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Monay — Sun, 25 Oct 2009 15:05:31 -0000

I've been wanting a purely sexual relationship with someone for the longest. Just like you specified in your post, I want all the "benefits' of a relationship, but I really just want to be f**ked all day everyday. Real Talk.

My only problem is that, how do I approach a guy. What am I supposed to say? "Hi, I'm my name is Monay, & I am looking for a jumpoff? Let's be real lol

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Phoenix Nicole — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 13:00:02 -0000

i had one before. although it was fun for a while, i just came to the conclusion that i'm better in an actual relationship.

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hissweetestdream — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 12:11:51 -0000

Lust and Love are so easily confused. I had a relationship based on sex for 6 years, well that is according to me. He says it's love, but that just because the chemistry between us be so raw. Some call it "making love" I call it "passionate sex". That's why you should never share one of them slow, look into the eyes , while I bust type kisses, unless your ready to take it from "just sex" to full blown relationship.

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bogart4017 — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 11:43:55 -0000

If you get into that kind of relationship each party has to be very clear about their intentions. Too often one party or the other catches feelings which would force the two of you to reexamine the relationship. When it gets to that point one or the other may not want to step up to the plate so to speak. Which means somebody gets hurt. So rules have to be established and occasionally enforced.

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maymajesty — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 06:22:11 -0000

Hmm, I don't know I have mixed feelings about this. I have this guy that I've know since hs, and we saw each other after many years about 2 yrs ago, he called me, we met up and it was on and poppin. We've hooked up a few times, but I really don't like how I feel after. I think because of the fact that it is really a sex only thing that bothers me. I like to go out, have drinks, movies, or whatever but that's not the case. Needless to say, he's been calling and I haven't been answering lol. I don't want to say I have to be in a relationship to have sex because sex it really important to me, so if the sex is bad the relationship will probably be worse. I have stayed with a few exes because the sex was good, but they irrated the hell out of me, so I really don't know at this point. I'm getting older and I just want a man who can sexually satisfy me, and I him and we enjoy each others company at this point. I can't seem to find that, it's always good company, bad or aight sex, or bad company and great sex, oooor bad company, worse sex. Also, I just have to say men need to really step their games up. I don't know what the hell is goin on, but these men are so damn wack in bed. I think the fact that sex had kind of become, let's say, "easy" to come by men don't really put any effort into it. I am really sexually frustrated because I'm sure you can tell is been a few months, but I feel like I'm just gonna be disappointed when I do get some anyway so what's the point.

Ok, I'm done with my rant, lmao. I really need to get laid...

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REALMAMI — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 23:15:00 -0000

@ Ms. Dominique Law I am in the exact same situation with you. The chemistry between the young man I am involved with sexually is BANANAS that shit is so intense. I enjoy what we do and how we do it LOL!!!

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JustMe219 — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 20:34:54 -0000

I used to be just like bestkept512..w/ thinking that I couldn't have sex w/ a guy unless he was my bf! But shit I got older and stop giving a fuck! I'm all about my nut and then I'm ready to roll or he has to go! LOL..it isn't anything wrong w/ having a jump off or being a jump off as long has you have rules!

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mojo — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 18:54:30 -0000

ah! finally got to a PC to post this...lol

this one guy and I have been f-buddies for 4 years now...started right after HS, thru shitty relationships and all. when i left for college i started seeing other people, but always called him when i was home on break. matter of fact, he has a girl right now, but i kinda don't care since i was there first. we just can't let it go, even though neither one of us wants a relationship with the other. i mean, after all this time he knows exactly what gets me off, and vice versa. besides the sex, he talks to me when he is having relationship issues or what not since he knows i'm not feeding him what i think he wants to hear. works well for us.

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DaRuler — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 16:46:31 -0000

you can't follow those rules, that's just human nature. you begin to feel a certain way about that person... but yeah, in a perfect world.

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DaRuler — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 16:43:15 -0000

sound like to me you wanna be with ur best friend more than you wanna be with your boyfriend...just my 2 cents.

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Michelle Smith — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 07:54:32 -0000

Yes the biggest and I've seen plenty ..I have a penis fetish so men tend to dont mind to show them to me when I ask...however I don't sleep with all of them.. lol. Was it good...not at all...more like painful extremely uncomfortable.Let's just say for me personally, big is not always better...I was sore for 2 weeks after and it wasn't the good kind of break your back sore either. which would probably explain why I wasn't inclined to do it again. He wanted to be the "boyfriend" but I couldn't do it...sex is important and that just didn't live up to the hype. He still tries tho although the time and gets shot down...Im just not interested in riding that ride again.....

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thejadednyer — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 04:54:11 -0000

Oh, okay, well when you put it like that then sure! So... *in Joey Tribiani's voice* How YOU doin?

lol

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shebaddd — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 01:49:08 -0000

wow lol
well those are very lucky young ladies.

