DISQUS

BlogXilla For Sexual Intellectuals: Is Bigger Really Better?

  • MzCeo · 9 months ago
    I don't know if I would consider this a horror story but my guy has a big one! The biggest that I've had and he knows exactly what to do with it AND he lasts very long, long enough for me to get mine off a few times and leave me exhausted and dehydrated at the end. The problem is that I'm often times left swollen and sore/torn down there and I don't know what to do. We like to have sex multiple times and by the second round which could be hours later I'm so torn that it can be extremely painful and making the experience less enjoyable for me. Most of the time I have to take a good 3 days off from our intense love making in order to heal so that I can enjoy it and handle him like I should. Any suggestions for me? I don't know what to do...
  • onebaddboo · 9 months ago
    (if your into it) Try using a glass dildo but freeze it first (even the boo can help you with that!). The coldness will help relief the some of the intitial soreness and it'll feel great at the same time!
  • Ant_from_Chi · 9 months ago
    Also try lubrication.
  • MzCeo · 9 months ago
    Yeah we lube it's just sometimes even they doesn't work :-(
  • MzCeo · 9 months ago
    Hmm glass dildo never tried that! Sounds interesting... I'll try it! Thanks! Now is the chilled dildo prior to the wreckage or after??
  • Thoney Gangstasweet · 9 months ago
    the glass dildo will work. also try carbonated vaseline[in the brown jar] its great for inflamation and is kinda like ambesol/vicks for ur vagina... thing is, it smells medical... if ur goin right back into it wash it off or his tongue will be numb/u'll smell like the dr.....heating pads work well also and with the tingle of the vaseline, it can be quite soothing! good luck!
  • Dizz · 9 months ago
    Wow...I'm still stuck on you calling her your favorite Bust it Baby...wow
  • natalia · 9 months ago
    well a friend of mine had been begging me to let him hit it and i was attracted to him so after the millionth time asking i let him come over. he always struck as a n**** with a big dick but i was shocked when i first saw it. it wasnt long at all. but it was hella wide. the sex ended up hurting like hell and he was a min man littertly. by the time i asked if its in(wich a women never should do)he had already bust a nut and was talking but round two....ahhh from that day on he was obsessed with me and i knew we was never trying that again, feel sorry for his gf at the time =)
  • taut_7 · 9 months ago
    hold on. it hurt but you didn't know it was in? lol.
  • natalia · 9 months ago
    i dont know what angle we was on cause when it first went in i felt nothing... coulda been a feather tickling me! but when he had me from behind i was almost in tears. and he must have know becuase he said man every chick i bone say its too painful. i dontk now but i do perfer gettin down wiht a man at least 8 inches ... so many possibilities and it makes giving head more enjoyable for me. ive been told im to the gods with it* =)
  • mizznasty · 9 months ago
    I have had my share of disappointing members. The shlong is extra big and then they treat you like your damn body is a swing set, just back and forth and back forth...BOO to that ish. Then i have had an extra ssmmmeedium shlong, i was nervous as hell cuz after 3months of dating and this is what the hell i was waiting for?! but he put it down. i mean i guess he knew his ish was small cuz he definitely put in work, i mean all types of positions and multitasking. Good times...it can be too big and you know cuz ur kitty be on swole the next day and you walk like you holding a watermelon in between your thighs...
  • rodeosbest · 9 months ago
    prefer a well endowed man but not a super freakin size.. had one of those and ms thang was so swollen the next morning I had to call my sister for a consult.. she laughed so hard I hung up.. you have to know how to write your name on it though.. when I walk out the front door the next morning.. the way I walk.. you should be able to sit back and say to yourself "hell yeah I did that sh@$" by the way I walk out that door
  • Isis · 9 months ago
    My old boo was too big . . .I mean waaaaaaaaaay to big. We we're originally just friends (we'd known each other for a while and he treated me like a little sister). Well i kept hearing stories about how he was a demon in the bed and my curiosity got the best of me. And when I say curiosity killed the Kat. . . it did. . literally. The man peeled off his boxers and I damn near fainted, and to make matters worse he said it wasn't all the way hard yet (at that point I think I blacked out). The Patron wore off the nerves kicked i and I no longer wanted to challenge the monster. . . .in the end I wound up soaking in epson salt and fearing my vajayjay would never be the same. He did have skills he was just hung to low. . .SMH
  • Sabiri · 9 months ago
    Lol Is. You're too funny.
  • Isis · 9 months ago
    lol. . .I just tell the truth
  • Thoney Gangstasweet · 9 months ago
    lmao! that's crazy...i've seen guys like that and refused to hump...i'm terrified of my "stuff" gettin rearranged or loose!
  • Ness · 9 months ago
    Hmmmmmm let me see....let me see.....

