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Itsme1 — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 23:19:53 -0000

First : I love this blog.... I read it all the time

Even thought abortions and "morning after pills are always available they can really damage a womans body especially if their over used. I just think ppl have to be more responsible. I hear ppl all the time tlk about how they dont use condoms or they just pull out, and their doing this with ppl their not even in a relationship with. There are so many crazy std's out there why would you even want to put yaself through that.

I cant tlk for the older crowd on here but im 19 and there are to many lil girls out here (i refuse to call them young women) having babies. Having a child is a unselfish act...it takes time and love to raise one right. Even though I could never see myself having an abortion (i make sure i keep myself out of anything that could lead to that) I feel like if thats what you need to do then do it but just dont make it a habit.

Also we dont put enough responsibilty on the men when it comes to pregnancy . I feel like if your a guy and you know a baby is not something you want right now then you should always rap it up regardless of any circumstances.

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TRJ — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 19:43:27 -0000

something i learned is that mistakes only happen when you are not paying attention to what you are doing. honest and truly sex before marriage causes the most mistakes with the greatest risk, i.e. AIDS and kids. even though it is a person's choice to have an abortion, that does make it right. if you dont want a child then after birth give the child up for adoption, same thing as abortion but you are not killing the child.

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Jamie8706 — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 18:14:02 -0000

Yea they did

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hanibalj — Sat, 21 Feb 2009 14:06:24 -0000

wow very deep, my wife just had an abortion and not sure if i can recoup from that becuase to me it is just like kiling one of our children that are walking around saying mommy this or daddy that, life is truly blessing, and i was devastated.

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SHAWN — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 21:06:50 -0000

IT WAS A COLD NIGHT, AND THE WALK TO THE CHICKEN SHACK WAS TOO FAR.

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The equaliza — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 21:05:26 -0000

Alotta people out here shoulda been aborted...Too much stupidity

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JMK — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 17:38:36 -0000

To me abortion is a touchy subject. As a male I really do not have any deciding factor, it is really up to the female. If she wants the abortion she is going to get it no matter what I say, and if she wants to keep the kid and I don't, there is no guarentee that an abortion will occur. If the first part happens she goes on life, and I wonder "what ifs" about my kid, If the later happens, I am still stuck paying for child support. For the individuals that use abortion as birth control, shame on you. 1. it costs more than other forms of BC 2. You should learn the first time that "accidents" do happen.

What gets me though is the people who stand outside the clinics protesting. These people do not know the "mother" they do not know the circumstances of the pregnancy. These are the same individuals that show up at the funerals in Buffalo for the plane crash victims with signs "Gods hates Fags" etc. They are a disgrace. We are all our own individuals and make our own choices, some are not the best but still no stranger has any right to invade on someones life & choice. Yes I understand free speech and all but to intrude on something that you have no business being in infuriates me to no extent. I believe these "protestors" should have to adopt 4 children to help the cause if they wish to stand outside a clinic.

No matter what YOUR opinion is on the issue it is important to realize it is YOUR opinion. It is not EVERYONES opinion.

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EternalBlossom — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 17:15:30 -0000

I hope that you make the right decision. I know what you're going through right now and either way, you have to understand the reasons for making whatever decision you're making. There really is nothing I can say to make it easier but I wish you the best with EVERYTHING! Get on your knees and pray girl!

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Tawhid — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 17:07:31 -0000

Wow, Xilla.
It's extremely ironic that you would post a blog about Abortions. I'm very curious as to what made you do it. It's funny and quite sad that you posted this right when I find myself stuff in this situation. I'm in a steady relationship. (about 8months). But I'm still in school. Have about 3 and a half more semesters of school left. And now I'm 8 weeks preggo...I made up my mind 21 June 2008 that the next time I get in this situation, I'm having my baby and I dont care what anyone thinks. So I tell the child's father and at first he's happy, excited, jumping out of his shoes. I go to my first prenatal visit 11 Feb. 2009 and I get to see the heart beat, the big head and small body. He misses the appointment and it blows me over the edge. I'm so livid. This week all he talks about now is getting rid of it. Not being able to afford it (with him being a convicted felon) and all these other reasons. I thought he was happy, I thought he wanted it, I thought we'd be a family, at least until he decided to leave me. Now I'm stuck in between and I dont really know what to do. I dont want to kill my baby... Cause it's always a thought of "What if God doesn't bless me with another one?" This is my third pregnany and I want my baby so bad, but I'm not sure if I should keep him or not. I love my bf, but I love my baby and myself more.
I know the fact that he can't get a good paying job is a major set back, but damn having an abortion isn't the only way out. I cry every night knowing that I wont get to see my baby smile or laugh or even cry and I wish he could understand the pain that comes along with having an abortion. I try to explain to him, but he doesn't see it as I do. He doesn't want to or just don't care. He says I won't go through it by myself, but Guys will never understand any pain that women go through. Like I said before, I love him, but I love my baby more. So I hope God shows me way before it's too late. Cause I can't go through this pain a third time.

