send an 'I love u so much' when he is acting like a stalker? Hell no! Men, when a woman treats you like this, and u know u are a good man and you don't deserve it, NEXT! Women, quit treating good and respectable men like the last asshole that did you wrong

BlogXilla · 6 months ago

That's why i say at the end take a look at yourself and figure out if it's you or you're just with a B.A.N. lol you feel me?

lisa · 6 months ago

i hope it isn't me. i try to only surround myself with positivity. every time i get a little upset with my man, i try to step back and ask myself if i am jumping to conclusions, being unreasonable, etc. this has been after a LOT of b.s.ing on my part in the past, but i hope that i'm not like that anymore. i am a busy woman with a lot on my "to do" list and i try not to waste anybody's time. i refuse to belittle a man because i don't want to go through the "break up talk" and treat him badly just so i don't have to do the dirty work. that's selfish. i treat my man with respect, do all the freaky things he wants (and some that he doesn't know he wants, cuz i learned some new shit on xilla), be supportive, and have a good dinner on the table when he comes home. ever since i stepped up on that kinda game, i haven't had any "bitchassness"

lisa · 6 months ago

but i can't lie, in my rookie days, i was a "bitch ass". does bitchassness have an acceptable age limit?

The don · 6 months ago

Man up homie if the woman is bringing the Bia Bia out of you move around

BlogXilla · 6 months ago

you know how it goes... but sometimes you're like yo i'm that dude she can't treat me like this... and then your pride gets in the way. Now i used extremes but c'mon you know we all know niggas do that type of shit you've been with a chick who had a man acting up... or you should have if you gets it in. Pause! but at the same time when you feel like you're that dude... for a moment... you act up. then you cut the chick off.

FrankLucas82 · 6 months ago

This is my first post on Blogxilla, i've been reading this blog for a little minute, but this story is very funny to me...not because i can relate, but because i know dudes that act like this with thier ladies, ol boot licking niggas. Personally, i've never been about blowing a chick head up like that, i let her do her and i do me. A lot of women in this day in age tend to be very aggressive and loud, which is cool, i don't really deal with chicks like that, they annoy me. My advice would be if you are a guy and you are not happy with your chick in any way shape of form, tell her to kick rocks...stop being so sensitive, and get a chick who is nice and sweet...like Becky...lol.

lyoness · 6 months ago

I cannot believe that n*ggas r still on that Becky tip!

BlogXilla · 6 months ago

HaHaHa... I know them dudes too. I know this gutter chick who used to mess with my mans... she ended up finding her way to my bed. She starts telling me stories of this dude and how he tried to drive off a bridge because he was looney i was just like yep that sounds like him... now put it in your mouth... lol i'm so rude sometimes. I've been thinking bout trying to find me a becky. You should comment more i need some back up at times.

BlogXilla · 6 months ago

pause

SassyScorpio · 6 months ago

Xilla, you better not go out and get Becky....you too fine for that.

MsMelissa · 6 months ago

wow

ATXLADY! · 6 months ago

Preach Bro Preach...LMAO!!!!

BlogXilla · 6 months ago

thanks lady

nynikki · 6 months ago

I enjoyed this one as I am guilty of being harsh. I'm working on being softer with my men but it is a process. The claws do come out though, if I'm with a guy that insists on showing me a soft underbelly. I can't stand a soft-ass man. The downside is I tend to gravitate towards assholes, so I guess I really need to ease up!

BlogXilla · 6 months ago

yep that's the alternative, but you shouldn't be with a panzie ass dude either, you'll find the right mix just give someone a chance they might turn out to be that dude.

Janee · 6 months ago

IM GUILTY! IM GUILTY! IM GUILTY! lol and i confess that i get some kinda pleasure outta bringing the bitch outta them...I think about a majority of my boyfriends i was able to do that to... i was even able to bitch out a proclaimed "thug" who thought he was soooo tough..but im a sarcastic person by nature and i joke and make fun all the time with my bf's..and i dont mind if they do it back.. but when they get to bitchy..and all this "why dont you call me enough" and whining..i gotta dump em...sometimes i need and look for them to put me in my place..