    I had this one guy who was WELL endowed...but he didn't know there were condoms for XXL sized men. So I had to show him that which pissed me off. Then there was NO 4play...so it was str8t pounding which isn't cool when ur THAT big.

    At the end of the day, I stopped dealing w/ him b/c I had no patience for an inexperienced guy.

    Fortunately that was my ONLY bad big d*ck experience lol. The sex gods made up w/ the rest of the "mandi's" after that. ;)
  • DC_REALEST · 9 months ago
    i remember a older chic my couzins had hooked me up w/ while i was out of town visiting keep saying to her GF the next day that i had a 'wonka horse' being from DC i wasn't with the NC country lingo...so i asked my couz what da fcuk is they talking bout. he said..."u str8" she telling her you had a big joint. i was like "oh, iight" i thought ol' girl was going in on me for a sec.
    truth is...yea most of females want that biggest joint...but they be running from dat joint. like my mann Katt WIlliams say...a nugga must know his "fcuk count" LOL, so as long as you can get thru a whole CD your good to go...but if you on round 2 and they first song aint even got to the chours...then you need to practice some homie. ROFL!
  • Phuck U · 9 months ago
    ^^^^ LOL***it wasnt even all the way hard yet*** ^^^^

    Well I have had dudes to rip me really bad...oW!!

    And then I had a dude who had a long curved on and yeah it hit g-spots but then it hit others spot that was just uncomfortable....it felt like my appendix was gonna explode

    I had a dude who barely made it in because of his thickness and it felt good but then from the back I swear I was crying [but not tears of joy] I wanted to stop but me being the skinny chick trynna prove a point I could take it...but then I ran away because I just couldnt...

    LOL...yeah people claiming they want 10+ you can keep all that...NO!!!!!!!!!! forreal I dont have any kids I dont want all of that messing up my birth canal!
  • thejadednyer · 9 months ago
    yes, there is such a thing as too big and I'll never make the mistake of thinking otherwise ever again!

    *winces at the memory of Mr. Big*
  • Blacksand · 9 months ago
    When I was a freshman in college I was the quiet chill brother who was cool with everybody. After I was with a certain senior in my Sociology class I became known as the brotha who was packin! More young women became curious and some could take it while others were crawling on the bedsheets. I believe if a woman gives you a double look and takes a deep breath you have pleasantly surprised her and are straight as long as you handle your business. I also believe most women want someone in the middle who can handle their business. That is just what I believe.
  • DC_REALEST · 9 months ago
    i have a question to all the FEMALES in this post. for the larger member did you boost his ego...and for the smaller did you crush his ego?

    just asking???
  • HeadMistress · 9 months ago
    I've only had one "too big" and I think even though I didn't enjoy it, the fact that it was too big to enjoy seemed to be an ego boost...go figure o_O

    I've only seen (never experienced) a too small and I only saw it cause dude was seriously presumptuous about whipping it out in the first place but I think he may have mistaken my "Hell Naw" expression as disappointment in his size as opposed to what it really was...
  • black_barbi510 · 9 months ago
    I've only experienced one small one and will never do it again. I'm sure I crushed his ego, but he was one them braggin types and he couldnt deliver. It was such a waste of time, I dont even think he lasted a minute...probably why he likes to eat pu$$y.
  • DC_REALEST · 9 months ago
    iight i hear your HeadMiss and BlkBarbi... basically all them loud talking chumps be stuntin huh? dats why i lay in da cut...and then when it go down...is like DAMN "i ain't even know..."

