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Re: How To Take Her Man or His Girl

Ant_from_Chi — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 12:06:42 -0000

These comments would have gone great in the "Plummeting price of Pu$$y column the other day. Great points.

Re: How To Take Her Man or His Girl

sexyma078 — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 09:20:11 -0000

Throw in a good meal now days...you can get any man ....ladies dont go off on me (cause if it aint you it's a friend) chicks don't cook no more!!! Bomb Pu*** is great but Bomb Pu**** and a baked chicken is a killa.

Re: How To Take Her Man or His Girl

sexyma078 — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 09:14:52 -0000

After you list all that what is left to stay for??

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sexyma078 — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 09:13:34 -0000

Im no angel but i as a married woman have to let you know marriage is more than a verbal contract.....if done properly it is a vow to God to love honor and obey!!!!

Re: How To Take Her Man or His Girl

just sayin — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 23:38:31 -0000

you sound bitter... I never said I was self righteous nor did I come at you sideways. The facts are this... it IS wrong... but everyone including me has done something wrong in their time and I'm not here judging. I said TO EACH HIS HER OWN. Just because I choose not to be with someone elses man/woman doesn't make me better then you. And just because everyone has been stepped out on doesn't make it right. I'm so sick of people who make excuses for other peoples mistakes. If you wanna f*ck someones man for WHATEVER reason then go for it. And that's not just to you it is to anybody reading this!

Re: How To Take Her Man or His Girl

I'm Just Me — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 22:39:02 -0000

When I said I used to be one of those females who dated other women's men. The key word was "used".

I may have given a man that choice but I didn't put a gun to his head. Everything is FREE WILL. People make choices. For whatever reasons a man felt like he could hang w/ me or be with me was HIS choice.

Things could've been on the fence in the relationship. Maybe him being with me made him realize how much he loves and appreciates his woman. Or maybe he found out his girl was cheating w/ someone else. Whatever the reasons, I didn't make men do anything they didn't want to do already.

I'm tired of females acting self righteous like it's so wrong and immature and lacking integrity. There's two sides to ever story. Every body has been stepped out on. If u feel like you haven't then congrats b/c your man did a very good job at hiding it from you.

Re: How To Take Her Man or His Girl

Kim — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 22:21:54 -0000

Exactly. Anyone who cheats is lacking in character and integrity. And anyone who gives tips has questionable character and integrity as well.

Re: How To Take Her Man or His Girl

just sayin — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 21:36:40 -0000

what man would turn down a willing female that doesn't mind being shared? of COURSE he choose to lay with you and hang out with you, because YOU gave him that choice. But hey to each his/her own. Everyone believes in different things and if you choose to be with someone elses man a few comments in a blog wont change your mind.

Re: How To Take Her Man or His Girl

I'm Just Me — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 19:56:24 -0000

It's easier said than done. Yeah u work hard to get your own and then they up and doing something to betray your trust. At the end of the day, you end up hurt b/c of all the hard work u put into getting that person and trying to make the relationship work when no one is really obligated to anyone.

Look at the ratios out there. There's about 1 male to every 5 females. Now u take that and add in the guys who may be locked up, on the DL or married and that number becomes 1 male to every 8 females. It's inevitable, you're gonna end up sharing someone whether you like or not or whether you know about it or not.

And not for nothing...coming from a female who has dealt w/ other women's men in the past, I never took anything that didn't want to be taken. I never forced a man to be w/ me. He chose to lay down w/ me and to hang out w/ me.

Re: How To Take Her Man or His Girl

SassyScorpio — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 16:37:37 -0000

What ever it was turned out for the best....cuz we now are the best of friends (not with benefits) and I realized us in a relationship wouldn't have worked. Based on his constant need to cheat on just every woman after me.

Re: How To Take Her Man or His Girl

circa-81 — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 16:04:24 -0000

"the personality involved is more of calculating, mischevious, and deceiving culprit."

i.e. Meaning that dealing with this type of person you won't even know what the hell is going on.

Re: How To Take Her Man or His Girl

BlogXilla — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 16:02:55 -0000

It could be numerous reasons to someone may want to stray but not leave... change, comfort, or kids... it's selfish more than it is being mature or not.

Re: How To Take Her Man or His Girl

BlogXilla — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 16:01:29 -0000

I can agree with the selfish notion. Because cheating is a very selfish act.

