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Re: Ladies, Get Over Yourself: The Good Man Confusion

madison — Sat, 17 Jan 2009 01:17:16 -0000

good men are not all around!
plz rephrase --- it def takes awhile to find a good man.
nd only foolish ass females are blinded by the flashiness of those foolish ass negroes!
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Re: Ladies, Get Over Yourself: The Good Man Confusion

Xan — Fri, 16 Jan 2009 02:22:00 -0000

word up. [high-five]

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Genna — Wed, 14 Jan 2009 16:16:19 -0000

it better be!

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Haniplease — Wed, 14 Jan 2009 15:15:10 -0000

indeed. no more y's i'ma just marry u! and i'm all about this vaca. its -29 degrees in chi. i'm hiding indoors until the summer. i reckon i'll get good and thick and ripe for the humpin! AAAAAAAAAAAH! back to our previously scheduled xillcast....

i think men should just honor the good girls cuz jigga put it best, once a good girls gone bad. she's gone foreva and that's such a waste, ditto the opposite for men. uh yea.

Re: Ladies, Get Over Yourself: The Good Man Confusion

Ness — Wed, 14 Jan 2009 15:04:27 -0000

lol...hahaaha ur funny....whn we going on our honeymoon! we got work to do lol

Why ask why!...lol

Re: Ladies, Get Over Yourself: The Good Man Confusion

Haniplease — Wed, 14 Jan 2009 14:53:28 -0000

i am honey and i approve ness's marriage and extend my hand with a diamond in it for her.[i'ma stop tryina marry u one day. but not today]

soooooo u just said everthing right here. many men don't want to put the effort into courting[yea i brushed off that dustass term] a good woman...its easier to get a hoodratty GIRL! here it sucks because the men u speak of, get themselves together and exclusively seek out white and light chiks to complete their ideal picture. i hate that! ARG![yea i'm still on it] they make the money, invest it then wait on palina to pop out the 1/2ie babies... WHY!?!?

Re: Ladies, Get Over Yourself: The Good Man Confusion

Haniplease — Wed, 14 Jan 2009 13:26:05 -0000

hi5! if i know u just wanna hump cuz i gotta decent shape, i'm not goin perioud. i'm not rude but i'll definitely give u the domino's number from my college. STEP CORRECT!

Re: Ladies, Get Over Yourself: The Good Man Confusion

Deeny — Wed, 14 Jan 2009 12:49:24 -0000

I always wanted a sister! lol

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Haniplease — Wed, 14 Jan 2009 12:47:21 -0000

u say that but i'm a good woman and can't get a good black man. i cook and fuck like a champ and men aren't going to that in the 09! they want some videoho ideal that will play them bogus! they wanna complain bout their babymammas and such. its insane! there are rats out there goin for the rims, but there's an entire population of ride or die ol' school women like myself, tht can't even get a chance.!

Re: Ladies, Get Over Yourself: The Good Man Confusion

Haniplease — Wed, 14 Jan 2009 12:35:52 -0000

i don't think all men are dogs and i agree that a lotta women str8 destroy the nice guys that approach them....its a crazy situation, but its one we're stuck in. i'm a nice girl and the jerks approach me, i know nice men that are attracted to the bitchy light diva cuz they think that conquering that challeng means they did the damn thing. WAKE UP people! lol

Re: Ladies, Get Over Yourself: The Good Man Confusion

Deeny — Wed, 14 Jan 2009 12:34:57 -0000

Thank you, I have reached Nirvana with ur post!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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nynikki — Wed, 14 Jan 2009 02:40:40 -0000

First, I think Deeny and I may have been separated at birth LOL.

A good man/woman is hard to spot, especially in a big city. There’s so many random jackasses getting in the way of the view and the nice ones get lost in the mix, myself included.

I say hello back and thank you when complimented on the street. As a younger woman I would brace myself for the disrespect that might follow because the guy thought my polite response was a green light for a booty-call. It may be my age (35) or my ways (no-nonsense), but now the jackasses see me and fall back on their own.

But nothing makes my day like a nice hello with no strings (or a tip of the hat from an older man-love that!). And I look for those nice hellos everyday! It might come to nothing, but if he/I decide to make a move, that initial “can I get your #” will be a lot easier for him than the random dude jumping out at me on the street.

Re: Ladies, Get Over Yourself: The Good Man Confusion

Nixx_01 — Wed, 14 Jan 2009 00:23:48 -0000

I believe in stranger danger to this day!! I go with my gut and if it is saying RUN Nixx RUN... by damn it Im doing it! LOL!! If that makes me crazy so be it. Yeah we going to have to disagree on this one.. : )

Re: Ladies, Get Over Yourself: The Good Man Confusion

Ness — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 22:56:15 -0000

Exactly....

it's a lot of "girls" and "females" running around but the good women are out there...it's just that men don't feel like taking the time to "reach" for them... they'll rather have the rotten apples that fell on the ground b/c they're easier for them to get to.

Just the same as it's good men out there...it's just that some females and some girls want the "bad boy type" but a REAL MAN doesn't have time to be young at mind b/c he's too busy gettin his $$ and keeping it and even investing it so when the RIGHT WOMAN comes, he'll have the foundation set so they can be set

I am Ness & I approve this message! :)

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Mo — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 22:43:24 -0000

Amen to that girl!

Re: Ladies, Get Over Yourself: The Good Man Confusion

KD — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 22:23:07 -0000

The grass is greener on the other side.

