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I was just talking about how I dont think I got play at the club last night cause I'm not lightskin. My cousin ALWAYS gets play. (she is drop dead gorgous..but so am I for that matter..YES I HAVE THAT MUCH SELF LOVE). I dont get as much. They ALWAYS flock to her..ALWAYS..she never has a problem with men liking her.
But hey..she has an "advantage" I dont. Its the same for me and a girl with a huge ass...she has that advantage. I can't hate on that at all
I think that black people, men in particular, are still colorstruck. It amazed me that my coworker has a male friend that said he doesn't think darkskin girls are attractive AT ALL
WTF
like I said..we are equally attractive, the only plus is she is light..*shrugs*
I'm glad I don't hang with women or men who think like the people featured in this video. I never thought better of myself because of the color of my skin or looked down or others who did not share my same skin tone. I think its stupid that some of us think in this manner.....your skin tone has nothing to do with your character.
re: men... I have no problem falling hard for either light- or dark-skinned brothas. They can both be FINE AS ALL HELL to me- as long as they have a working brain & stay on the right side of the law & are height/weight proportionate we can talk! lol
"On the down side you will have to deal with tracks, naps, and Kool-aid w/ everything. She likes dark liquor and probably likes white guys deep down inside."
I REALLY hope I am missing the sarcastic undertone to this.
Im disappointed.... and I really love this website.
I just can't tell what it was trying to say, and the unbridled ignorant ass comments in the video ughhh it made my head hurt.
I refuse to believe that any majority of black people still think that way in 2009 and if we do then shame on us.
My 'opininon' on the issue is that everyone can have a preference, even if it is a color preference as long as you know that THATS ALL THAT IT IS. If you like what you like cause you like it, cool. I have preferences of all kinds too.
But this bs about a light skinned girl being a better status symbol, or automatically bourghie, and a dark skinned girl being 'down' and earthy or as was put 'nappy headed', is the type of stuff that breeds all this color sensitivity and confusion.
Its just dumb, can we please stop doing this to ourselves?
@true2me Gettin "play" in the club is far from what anyone should be focused on. They might have noticed your desperation to be noticed, which was a turn off. Your future husband is not there trust me and if he is good luck. Probably wont last past the conjugal visits anyhow. Yes, your cousin may have had an "advantage"" but truthfully them dudes were tryin to fux... Is that what u really want hawkin after you? Unless that's the kind of thing u were goin for... But hey, Im not here to judge.
Anywho, Ive always thought this light skinned dark skinned beef has always been stupid. What person who truly loves him or her self, would want someone who doesn't want YOU? Are u fuxin kidding me??? That doesnt even seem intelligent. That's like goin to a party you weren't invited to and no one there likes you. Matter of fact they probably hate you more just for havin enough balls to show up. (Kinda like Danielle from Real HW of Jersey) You cant be smart to yearn falsified attention. MOVE ON, no one wants you.
and Im far from desperate acting in the club..I was just making note of an observation
*shrugs*
Like I said..I dont really care..cause Im fabulous..maybe im just too much of a walking turn on as someone said<-----this is a joke.
I've dated both LS and DS females and I know first hand that the categories they are placed in b/c of color don't fit them. Its all in the woman's personality. Her complexion cannot determine whether or not you will get kool-aid or Tropicana, if she's freaky or timid, or the grade of hair she has (Cause I know a LS chick with the roughest hair you'll ever touch and a a DS chick with "good hair"). I think ppl are starting to take this LS vs. DS sh*t to far
I didn't give him my number, but I did say that I was in a relationship (see, I'm slowly learning not to take a number and not call, I just lie) to which he replied, "It wouldn't be right if you weren't." For some reason, I did not feel disrespected or n e thing, I just felt like he needed to expand his horizons and get out more b/c there are some fine sistahs in DC of all complexions.
But I do agree that a lot of lightskinned women are bourgie. Men cise our heads up WAY too much. There are tons of men with color complexes wandering around out there, giving us undeserved compliments purely because of our skin/hair. They just want a trophy lightskinned girl on their arm and will do anything and put up with anything to get/keep her. And what he's not willing to do, there's a line of colorstruck guys out there that will. This can make the most AVERAGE-looking lightskinned girl think she's the ISH! It's really difficult to NOT get jaded by that type of attention, especially when you're young.
especially dark niggaz they mostly ONLY fuck with light skin broads
Someones skin doesnt = good sex so thats a dumb question but hey you bout leave black folks anyway so....