Sorry, it's so long, Xilla...

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hunniebee724 — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 16:34:56 -0000

I had an abortion 5 days after my 17th birthday. My boyfriend and I had been together a year, and when I found out I was pregnant, he was completely supportive. It was the summer after my junior year, he had already graduated and had a good job. We knew our parents wouldn't make me get an abortion if we waited until my first trimester was over, so we planned on waiting. I was about 10 weeks pregnant when my boyfriend freaked out and told his mother, who then drove straight to my house to tell my mother. My mother told me she'd support whatever decision I made, and that she would tell my father when she thought the timing was right. A week later she bursts into my room and says she's scheduled an abortion and that she wasn't going to support me and my child. I'd have to find a new place to live if I wanted to have the baby. Unfortunately, my boyfriend's mom said the same thing, so we'd be homeless if we had the baby. We felt that we had no choice. We both cried. I remember July 29, 1998 like it was yesterday. I won't go into detail, but I remember everything from the protestors to looking at the screen and seeing my baby to the car ride home. Our relationship didn't work out, but we're still friends and I'm thankful that I do still have him to talk to when I get upset about the abortion.

I haven't tried to get pregnant since then, but I was diagnosed with endometriosis less than a year after the abortion. Endometriosis has no known cause or cure, but there's speculation that abortions can cause it, which really hurts. I've had 4 surgeries and deal with a hell of a lot of pain because of the endo, and pray every day that it doesn't prevent me from having kids when I'm ready.

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outofyourmind — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 16:12:54 -0000

Sometimes, I'll be waiting for them to say something to me. LOL! So I can lay their asses out right then and there and see how they like it.

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DomiX — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 15:32:07 -0000

I know I wouldn't be able to go through with it. I couldn't imagine having to do it. I'd rather take birth control pills everyday (which I do pretty faithfully at 10 AM) than live with that choice.

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ListenToLeon — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 15:22:20 -0000

JEEESUS, JOSEPH, K-CI, JO-JO AND DALVIN!

Now THAT'S and ass!!!

Now that I got that comment out the way, this was a great entry. I'm fortunate that I've only had that scare where my girl's period was late ONE time in my life. I hate to say "The grace of God" and "rubbers" in the same sentence, but honestly, they are the only two things I can credit for my good fortune! LOL

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EternalBlossom — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 14:42:14 -0000

Thank you for reading all of that! I know it was a lot to read... Lol

I have heard that song. I love it!

I am in a much better place now thank God and my fiance. He has really helped me in so many ways. I have forgiven the men who didn't know how to be men, I've forgiven my mother for being abusive towards me as a child, and of course, I've forgiven myself for making the mistakes I have. Most importantly, I have learned to love myself and love even those things that I have experienced that have been negative because I realize that those things have shaped and molded my character and who I am today.

Life is life and I have 3 beautiful children, a man who loves me despite my flaws, and that's more than enough for me!

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TheLovelyMsRedz — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 14:17:23 -0000

Thanks so much for sharing your story with us! It nearly brought me to tears in a couple parts. You've really been through a lot, girl! My heart really goes out to you.

Ya know, your story reminds me of this song by one of my favorite artists, Jean Grae, called "My Story." It's really a touching song... almost as touching as your story.

I'm so glad you finally got the children you wanted and are out of all those unhealthy relationships.

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Isis — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 14:16:17 -0000

:-)

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EternalBlossom — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 14:15:57 -0000

Off topic but how can I add an avatar to my profile?

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Isis — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 14:14:07 -0000

I would really like to know why. . .lol
I know there are those weak ones who depend on a man, but that does not give them the right to think we all need them, cause when I get in my ways I'll use u and lose u . . .lol

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Isis — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 14:09:49 -0000

Tell me about it, but the sad part is when she finally met someone she wanted to start a family with her body could no longer carry a child

Waaaaaaaaayyyyyyyy too many

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Ness — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 14:09:03 -0000

Yup....knowledge is power!

Without, we'll all be statistics in this crzy world

All I knw is that I don't plan on having kids anytime soon and I took necessary actions to make sure of that

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Ness — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 14:07:11 -0000

They never do, they think tht females "need" them.. lol

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Isis — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 14:06:21 -0000

I use to think it was a way to prevent feeling but sadly I learned they actually believed if u did it before the 10-12 week point u were only ridding yourself of a blood clot. . .don't ask cause I didn't . . .SMH

They say ignorance begets ignorance and sadly it raised it

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Ness — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 14:06:07 -0000

DAMN!!!!! tht's crzy....but at the end of the day it is wht it is....

It's too many options nowadays to be having 13 abortions

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TheLovelyMsRedz — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 14:05:20 -0000

Right. One of my girlfriends got chased down the street and called all types of names by a protestor standing outside a clinic when she went to get hers. It was quite a scene, till eventually a cop or security guard or something stepped in and stopped the confrontation. She went thru with the abortion anyway, but I know that whole scene just traumatized her even more.

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Ness — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 14:04:48 -0000

:) awwww :)