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KD — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 22:21:34 -0000

Lady i'm 25....I think that is old enough to realize I probably won't win an argument in a blog full of independent women. Nixx you know you made me chuckle a lil at the "My safety comes first" yall use EVERY excuse in the book. But ladies look, I get it...trust me I do its elementary different strokes for different folks, you have some women who do and some women who don't.
I rest my case though I think its safe to say we agree to disagree. O and Deeny you will not challenge me to a fight I will kick yo ass girl you must of thought I let that ride huh ? j/k

Re: Ladies, Get Over Yourself: The Good Man Confusion

HeadMistress — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 22:00:05 -0000

Deeny hit the nail on the head from a woman's POV with her comments...

But I also get where KD is coming from...

There are two issues here: the "Simple Hello" and the "Compliment"

There's no reason why anyone should not respond to a simple, respectful greeting...the only "females" who ignore and diss men when they say "hello" are those who simply think way too much of themselves.

As for the compliment, this is where it gets tricky and I've never known how to express this sentiment without sounding conceited or unappreciative...so I'm just going to say it with the disclaimer that these words are 100% conceit free...

For example:
Pretty girls know that they are pretty, not in a conceited "I Know!" kinda way but just in a common knowledge "people have been telling me since I was 2 yrs old so it's sunken in by now kinda way" and not to sound unappreciative of compliments but it gets to be a bit much to hear it constantly...

We all have something that stands out about us - something that other people are in awe of, so to make it make sense think about that one thing that you are constantly praised for/complimented on (looks, talent, intelligence...whatever)

Who can honestly say that after hearing the same compliment over and over and over again, day in and day out several times a day for years on end that sometimes they don't get just a little bit tired of saying "oh, thank you" like it's the first time you ever heard it, your "thank you" loses some of it's sincerity after awhile, not purposely but it almost becomes very "flight attendentishy"

"Thank you for flying Delta, enjoy your stay in..."
"Thank you for flying Delta, enjoy your stay in..."
"Thank you for flying Delta, enjoy your stay in..." X's 200 passengers....AARRGGHH!

I don't believe men should have to jump thru hoops to get a woman's attention and while the street is not the best place to approach a woman, you seeing her there may be random and maybe it's not a chance you can pass up for hopes of catching her in the laundromat or supermarket so at least be a little more creative with your greeting if you plan to say more than just hello...

*** comment on something other than her physical appearance ***...

assume that she has somewhere to be and make your convo brief...

offer her "your" number instead of asking for hers...spontaneity is key so just be sure to write it down in front of her and not to have it all ready like "BAMMMM" a la Clovelle and Howard Tibbs III - Funky Finger Productions style...

Re: Ladies, Get Over Yourself: The Good Man Confusion

IamJavone — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 21:41:01 -0000

Real talk, a man is going to show you who he is out of the gate. And if the man is NOT what you want in a man.... to the left, to the left. If you want a man with a job, then get a man with a job; if you want a man with no children, get a man with no children.
Its all about knowing what you want in a man and not sacrificing yourself for the sake of a man.
And accept him for who he is. And all of this is normally revealed as the two of you are dating (and not sleeping together).
Dating a man is very important. You can learn alot from him within the first 30 days. He will show you just who he is.

Re: Ladies, Get Over Yourself: The Good Man Confusion

IamJavone — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 21:34:27 -0000

THAT'S IT!

Real women, real talk.

Xilla, what kind of girls (notice I didn't say women) are you surrounding yourself with that they have this mentality. Awwwww poor baby, wanna come hang out with me and my crew, lol!!

Re: Ladies, Get Over Yourself: The Good Man Confusion

IamJavone — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 21:33:43 -0000

KD, let me ask how old are you. And I am in by no way being disrespectful. Because a 26 year old young man, is not a 36 year old man.
You are right, women do know within the first 5 seconds if you have a shot at the title. I will accept the compliment, if he asks for digits/pin # I kindly tell him I am currently not accepting at this moment. Very nicely and politely.

Re: Ladies, Get Over Yourself: The Good Man Confusion

Nixx_01 — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 21:33:11 -0000

Obviously KD you don't see what Deeny or I am saying. Im not oblivious to others but I must add I'm not obligated to acknowledge a stranger. Thats right you are a stranger and will remain one to me if you approach me on the street. My safety comes first. I will be polite say thanks and keep it moving. You can be a kid in the candy store and grab for everything you like but I don't deal with boys I deal with men. KD you expect Waaaaaayyy too much from a simple passing on the street.

Re: Ladies, Get Over Yourself: The Good Man Confusion

IamJavone — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 21:30:45 -0000

And thats the double truth...ruth!!!!

Re: Ladies, Get Over Yourself: The Good Man Confusion

IamJavone — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 21:29:18 -0000

YOU GO GIRL!!!! That is all that needs to be said. Period, point blank!!!

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hunniebee724 — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 21:19:46 -0000

I ignore most men who approach me on the street. Like Deeny said, most of them are either disrespectful or not what I would be looking for. I have two degrees and a career....what can some guy hanging out on a street corner do for me?! I especially hate when I politely tell a guy that I have a man, and he *still* tries to talk to me! I don't think all men are dogs though. I have a lot of guy friends who have never cheated on a girlfriend and would never disrespect a woman. My man is an amazing man who treats me like a queen. However, there *are* men out there who are dogs....and when you come in contact with enough of them, a woman may start feeling like that's all that's out there.

Good blog, L.....for those of you that don't know him....he's one of the good men out there.

Melissa