DISQUS

The Girl in the interview lol · 8 months ago

Dang can I comment lol. I have far from low standards but I dont mind paying-Ladies dont get mad about that. True-doesnt mean that women are birds just because she doesnt pick up the bill but I NEVER assume-First 3 letters is something Ill never do and thats make an ASS of myself :)

streetz · 8 months ago

Do you go Dutch?
I always expect to go dutch and whatever happens at the end happens-I dont mind paying for a guy either just FYI

^^^

chuuuuch! lol

Baller T · 8 months ago

Woe a woman who isn't selfish and stingy. She expects to go Dutch. Not like most of these birds out here marry me.

babydoll · 8 months ago

Are you serious? Why she gotta be a bird because YOU should pay for dinner in the first place. My lord, how "men" have changed ....

If its my MAN, paying is nothing, I sometimes take pride in it, ONCE IN A WHILE tho. But in the courting process, Ya know, when he is trying to prove he isn't another lame, or trying to prove he is worth putting time into, well ain't paying for shit!! So cluck cluck......

Ms.310 · 8 months ago

So you have to be a bird to expect a man to pay? It's one thing to be prepared to go dutch, but if you have to expect it- might want to re-evaluate your choices in who you're going on dates with. I'm all for taking care of the check- but not on the first date sheesh! IMO this type of thinking only adds to the decline of the price of…nevermind that’s for a different post lol. I get what she saying...but let's not all get excited like this is what's hot in 09.

Hotnesss · 8 months ago

I dont see anything wrong with EXPECTING to go dutch on the 1st, 2nd or 3rd date. It just shows that every man she date, she not looking to have a relationship with unlike some women. If he pays for the first date and she pay for the second, does that make him a good man or a man she should want to know better? If so, some of yall have low standards and may need to re-evaluate yourself. Who cares who pays. Nothing beats a good time. Enjoy yourself!! Live and laugh and stop beating a sista up because she want to take care of herself!

Ms.310 · 8 months ago

Well let me start by saying that I don't feel that expecting a man to pay for a 1st date means you want to take long walks on the beach and have a relationship with him....where you got that idea I'm not sure. I also don't remember saying that if he pays he's automatically a good man. My point is if EVERYtime you go out, you expect to pay- it's a problem. Also I wasn't beating up on the young lady in the interview, I was upset that those of us who were brought up to let a man do the courting (some of y'all need to add that word to your vocabulary) were called birds. Taking care of yourself is paying your on bills not picking up a check at a restaurant lol. (No- I'm not saying that she does not pay her own bills so please don’t try and read between the lines)

OrangeStar616 · 8 months ago

Pretty Much Ms.310 and BabyDoll..WTH espeically if dude asked me out.
You might as well hang out with your girls....low expectations= low standards...and then you pratcically naked on the internet talking about the Lord mmmmhhhmmmm.LOL

Blacksand · 8 months ago

If I am putting my bid in and I ask a woman out she is not paying for anything. As we progress and she feels more comfortable with our relationship and wants to treat me, that is fine but it is not expected at all. I am from the old school I guess. Ms. Babydoll, Ms. 310 and Ms. OraneStar616 are on point. Tell the truth shame the devil Ms. OrangeStar616.lol

Lili · 8 months ago

You should reach out to the guys who commented first and let them know the deal...

The interviewee · 8 months ago

Thank you LiLi-They are beating up on me like I said something wrong haha. Every woman has their own standards and expectations

Blacksand · 8 months ago

Thank you Ms. Lili, I treat every woman the way I would want someone to treat my mother and my sister. That is how I was raised. Maybe they were not brought up that way. I have two older brothers and we all treat women that way. That is just what we were taught to do. Hopefully the brothers who commented first will change their ways in regards to their dating etiquette. Have a good day Ms. Lili.

Opinionated · 8 months ago

Learn how to spell its practically and she is model, those are professional photos as you can tell and I didnt know God judged anyone so who are YOU to judge her!?. She is very classy with hers-Dont act like you dont have a body picture up on your facebook or myspace-that you probably took with you camera phone hahahaha. Thats just simply hating-state your opinion but dont knock her hustle because Im sure if you COULD you WOULD. Get on or get spit on hater LMAO. Have you heard Neyo's song-I love her cuz she got her own, come on now, this is a new age her standards arent low she just doesnt expect men to men so she can take care of her damn self. Ever thought about that? Sorry Shaneil, I dont even know you but these women are taking it on you like YOU made the comment about the birds ha!

Kiwi · 8 months ago

Expect to go dutch my a$$

I dont expect to go dutch. I never go dutch either he pay or I pay! Thats it! And I will only pay for my man because its a relationship...if we are still "dating" for 6 months or less...no!

But that is just me.

EbonyLolita · 8 months ago

*Round of applause* @Blacksand
So, this chick is now the epitome of woman b.c she'll pay on the 1st date. *Kissteeth* and now me and every woman like me is a bird b/c she doesn't pay on a 1st date. Listen Males have got to grow into MEN. Chivalry seems to be Dead and Stinking if Males can call Women birds so quick fast in a hurry. Mi rahtid. I don't beg a man for dinner but it would behoove him to pay, especially if he asked me out. C'mon if all your doing is chasing tail that's the only reason why a Male would want to go Dutch. A Man can tell when a Woman is trying to just "get a quick meal and dash" vs Courting to get to know a worthy woman.

