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BeautyMarkThis — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 12:29:45 -0000

Date who you want to date. I just believe the reason to date out of your race shouldn't be based on characteristics/stereotypes of a race as a whole.

If a white man told me he wasn't attracted to black women and it wasn't based on a negative perception of the way black women act etc. I wouldn't care nor would I call him Racist. You like what you like. Color is just color but when you start putting stop blocks because of BS beliefs of how someone is,or acts because of their skin... than you may have issues you need to correct within yourself.

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gudo — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 15:29:51 -0000

black women who complain about a shortage of black men are racist and need to open their perspective.

i'm aware that's a bold statement.. but if you're one of those women/men who complain about that.. you're basically saying that you're okay with people limiting their love for someone based on skin color.

if you were to end up falling for a white man... and he said nah.. i only date white women... you'd be pulling the racist card.. and rightfully so.

since when did skin color matter in love.

and who has a choice in real love anyway?

if there's real love there... take it.. and give it...
that's what matters in the end.

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BeautyMarkThis — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 18:19:31 -0000

For me personally, I don't have much against dating another race anymore. I am comfortable within myself to appreciate that people find love in all different races. However, I do have an issue when black men decide to date out of their race because of the stereotypical things such as Black women have issues etc. What race doesn't? Shouldn't you be checking yourself and the people YOU decide to date and not an entire race?. When black men start bashing ALL black women that's when I become defensive. I am an Individual and I don't stand for ALL black women.

I do find that people who date out of their race become amazed of how the other race treats them. Well duh! a lot of times other races are going to go out of their way to prove they are different and better than your own in the beginning. Ask a man who has dated both and most times you will get "ALL WOMEN ARE CRAZY" lol. I have experienced this first hand and it amuses me how we appreciate this as being genuine sometimes. Not saying it is always that way, that's ignorant but it does happen. We do take advantage of our own because we are too comfortable and have an understanding without anything being said.

If you are genuinely attracted to anyone of any race and that is just the person you are..Go for it!. But if you have foolish reasons like "Oh they will treat me better" go ahead..Women like me don't like you.

We need to stop basing Interracial relationships or being bias because of stupid expectations. If you didn't attract the people you do or date the people you did. You wouldn't be judging a race as a whole!

I didn't write all I wanted to say LOL but this is good enough

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MissBeasley — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 21:36:51 -0000

Aww thanks!

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MissBeasley — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 21:36:04 -0000

Yes! It's really out of control but hopefully we can raise enough to make at least a small difference. I need volunteers too! so if you have free time get at me...I'm on Myspace...

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MsJx3 — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 10:31:08 -0000

My motto in life is "Love has no Color, Only me and you" ... I honestly believe you cant help who you fall in love with. My husband is white, and i am black. Ive dated other race's also, but this is whom i fell in love with. Interracial isnt just white and black people. It can be Asian and Black , Asian and German whatever! I was brought up openly, to accept all types of people ... his family loves me, and mine the same. I dont care who other people date.. to each its own. If that person makes you happy whether they are the same race as you or not then so be it.

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Paul — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 23:44:09 -0000

I NEVER said "all black women." Nor am I putting black women down. I was simply giving a reason why some black men date other races. I've dated black women before and no they did not have an attitude. But since my comment was BS, I guess a black man doesn't get respect for his opinion. I find it as a waste of time to replying to your response.

I'm done talkin. Holla!

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amandaling — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 17:50:19 -0000

If it wasn't for interracial dating and marriage there wouldn't be all these gorgeous mixed babies :) I say go for it!

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Zan — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 15:25:20 -0000

Okay, I didn't know this post through Twitter ish was going to post my gov't name, damn...

...oh, well...

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Zan — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 15:24:07 -0000

I don't necessarily agree with Xilla's motivation for wanting to date outside his race, but I'm not about to sit here and bash him because he has an opinion. Do you, Xilla, but do it for the right reasons.

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Lupe — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 12:43:51 -0000

Yeah lets all have mutts

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Lupe — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 12:42:52 -0000

Folks just have to realize black men care less about black folks everyday now
Thats why they get a white girl have babies with them hoping shawty genes are strong as hell and that the baby look white
So the generations to come are white and more accepted
Niggaz want white or light bright babies end of discussion
They look down on you because they dont like black women period

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ThoneyGsweet — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 00:27:06 -0000

So before you go off thinking White folks are all embracing, altruistic, touchy feely persons, and Blacks are, well, kinda suspect, realize that we ALL have the capacity to embrace. However, some groups have the luxury of picking and choosing, while other groups must for an admittance stamp. Love ya. Blue.

REAL SHIT RIGHT THEA! seriously! h5 or somethin!

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ThoneyGsweet — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 00:25:36 -0000

YES! YES! OOOOHHH YES! p.s. whiteboy usually paints my toes too!

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ThoneyGsweet — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 00:24:25 -0000

u betta SAY DAT! seriously i cosign EVERYTHING U SAID! str8 up!