I never think I am better than anyone and if that is the case then white girl should look down at me right? Hell no!
Good post Xilla
But Xilla, in my opinion, this was a great post. Some may view it as ignorant, but it is the way things are really going now. I think you did a good job with showing the pros and cons of each side but then ending it to show the good of each side. Great job...I love it! :)
The video to me was pure disgusting.
These females light and dark skinned seem like they both suffer from low self esteem issues
I hate this topic of light skin dark skin
Its a shame to my race that we even still to this day discuss it
Blogxilla you know i love you but I hated the fact that you referenced to darker skinned females as nappy headed
Its no such thing as nappy headed...either you have fine curly texture or coarse hair texture
In my family we have a mixture of all shades because my grandfather is Israeli
Me being dark skinned has never hurt me only when I was in highschool
But you learn to get over shit and not hold negative comments and sterotypes against all people
Everyone has a prefernece and i totally understand that
But i hate when i see a group of man or woman generalizing one group of people because the color of their skin
That's ignorant and only continues hate and racism in our own community's
I dont hate on no light skinned female because she got that good hair or because she is able to pull more niggas then me
Baby im that secure in my self that i will NEVER worry bout the next bitch and what she got
This is what females of all colors have to understand
Why are you looking to another female to judge yourself
I walk outside and i know I'm that bitch because i was raised to know that I'm beautiful
And i have many males say "Oh your the only DS i have even been with" or "You madd preetty to be darkskinned" Like wtf is that?
That's stupidity to me and it be dark skin African American males that say that
And i have only dated LS man because I'm attracted to them and also they are attracted to me
And that seems to be the norm dark men go for lighter females and lighter man go for the darker females.
On the down side you will have to deal with tracks, naps, and Kool-aid w/ everything. She likes dark liquor and probably likes white guys deep down inside.<<<<WOWOW I DONT DRINK KOOLAID AND I KNOW ALOT OF LIGHT SKINNED BLACK AND HISPANIC WOMEN THAT WEAR TRACKS AND HAVE NAPS SO THAT STATEMENT CAN NOT ONLY REFER TO DARK SKINNED FEMALES
EVERYONE loves light skinned women, they are considered better than the rest. Having a light skinned women on your arm just says something about a guy. It says he truly understands what it is to live the good life<<<I CANT BELIEVE THIS STATEMENTS UR MAKING AND I LOVE THIS BLOG...BUT WOW...UR LIVING THE GOOD LIFE BY HAVING A LS ON UR ARM...U CANT BE SERIOUS...THAT'S WHY SO MANY GIRLS GROW UP HATING THEMSELVES.
My co-worker often refers to my skin color, and I find it so offensive. It's obvious she has some self esteem issues, but that is no excuse to be rude and reckless. I tell her that my skin tone has nothing to do with what we are talking about, but she doesn't seem to get my point. I guess I'm going to have to break it down, ALL THE WAY for her. Color-struck people always seem to find a way to involve color. That is one of the most irritating and ignorant things to do. Ugh, I'm annoyed as I type this because she talks about it so much, lol.
I never answered to red, redbone, yella, high yella, or any of the other lame ass cat calls these wack dudes throw at me. I am an intelligent, classy, person. For someone to refer to me as a color in our first moments of meeting is a no-go.
As far as the stereotypes, they are there when you look for them. When that is what you want to see, that is what you will see. I think people need to get it together, we have our priorities all f'd up. To white people, no matter what side of the spectrum you color happens to fall, you are still BLACK. Until that sinks in, this dumb mentality is going nowhere.
I'm so through with this, it really makes me angry...
In my opinion, i don't care who you are if your cute men are going to holla, if you are light or dark and are an attractive woman, and you are not being approached. Don't blame your skin tone, blame your attitude and your body language. because when it comes to getting some most men will not do a lot of discriminating.