DISQUS

ChellBellz AKA Mimz · 3 weeks ago

I personally have dated online. I have met some wonderful people. I guess i don't understand why people think that the people online aren't people in real life. What i mean by that is. I'm convinced that some people who ward of online dating think, that the person online has nothing better to do then to be online, or that the person is always there online. I think that you have to a very open minded person.

I work, go to school, I'm very outgoing. Never had an issue getting anyone that was interested. I think that alot of the times, when i got out, I realized that a guy just isn't interested. So i don't look, I don't crush, I don't pursue. When I post something online, they can get a feel for me and then reach out to me if they want to.

A lot of my friends dismiss it, but i have met alot of well rounded men offline. We remain good friends, and honestly I don't respond well to a man trying to get at me out in public anyway. I think sometimes its awkward, or sometimes they come at me wrong. Anything thing is, i have a lower rate of getting an ignorant thug from my area being online or certain sites.

HeadMistress · 3 weeks ago

You are so on point with that first paragraph!

Add to that the fact that all we knew and all we heard about were "online predators" (complete with horror stories) loooonnnggg before online dating became popular so I think that still stands out in a lot of people's minds - and I don't think we can ever really overcome it 100% because we still have to teach kids not to accept friends, talk too, give info too or arrange to meet in person anyone they've met online...

ChellBellz AKA Mimz · 3 weeks ago

Yes, I agree, its all about getting a feel for that person. You can meet crazies in the market, all over the place. But if you gonna meet someone online, then you just have to take precautions, and if you feel like you have to be that paranoid then its not for you, but you can't judge others for doing it.

Lady Jei · 3 weeks ago

I'm Lady Jei....and I approve this message LOL!!

true2me · 3 weeks ago

yoooo I JUST RECENTLY blogged about this..*dont know if you allow links to be posted in here..but yeah I blogged the same thing a few days ago*...but I totally agree w you hun..great post

One of the points I made was that it makes you less shallow. You already Kinda know them from twitter, Iming, dming..WHATEVER..which can lead to phone convos, and eventually meeting up...

And yes..you can meet jerks in real life. This is the digital age and what not so (another point I made) and we are moving more towards meeting ppl online, whether for networking, love, like or a sexual romp

again...great minds think alike..great post

BlogXilla · 3 weeks ago

Not meeting people you talk to online is like still sending letters to people instead of sending an email. And yes great minds do think a like.... did i tell you i like your profile pic? so cute.

true2me · 3 weeks ago

*agrees* and thank you *blushes*

jessika davidson · 3 weeks ago

hey blogxilla...its jessika, the chick who made the comment. now that i see your standpoint, i cant understand where you are coming from. The variety of social network sites online does give you more of an understanding than first meeting someone in person. ive met friends online, since i am a young college student and a blogger as well, but i have found from my experiences that getting to know someone on twitter, facebook, myspace, skype, etc... extensively before meeting them in person can make the initial meeting awkward as hell....because most people i know tend to hide some flaws or lie online so they might not be what you expect. i just think that in person meetings allow you to see past all the bullshit that could possibly be online...but i loved your standpoint too, so now im not so skeptical lol

BlogXilla · 3 weeks ago

it shouldn't be awkward because when you like someone you like everything about them... even that funny extra toe on their left foot to the way their right eye wander when they say words that start w/ the letter M. All I'm saying is by the time you meet someone you should like them already and seen so many pics of them that it's like you've seen them in perfect. we all put on our best face when we are trying to get to know someone its just a matter of location in peson or online.

TheDuchess · 3 weeks ago

Ppl do lie in their profiles but I don't see anything wrong with finding love online.. Just keep in mind that the same way they found you, they could be entertaining someone else. The same as meeting a person in the streets.

Vhision · 3 weeks ago

I don't see nothing wrong - online dating is the business - but I do see something wrong with that pic - somebody Photoshop a Mac in between that chicks legs!

thejadednyer · 3 weeks ago

I did the whole online dating thing in the past (Yahoo, Match, etc) and have had dates, hook-ups and all that, but nothing long-lasting and meaningful, even though I'm still cool with one of the dudes I met via Yahoo (it's no longer physical; that ship has sailed. But we had a lot in common so the friendship remained).

When I think about it today... it just doesn't do it for me. I treated it too much like a meat market, like catalog shopping for a date. I only looked at pics & height & whether or not they smoked & graduated from college. I didn't like who I was turning into and missed the days of just getting to KNOW someone first, become friends and then have something bloom organically later.

I'm happy for those who've found love (or whatever they were looking for) online, but me + online dating have broken up for good!

BeautyMarkThis · 3 weeks ago

My longest relationship was with someone I met online and I have dated a few people from online since. I think meeting people over the internet is great. I've gotten a chance to meet people that I would never meet in the street because they are in a different country and so fourth.

I'll continue to meet people..It's always great to have friends in different area codes lol *ahem Xilla* lol j/k

Fancee · 3 weeks ago

I love, love, love this topic. I agree 100% with this subject. I feel you get a lot of free throws without having them on your cell until you feel comfortable with them. You have the chance to really google the person out all while you are having a nice time chatting with them. Its just a different means of getting to meet somebody.