BlogXilla · 6 months ago

yeah i found myself getting like that with one chick.. but i know my mouth... i can't joke around. I'm the person who says shit like that's why your father was a.... when you're dad died yesterday. So I try not to play like that because i know my mouth it's no holds barred and I know i don't want to be that person who verbally abuses a chick. Or put my hands on them so i stay away from conflict and try to amp up the sweet talk. But now i've learned hey I need to dump this bird before i end up in the can for a 3-9

HeadMistress · 6 months ago

I do agree we as women need to be a little more caring, a little less confrontational and all that BUT NO "the bitch" in him brings out the bitch in him, not me.

There is no excuse for the bitchassness described above, I don't give a shyt what she says or does, that bitchlike behavior is unacceptable.

Call me old fashioned but a man needs to suppress that shyt like his daddy and his daddy's daddy, and his daddy's daddy's daddy did...j/k...LMAO!!!

ALMiss · 6 months ago

I am definitely feeling this post Xilla! And I will admit that I am guilty of once being a little "heartless/careless" in a relationship. I don't know what it was about that guy, but out of all the guys I've dated, he's the only one who brought out that side of me. But to think about it, he WAS a little sensitive when it came to my jokes...or either I was just too harsh. But NO man should act as bitchy as some of the examples you gave!! When you said the "constant smart alec replies," you hit the nail on the head...because that was my number one problem. But I have overcame lol!! I guess it was that particular relationship, because I'm no longer like that :)


Oh, and the "Maybe if you answered just one of his calls the first time he called he wouldn’t leave you a message longer than Paris Hilton’s back." killed me lol! I thought it was just me!!

BlogXilla · 6 months ago

lol yeah you're right no MAN should be as bitch made as i described but it's sarcasm you feel me. And some people are just a little sensitive about certain subjects and it begin to be a domino effect. One thing leads to another and next thing you know you're sleeping wit Que from making the band.

And no you're not the only one who notices Paris Hilton has no ass and just a long back!

Oohkeekee · 6 months ago

Ugh... Sadly I just broke up wit a dude like that.... Always wanted me around... first it was cute... two weeks later it was disturbing...

BlogXilla · 6 months ago

I was with a chick like this... first time i was busy she started to flip... i was really just busy but her ways made me start dogging her more. it's crazy complicated. but you know that's how the cookie crumbles. and Ooh Kee Kee that picture... very sexy small but very sexy. lol

Oohkeekee · 6 months ago

Don't you hate that and you had such high hopes... lol
... And thanx Xilla I took your advice on how to take sexy pictures lol... I'll send u tha bigger versions... J/K Lol

EbonyLolita · 6 months ago

Oh God here we go w/ the complaining again. Listen,give love receive love. That should be easy right? Nope why b/c males need to start being MEN and step up to the HEAD of the Household. Showing that you love & care for a woman is not BITCHASSNESS. But constantly complaining about errythang unda the son IS!!. Now, when a woman does it she's considered a Nagging Shrew. C'mon brothas. Take care of yourselves, Love your Women, Provide a Household and remember that not only do u have a dyck but a pair a balls that hang out underneath. Jeeesh!!! I can't bring out the bitchassness in anybody, it was already there and if he wasn't a Bitchassnigga then he couldn't show those attributes. I'm not taking responsibility for anybody's personality flaws b.c it's not their job to take responsibility for mine.
Love,
EbonyLolita :)

BlogXilla · 6 months ago

So you didn't get the point of the blog... i'm not trying to say accept a man who is a bitch by no means no... I was using both extremes to display that sometimes the shit could be the bitch!

And you're going to sit here and tell me someone can't get under your skin? Really?Someone can't provoke you to react in a way... now at the end of the day I fully believe it's up to the person to react but c'mon people do things for a reaction and sometimes we have to look at our behavior and say hey maybe it's something i can do to make this situation better.