But, once again what do I know I'm just a "bird" that can swipe her own Debit card at any time, in any state when she wants a good meal. P.S. and I can cook like a Mah when I have the time and dedication to do so.
*deuces*

Blacksand · 8 months ago

Thank you Ms. EbonyLolita, there are still a few of us out here. A real man would not call a woman out of her name either. There is a difference between a guy and a man. That is just the truth. I'll leave it at that.

Tiawb270 · 8 months ago

Not sure what all the hype is... If two people wanna enjoy time together who cares who picks up the tab. Independent Queen or not, it's about the fun of getting together. Me and my girl have been out many times and offered to pay the tab. Most of the time the guys picked up the tab in the end. They said that it was nice that we were bold enough to step out on our own note and not depend on a Man to take care of everything. There are some really genuine Men out there that the don't want to be used no more than we want to be. Bump the tab...enjoy the spirit of good company.

DEANTAE · 8 months ago

I AGREE WITH TIAWB 100%

KeriKeriKeri · 8 months ago

F*ck that a man better pay for me, or else i'm not going anywhere with him. If he doesn't pay he is a sorry nigga not worth my time. Fuck equal rights It's not equal when i make him eat me out for desert with out giving any head!

YouDee · 8 months ago

What happened to equal rights? I thought people wanted to progress and move ahead breaking stereotypes and traditions that did set gender based requirements? Haha. That's right. People want equal rights, not equal responsibilities.

Having said that. I've been raised to be one that picks up the tab, carries bags, holds doors, shows respect to my girl. That can easily set me up to be walked over but meh. I still find this shit amusing.

DEANTAE · 8 months ago

THATS MY GIRL EVERYTHING IS WELL SPOKEN AND WELL RESPECTED! 100 BABY

Ronan · 8 months ago

The answers are as real as the woman herself. She is truly beautiful inside and out. Anyone is blessed just for having met her and when she is gone something is missing in your world. XO

ed · 8 months ago

It depends on who asks who. If I am inviting I am going to pay. If a woman asks me she usually pays. I have female friends who treat me when I am short of funds cause they know i will take care of the next one.

Charm · 8 months ago

I'm a child-hood friend so my opinion is biased but I've always been impressed w/ this chick. She's surprisingly grounded for someone that is so used to being the center of attention. Must be the Oregonian in her. And fellas, take it from me, she can throw-down in the kitchen but isn't too cute to roll up her sleaves and play a game of basketball... and win...sometimes!

Peace and Love,

Charm

INTERVIEWEE · 8 months ago

LMAO. I LOVE YOU CHARM! AND SOMETIMES??? IM A WINNER ALL THE TIME HAHAHA. I DID COOK FOR YOU THOUGH DIDNT I. THANKS FOR THE LOVE-DO YOU SEE HOW I GOT CORNERED LIKE I ANSWERED MY INTERVIEW WRONG LOL-ITS MY INTERVIEW RIGHT, IT IS MY CHOICE IF I MIND GOING DUTCH OR NOT RIGHT. I DIDNT CALL WOMEN BIRDS-CANT HELP OTHERS OPINIONS

BlogXilla · 8 months ago

lol hey I want a meal!! Can i get a plate made?

INTERVIEWEE · 8 months ago

Sure you can, when are you coming over?

daz LM · 8 months ago

i think i just fell in Like with her

OrangeStar616 · 8 months ago

Hater never, ass exposed on the internet never, paid my own way everyday, condo, car and everything else dear...... and you should be pretty busy spellchecking darling. the inetrent is full of blogs without spelling police!

babydoll · 8 months ago

To the lady in the interview, I don't think folks were really commenting on your interview soley. No one said that YOU called them a bird, we are referring to the only guy that said that women that want men to pay are birds. That is it. I know its your interview, but this is a blog, so folks are going to express however they feel and it might not have anything to do with YOU. Your interview was just playing devils advocate and it openend up dialog, thats all. If your going to do interviews, you can't take stuff too personally.

But the price of p*ssy is down because chicks want to play the man role, and men LOVE it! If I was a man, i would call chicks that have basic standards, birds too, because they making me work hard for the p*ssy and if I was a grimey ass nigga I would HATE that lol.

yes · 8 months ago

I really don't think she meant she expects to go dutch in the way you all seem to be taking it. I think she meant more as in if the guy doesn't turn out to be decent and pulls a "I forgot my wallet" move then she has her own money to pay her share. She may not start paying for a guy until later on. She's just trying to show that she is not just some chick looking for a free meal.

INTERVIEWEE · 8 months ago

IM JUST ENJOYING THE POSTS LIKE EVERYONE ELSE-I LIKE TO BE PROACTIVE LOL. AND "YES" YOU HIT THE NAIL RIGHT ON THE HEAD. THANK YOU!!!

BLUE · 8 months ago

I SEE U DOIN YO THANG..NOBODY DOES IT BETTER!! IVE NEVER SEEN NO ONE BADDER WIT A GOOD HEAD ON THEIR SHOULDERS. EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW HOW AND BE ABLE TO TAKE CARE OF THEMSELVES. JUS CUZ A MAN PAYS FOR A DATE DOESNT MAKE HIM A GOOD MAN. IF THAT WAS THE ONLY QUALIFICATION THEN EVERY MAN WOULD BE PERFECT AND WE ALL KNOW THATS NOT TRUE!! KEEP DOIN YO THANG AND DONT WORRY ABOUT ALL THESE NAIVE FEMALES. THEY AINT GOT NOTHING ON U ANYWAY!!!! !! U ARE BEAUTY IN ITS TRUEST FORM!! THERE SHOULD BE MORE OF U

Quez · 8 months ago

Beautifully Complicated is right on the money... lol

-Quez