    basically!!!
  • onebaddboo · 9 months ago
    For the "too small" man... i never crushed his ego but I darn sure didn't boast it either!!! We were friends then and are still friends now.
  • hazysin · 9 months ago
    I STROKE EVERYONE'S EGO......I HONESTLY BELIEVE THAT THE STROKE MATTERS MORE THAN THE SIZE. NOW, IF YOU STROKE IS HORRIBLE...IMMA CRUSH YOUR SPIRIT
  • Sexy N Sassy · 9 months ago
    LMAO @ soggy Cap'n Crunch, because thats what it feels like when its too small. As far a big, I like em big but not too big, I dont want nobody strenghing my shit outta shape. Even though they say pussy is elastic and you can always do coochie crunches, that explains the tighing aspect of it but not the deepness. I'm sorry I will not allow any man to leave his blueprint if you will in my pussy.
  • HeadMistress · 9 months ago
    This one dude had a baby leg and I'm talkin the size of one of those abnormal 18 lb eastern european babies, OMG, the absolute worst, sometimes tolerable during the moment depending on the position...but the morning after, UGH, it's like somebody taking out all your internal organs and putting them all back in the wrong spot...
  • Blacksand · 9 months ago
    It truly is a catch 22 when you are a brotha. I myself am very careful not to hurt a woman. However, If you are well endowed are you supposed to be sympathetic to the puss? On the other hand, if you are little is it not okay to make up for your misfortune by boasting about your sexual exploits.?
  • HeadMistress · 9 months ago
    I think if you are well endowed you definitely have to be sympathetic to the puss (provided you care enough about her) during the "breaking in" period. I didn't stick around long enough to find out if I would ever get used to it.

    If you are little, idk, I don't think "boasting" does anything, if you're good it will be proven by your actions not your words...

    Men big and small can all talk a good game but from the comments you see their are "big ones" who are wack and "little ones" who are good
  • Blacksand · 9 months ago
    As always, you are on point HeadMistress. I'll take it a step further though. If you are big enough to hurt a woman that should not be your mission. And if that is a man's mission he needs to check himself. Sex is supposed to be pleasurable for both people.

    I hear you loud and clear HeadMistress. Your comments are well read.
  • HeadMistress · 9 months ago
    Thanx & APPLAUSE @ "If you are big enough to hurt a woman that should not be your mission. And if that is a man's mission he needs to check himself."