You're with this person because you like them right? Because you want to be with them? Well shouldn't we at least try to treat them how they want to be treated...

I'm just saying we all need to look at ourself and say hey what am i doing wrong and am i doing anything wrong or is this person just mentally deranged. I am in no way condoning bitchassness.

All I am saying is that some chicks make men go crazy and act the way they act.

MsDiva · 6 months ago

but when a woman is crazy...she just plain crazy!

exactly...no one can make you crazy...so i can't cosign on us chicks making ya'll go mad. ya'll just crazy...lol

EbonyLolita · 6 months ago

Hmmmm..... OK I didn't see where u were initially going w/ that. I see clearly now the rain is gone.

LeilaCaboverdiana · 6 months ago

Ooooh Xilla, you hit a sore spot. Just endied things with someone who was a bit to needy for my taste and he won't stop blowing up my phone even though I've been completely honest with him. I've tried everything! Being cold and harsh to being understanding and friendly but he keeps blowing up my phone with calls and text messages. I'm just ignoring him right now, I already have a child that needs all my attention, not looking for another one!

But it's funny nonetheless. Men can act like needy children! But to be honest, we women tend do things like that to when men ignore us.

tokisa · 6 months ago

lol at staying under his armpits? Maybe if you was up under him 23 hours out the day ? dang I need some space lol!! really a tad bit insecure too funny

themavenreport · 6 months ago

If a dude is a bitch on the inside, it's gonna come out one way or another. The bitch in him can only be suppressed so long and that's who he really is.

candyangel23 · 6 months ago

my bad but thx for understanding XILLA u d man

Moon · 6 months ago

This is a good one! I am guilty of acting this way but I def blame it on being young. I was just out of high school dealing with a guy I had known since grade school. He wanted to get serious and I was not having it and would not return phone calls when he would call too much or say little smart ish (not too bad).
However as I got older/mature I realized dude never grew out of his bitchness!
A decade later he will not let me live down things I said when I was 15-18.
We NEVER had sex because after we finaly got hot and heavy at age 24 he sat up in the bed, put his head down and said.."you don't want me in there".
AAAAGHH! I got up, put my clothes on and left! Im 30 now and just last year he asked a relative to tell me to call him. HELL NAW! He is a lifetime Bitchboy!

Louis RICH · 6 months ago

1st off responsibility has to come from both sides, somewhere along the way women stopped looking for men to be their heroes & started to become their own. It definitely is a role reversal because of the lack of respect that we have for one another as people, that's why you have situations like chris brown/Rihanna some women are taught at a young age that the man should take care of the women, so when a woman learns that she can take care of herself, she's like "what do I really NEED him for?" so she's prone to "Boss Up" to her man and either he's gonna react violently or leave altogether, as men we do need to take control of our lives starting with the choices we make. Women are choosing men based on their credentials (Degree, Good Career, Home Ownwership, no baby mamas, ambitious) and all we do is choose women based on how she looks or the size of her ass & breasts, then we wonder why we can't get along with our "baby's Mama" because we didn't choose based on "how can she make my life better" that's why there are more women in power positions than men & no doubt they deserve it because they worked hard for it, which is why your woman will take constructive criticism alot easier from a white man than from you, cause she doesn't care about your struggle she feels if she can do it why can't you! I don't think it would kill a woman to fall back a little let a man be a man and really let their guard down, you have the man you want, why are you still fighting yourself & him? But dudes need to MAN UP & take control of their lives cause when she's gone all you have is nothing, so it won't kill you to show some ambition & curb the hustla mentality & really use your talents to better your life (and not just rapping) everyone is good at something just manifest that. Women are the essence of love and right now that is lacking in relationships, right now couples are breaking up because of the economy, job loss & stress, but if there is unconditional love & respect there you truly can make it through the storm.

Mr. NO Bitches · 6 months ago

Wow. Glad I don't have this problem. Phew.
You know the reason why self-proclaimed "bitches" always end up with male bitches, right? No real man or woman would ever be in a relationship with a bitch. Bitches attract bitches.