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ThoneyGsweet — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 00:14:42 -0000

sistas are salty about brothas w/snowbunny's because we ARE/know a downright TRILL great sista thas lonely and could benefit from a brotha not going that route. we're salty cuz brothas have optionswhile we scrap up over leftovers.

whites aren't comfortable due to historical reasons. a brotha no matter what boils down to a larger menacing peen set to penetrate their most precious gift. since SO MANY brothas are w/othas, they've come to grin and bear it, but BELIVE that in the end their siding w/ their own skin....

society expectssistas to betacky and classless and lonely. bitter and angry before they snap up a whiteboy. sistas are always the least desired of all the races of women in the media, and as a mixed sista, i've been urged to wet my hair and dumb it down just to get a date.[maybe possibly] when a whiteguy shows more than a fleeting curious interest i catch ROYAL hell from all parties concerned. my peers, his peers, my family, coworkers etc. "u know he can't do it like a nigga girl.....how did u meet Chistian? he really likes u or just wanna hump? he must be paid huh? sweetheart u ain' gotta do that....u cute just pray on the Lawd's favor and wait fa dat nigga to be yo babydaddy and nothin more[emphasis mine]

it all boils down to lonliness and being excluded or made to feel less than...when u dip outside ur box its like poopin on ur racial peers.

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ThoneyGsweet — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 00:07:44 -0000

wow. feelin' some kinda way...again thank you for reinforcing the whole light is right thing...its sad how men can't get attention for being w/ a beautiful brown girl with her darker features... :(

DUCK! sombody just shot the last o' da brohethans!

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ThoneyGsweet — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 00:01:52 -0000

i'ma pray u ain' dyed ur hair! u know how i feel about this 1. there are FAR Too many lovely sistas that pay and treat the homies to go for a snow bunny. i'm 1 of 'em. i cook the meals[crack] get bottles, and am not manly yet i play/watch sports. i can't BEG for a black guy in chicago to treat me remotely human. White boys however open doors, kiss my ankles, break my back u name it.
despite the lovely treatment, i can't get over the stares and comments. its WAY worse to be a blackwoman w/ a white man. society expects brothas to get whitegirls even tho many whites/sistas feel some awful kinda way about it, its still socially accepted.
i've had random men buy me drinks and tell me i don't have to settle for the samoan, i've watched people stare at me my whole meal, i had one rich older white man assume i was a classy call girl and ask if he could have me for a week..... i got stories for days son! ultimately, do you,but please don't forsake the sistas cuz there are SO many out there that need a gr8 man....

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mahogany — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 23:15:37 -0000

Awesome! I'll let my friends know about this event!

I'm glad the donations are going to Sac. Food Bank.....There is SOOOO many homeless people in Sac. You know it's bad when OPRAH sends her cameras to Sac.

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JMK — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 21:57:42 -0000

If you are going for a white woman as a trophy you yourself have the problem. If a relationship is built on true love than in that case you should not care what other members of your race or any other race think. If you read my previous posts I find it disturbing that black women look at it as "we lost one of our own" that type of statement is just as bad as a white person calling the chcik a "n word lover." Its sad that society still has not progressed to the idea of acceptence. Isn't that the whole gay marriage dispute to? If you are in love then so be it, who am I to say, look, or disrespect u in any way. Until we as an entire society reach that point then this debate will be ended but by the looks of the thread, we are still a far far far ways off.

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216skillz — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 19:31:44 -0000

You speak of the exception, which is most often not the case. Take a look at how most of the women feel here posting in this thread. You fall in love with whomever you fall in love with, I am simply pointing out that many of us (black men) look at the white women as a trophy and thus the african american woman not as worthy.

Which is more telling about the man than anything else.

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luvlykey — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 19:23:11 -0000

Thank you very much. I totally agree that not only blacks but people
in general still live in the dark. This world is full of color and
you're right, no one owes anybody anything. Everyone needs to figure
out how to coexist and make decisions for themselves. It seems as
though most people feel the way they feel because that's how they're
"supposed" to feel and act.

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yummipanamena — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 17:55:33 -0000

i am dating interracialy right now, My boyfriend is sri lankan(indian) and raised in england. He is a nice guy, older than me .He stopped me in the airport and didnt let me go. i was apprehensive but hey it has been great since i meet him, we met in march and spoke on the phone for 3 months before he payed my ticket to visit him in the UK. we are now in july he wants to keep going forward i love the time long distance because we had to know each other purely for the mental. So he is dark and handsome but just not black. I prefer a black man but hey who ever treats me good, plus he has the same values as me, no children and is stable (electronical engineer)

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JMK — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 17:18:51 -0000

Its sad that it is 2009 and you still have that mind set. To me I believe by dating a white women you would be doing more for your culture cause you would be opening other people's eyes that might not know anything about the culture. To use a culture argument too, what about the black man that grows up in a community where only 3 students are African American... sorry he does not know the culture. How about the white women growing up in the inner city... they would know more about culture than the rural african american. EDUCATE YOURSELF!!!!! Its views like this that allow racism and predujice to still exsist today, in both the white and black communities.

The only obligation someone has is to make themselves happy... after that they have an obligation to their family, fuck the culture... it changes over time anyway, why not be part of that change?