    More than a few men need to read and understand that statement....for some strange reason "hurting her" makes some men feel like they have accomplished something...
  • Blacksand · 9 months ago
    You are welcome and thank you. Some men get it twisted and don't take the time to truly please the person they are with. They just go for theirs and don't care about the damage they do to the person in the process. It is sad really. My motto is too keep the person I'm with cumming. I believe a woman is like a wall that needs to be climbed slowly. Not a door that you just open, you feel me.
  • DC_REALEST · 9 months ago
    iight....where is the chic FanceeFoxx (the multiple doucher) at in this convo...i think ya'll scared off telling her she shouldn't douch repeatedly.
  • Blacksand · 9 months ago
    She could be off recovering somehwere getting her PH balance in order!!LOL!!
  • DomiMami · 9 months ago
    LMAO. She cant post. Her coochie was so dry from overusage that when her legs rubbed together her kitty caught fire.
    I KEED, I KEED!
  • Blacksand · 9 months ago
    AAWW MAN, FIRE IN THE HOLE!!!!!!!!!!! And I just watched Back Draft!!! LOL!!
  • hazysin · 9 months ago
    DAMN XILLA,
    MY HORROR STORY.....BACK IN HIGH SCHOOL I WAS DATING THIS GUY...I WAS A JUNIOR AND HE WAS FRESHMAN. ALTHOUGH I WAS ALREADY SEXING I HAD DECIDED TO WAIT TO LET HIM HIT BECAUSE HE WAS YOUNGER THAN I. HE USED TO ALWAYS SAY, "DAMN, IMMA BLOW YOUR BACK OUT". I WOULD LAUGH IT OFF AND KEEP IT MOVING. I MEAN HE WAS ONLY MY BOYFRIEND BECAUSE I WANTED HIM TO GO TO MY MILITARY BALL WITH ME (HE WAS HELLA FINE).
    ANYWAY, AFTER THE MILITARY BALL WE DECIDED TO GET IT POPPIN IN THE LIMO. BEING A YOUNG GIRL, I ONLY GLANCED AT IT WHILE HE APPLIED THE CONDOM BUT AS SOON AS HE STUCK IT IN.....I SAW STARS. IT FELT LIKE I WAS LOSING MY VIRGINITY OVER AGAIN. I WORE A HANDMADE SILK EGGSHELL COLORED PANTSUIT TO THE OCCASION AND AFTER THE 5-6 MINUTE EXPERIENCE WAS OVER....I COULDNT WALK, LITERALLY. I HAD TO GO TO THE EMERGENCY ROOM BECAUSE I WAS BLEEDING AND EVERYTHING, HE HAD TORN EVERYTHING UP!!!
  • SW1 · 9 months ago
    I use to say that size does matter (i like them big) but since i have been with my b/f i have changed my mind. He is small but boy does he know how to work it. No complaints here!
  • FanceeFoxx · 9 months ago
    Size doesn't matter if you love someone. However, I do recall one of the Queens of comedy, Simone, saying ,"you got these lil dick guys walking around here like it ain't nothing. " My interpretatioin of that is - it very deceivieing/frustrating when these small size guys who no they can't satisfy a woman to be so deceivieng. I feel the man should be honest , straight up and confess - tell the woman you don't have much up front.. So she can at least be a lady about it and make an informed decision.

    Like the pimp Katt Wms said, a man should know his fuk number, and meaning practicing self control and pleasing your woman. You got a lot men who are endowed but pretend to care for you but otherwise they don't back up their talk with action.
    They just out of control and expecting their woman to pretend to orgasm.
  • FanceeFoxx · 9 months ago
    Y'all making fun of me -lol. I like it. i have complied and gave my opinion about the games played with and big and lil size guys.
  • Blacksand · 9 months ago
    It's all good Ms. FanceeFoxx. I got nuthin but love for you baby. (Five Heart Beat style). Do what you do Ms. Foxx.
  • OooLaLa · 9 months ago
    Size really shouldn't matter if there's love ... but a nice big one sure does feel good... now I'm not talking about the super big freaky size, because too much of a good thing always becomes a nuisance.
  • nynikki · 9 months ago
    I dated a man who was really too large for me. Plain physics: He just couldn't fit all the way in it. No real horror story because I didn't allow him to hurt me. He tried, selfish ass that he was, but I stopped him cold. Found out later that he watched waaaay too much porn and thought all women needed non-stop pounding. Had to explain to him that porn chicks are paid to fake it if necessary even if it was killing them. It was ridiculous since he was 13yrs older than me and I was schooling him.
  • hazysin · 9 months ago
    IVE HAD THAT ISSUE BEFORE..THE PORN THING. WHEN MY GUY AND I WATCH HE ALWAYS TRIES SOME OF THE CRAZY SHIT HE HAS SEEN DONE AND I HAVE TO QUICKLY RECTIFY THE SITUATION BEFORE I HAVE TO HURT HIM
  • WillEJohnson · 9 months ago
    Ok. I've had this discussion before but ladies still fail to give details. I had to a survey on it, most women agree that 7-8 inches is perfect size, also many women prefer circumference to length, I guess its about hitting the walls... but anyways they said the biggest thing that the male partner forgets is the foreplay. Many of them stated they they did not achieve an orgasm. Unfortunately, those who stated they weren't being pleased also stated that they did not say something during the act.

    From the survey, many of those who experience the smaller package (5-10) had a better experience compared to the larger counterparts. Communication and willingness to be open to different positions than your typical created a better experience.
  • nynikki · 9 months ago
    Blacksand: "If you are big enough to hurt a woman that should not be your mission. And if that is a man's mission he needs to check himself."