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Peacelovenaps — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 00:58:53 -0000

Love and sex aren't synonymous for a lot of people to some people sex is just a form of instant gratification nothing more and maybe less...So I don't know if sleeping with someone else means that she doesn't love her man in regard to the feeling bad that is on your conscience but you are probably feeling bad b/c you aren't being honest with your man but that is just my two pennies

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DeeDee — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 00:42:23 -0000

I'm currently in a 6 months long sex only relationship with this guy I've known for many years. Everything started out great, now we've hit a bump. Recently when he comes to visit, instead of a little company and then getting to our thang--he wants to argue and fight. All these emotions have come out of NOWHERE!!! And I don't understand it, because its not like he's the type to actually settle down! (I've known dude a long time, so I know his track record....he's a dog, so why would I allow myself to get attached...come on!) At this point and time I believe our good thing will soon come to a sad end. I really dont want it to (his sex game is on POINT!). ADVICE PLEASE

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SoAnxious — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 00:22:40 -0000

i used to do the whole "waiting for a relationship to have sex thing" but i eventually got tired of waiting around for that to come.
now i have this dude..we started out as friends but eventually became fuck buddies. it sucks because i actually want more out of it and have actual feelings for this sucker ..but i know that's not possible so i'll just settle for the sex.. emotions get in the way!!

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morethenahandfull — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 00:20:04 -0000

I would be telling a lie if I said I never had a friend for the sole purpose of getting mine. He was actually an old boyfriend but when I called him or he called me we both knew what it was. If he came over and his dick wasn't hard then he already knew I would be talking shit, lls!!
On occasion we would have drinks and some stuff to choke on but it was never a requirement. Afterwards we hit the showers and go about our day. The crazy thing is is that although we nolonger have sex (3 years later) he now does work around my house...with my husbands approval. Although hubby doesn't know the details he knows that we use to see each other. He is really a cool dude and it all goes back to me respecting his marriage and he respects mine....

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bestkept512 — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 23:52:24 -0000

yea i know cheating sucks cause it has happened to me countless number of times and i promise myself that i would never hurt anyone like that but it is like i wish i would have never did that with my bestfriend because i want for us to just be able to hang and not do anything and i always just expect that when he comes over but its like if i tell him no he gets upset and will stop talking to me for a couple of weeks and our friendship is important to me but i know i shouldnt worry about it cause my relationship is the most important thing to me

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myfeelings — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 23:47:53 -0000

To me sex is sex. I separate sex from making love. I am a grown woman (28) and if I am attracted to a man, and we are in a position where sex is going to happen then that is what it is.

My virginity has been long gone and I don't feel the need to deprive myself from something if I want it. If I'm going to sleep with a guy early on, chances are I know this is not someone I am going to have a relationship with anyway, so I really couldn't care less what he might think of me for jumping in bed early on. We're both getting what we want and that is that.

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BlogXilla — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 23:41:07 -0000

as long as you know who you are and what you can and cannot put up w/ your good.

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BlogXilla — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 23:39:39 -0000

so you're sleeping w/ you bf and your best friend and you feel bad? Well cheating sucks. you shouldn't cheat, and you don't love your man b/c if you did you wouldn't cheat no one else regardless of who would matter. When i was dating my bk chick i didn't even think bout sleeping with another chick. Wasn't an option. But should you feel bad? Well that's on you. You have someone elses heart in your hands and thats not something i'm willing to play with. If you feel a certain way. I would say tell your man you want to continue to have what you have but you don't want to be his girl anymore. Tell him the two fo you can still have sex go out and do all that other stuff but you want to see other people.

You have to be real with people becase if you don't you could end up hurt somewhere.

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Just Wondering — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 23:38:42 -0000

Thanks. I'll really like to hear your insight on this also. I do want a relationship because I'm done just messing around with dudes. With this One Night Stand turned Sex Buddy, there was a reason why we continued seeing each other after just meeting at a club and going back to his place. The sex was good and we do have a connection that goes beyond physical. I guess there's something there, but I really don't have much confidence on how a relationship would be with someone I met and had sex with on the first night.

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bestkept512 — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 23:28:58 -0000

i read this and it contradicts with my thinking and really messing with my head lol. im in relationship but my best friends dick is like my kryptonite. we have been friends for almost 8 yrs and we can not be alone without something happening. and i always feel bad after becuse my boyfriend loves me and i love him but should i feel bad ? i always thought i was one of those people that has to be in a relationship to be intimate but i dont. im not sure if i should just be fine with getting
pipe[age] from my boyfriend and bestfriend and let it be

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BlogXilla — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 23:28:17 -0000

great comment.... I'll have to blog on this later.

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BlogXilla — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 23:26:51 -0000

Yes in a perfect world the i just wanna put your ankles on your earlobes theory is great. But that's why I say I don't see what the big deal is... lol because if we all follow the rules it should work. And you gotta understand that in this case its not just fucking... just fucking like the i only call you when im bored blog is one thing, but to have a sex relationship is so much more than i just call you when im bored. its all inclusive! lol but i feel you and you're 100% right. but i still wanan put your ankles on your earlobes