    WillEJohnson: "Communication and willingness to be open to different positions than your typical created a better experience"

    Thank you gents! And please school all the knuckleheads you meet (we ladies will do the same, deal?)
  • Blacksand · 9 months ago
    You are welcome nynikki. I aim to please. You got a deal nynikki.
  • SkyHarris · 9 months ago
    I don't have a horror story, however, i can most defnitely understand where she is coming from. I think the issue with the "big man" not being able to work it stems from the fact that men have developed this distorted idea that being "big" is enough...NOT TRUE. I recently had an encounter with a "larger member" of the dick society and was hugely disappointed once the show started. I find that the "average joes" try harder to please and are usually very successful. I'll take an average worker over a big guy any day! The only thing a "bigger guy" can do for me is go a little deeper and if not performed correctly that brings more pain than pleasure.
  • Le Chocolat: Passion Fatale · 9 months ago
    no horror story about a guy being too big...
    i do have one about some guy i recently hooked up with who was hella small!
    ..."hella small" is me be generous.

    NO JOKE!
    flacid: big as my thumb.
    hard: maybe 4 inches
    ****he was so proud of it too!****


    regular size condom was too big.

    saddest thing i ever saw.

    i couldn't do anything...
  • Teresa · 9 months ago
    big dick + lack of intelligence = can you give your penis to someone else!!!!! The biggest di*k I ever had,belonged to the dumbest man I had ever met. If he would have kept quiet I probably would still be giving him some, but NOOOOOOOOOOO!!!! he has to speak! Not all athletes are dumb- but this young man IS the poster child for athletes who lose it all because of being just straight DUMB!!!!!!!!
  • Xan · 9 months ago
    ...ummm okay Xilla, basically I'm kinda perfect and can hold my own sexual weight and back up the shit I talk (lol) so I have no idea what bad sex must feel like, but it ain't happened to my ass recently! [snaps fingers]

    oh I've had the faggoty fuck who accidentally tried to do the little-dick moves with an enormous schlong--needless to say I was displeased, but me and my kegels helped that pussy nigga get on with his duty and the hell out my face.

    but the WORST experience with a good D? OMFG...I was in high school, fucking some next-door neighbor on the regular during summer vacation cause his dick was so amazing. It even had an aura...I mean, dick SO fantastic that I wanted to buy it a separate Christmas gift. So each day at 10am sharp (cause that was when mama left for work lol) I would tip next door and bounce on his big huge adolescent dick for hours...literally HOURS...on his gym equipment, easy chair, homework desk, bed, closet shelf, even tied a swing to this nigga's ceiling one day (got the idea from some book!) and fucked him on it...oh my word. it was the best summer ever.

    until I got back to school the following fall. only to find that my amazing secret fuck buddy was actually a major rival bitch's little brother...and this nigga was in Special Education.

    ...as in NO regular classes at all special ed! he was absolutely mentally handicapped...but then how did he know what to say to me? i have no idea, he was a fantastic lay (even said the right dirty shit I like lol) but homie was just clinically retarded.
  • Trice · 9 months ago
    THAT just made me laugh so incredibly hard, thank you!
  • Yup · 9 months ago
    A medium size thick d*ck is enough for me. I don't need all of those extra inches. As long as he knows what he's doing I'm good. I was never impressed with the huge ones. Nice to look at but painful to take in. They say we can accommodate all men but some sizes are too huge. A turn off is an uncircumcised one..ew I won't go down on that..some men don't clean their sh*t..leaving smegma and all this crap on there.
  • TRJ · 9 months ago
    every girl i have been with has told me dat im big n afterward they say i go deeper than any other but i took dat as over exaggeration until the maggy started having a tight fit and started braking them so now its XL for me. i dont know if it was because of my size but i have made one girl cum as soon as put it in but anyway one thing i was told by my partner, at that time, is that dudes thats not too long got something to prove, lol, so they do wild positions and go the extra mile while my kind tend to think that since its big i aint gotta put in that much work and stick to do original stroke. but regardless i treat everytime like the first time!