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circa-81 — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 15:58:39 -0000

Why would the mentally mature person weigh in the detriment of their significant other if they are not going to get caught? The feelings of the other person only come into play as a result of getting caught not the act of cheating. You may not want to admit this but cheating doesn't hurt anybody....getting caught is what brings on the negative feelings. Maturity is not a deterant for risk. Experience can be...but still really isn't a deterant for risk. And when it is something that is based on the pursuit of pleasure it depends on what character traits that person have. Do they like to live on the edge. Are they a pleaure junkie? Some people naturally aren't impulsive. You'll find that when it comes to cheating the personallity involved is more of calculating, mischevious, and deceiving culprit.

Re: How To Take Her Man or His Girl

ummmm — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 15:29:44 -0000

"How To Take Her Man or His Girl"

first off let me just say I didnt read this post because the title is probably the most ignorant thing I read on this site (besides that freaky tales in the bible post a while back) but I skimmed thru a few comments and I just want to say to each its own but please remember KARMA is a b****, you dont need to take someone elses anything.... get and work for your OWN! that is all

Re: How To Take Her Man or His Girl

circa-81 — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 15:24:56 -0000

Well, Babe, you have to understand the nature of a man and more than anything else the times that we live in. I know a few dudes that tried to pull off the whole "we are going to wait unitl we get married" thing. It never works......first problem would be that you can't take a freak and make them abstainent (might be spelled wrong.) Second problem is you if you were having sex before then why isn't he good enough to get it and not wait till marriage (that's most likely the way that he was thinking.) Third there is no spontaneiy to abstaining from sex, there's no passion, and there's no satisfaction. The fourth problem and this probably should've been #1 on my mini list is he could've be afraid that you didn't even like sex. And no dude want's to be with a woman that doesn't like sex. Those are some of the main factors that end those type of arrangements.

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SassyScorpio — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 15:11:05 -0000

It was before we ever did anything...we was both young and I had only been with one other person who cheated and got a friend of my pregnant...he made the decision to wait and 3 months in we got engaged and a month after he cheated. I would have respectef him more if he was up front and said he couldnt wait, but he was all for it we it was brought up.

Re: How To Take Her Man or His Girl

circa-81 — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 15:06:37 -0000

True True. But the same is applied to marriage it's just a verbal agreement turned physical contract....and if you breach that contract you stand to lose finacially (thats the downside ofcourse). But if you want it straight forward you can't get more "honest" than what you just said.

Re: How To Take Her Man or His Girl

I'm Just Me — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 14:52:46 -0000

I used to be a female who didn't mind being w/ someone else's man. It was easier to deal w/ the guy b/c there was a clear line of what was and wasn't expected.

However my views on cheating r different than most. I don't consider it to be 'cheating' if I'm not married. If a guy and I are dating and he happens to step out then he stepped out and the same is applied 2 me. Yeah ur feelings get hurt, but it's just a "feeling". We only had a verbal agreement to 'try' to be monogamous. Life happens.

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M.Y. — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 14:52:13 -0000

yes yes this is true and someone who is mentally mature would see no need or desire to cheat. Granted you may find someone to be attractive other than your significant other, it happens, actually acting on it is a different story.

A mentally mature person is able to weigh both the pros and cons before making a decision about any and everything a mentally immature person on the other hand acts on impulse without thought. Being able to understand what psychological detriment a person is causing the person they are with by cheating is what would cross the mind of a mentally mature individual. And yes you are right selfishness plays a huge part in cheating.

Re: How To Take Her Man or His Girl

Sher — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 14:37:31 -0000

as far as taking someone elses somebody..keep in mind Karma is a b*tch tread carefully, i am 100% against it.
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Just felt this needed to be posted twice... word.

Re: How To Take Her Man or His Girl

Sher — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 14:35:54 -0000

um WOW...first I want to say I think this is almost sad..

If Im not getting enough sex or Im bored in a relationship..call me crazy, but the last thing I would do is go cheat.

And if Im single...and I decide I want to pop off with someone...the last thing I would do is get with someones man.

But thats just silly me.

Re: How To Take Her Man or His Girl

circa-81 — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 14:34:38 -0000

Hello............it makes it easier to wait. Me myself I would never ever ever agree to wait to marriage. But, let me see here...........are you saying after the engagement you make him wait to marriage or from the start he has to wait? If it's from the start I'll be up front that I'm not waiting. Got to test drive before you buy.

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circa-81 — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 14:30:16 -0000

That still doesn't really add up as immature. Highly mature people still break rules and cheat. I think I would agree with SheRa on the selfishness aspect.

Re: How To Take Her Man or His Girl

SassyScorpio — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 14:30:12 -0000

I truly like this post, but I am confused as to why men agree to wait until marriage to have sex with you(speaking from experince) but still cheat? If its that serious by all means don't waste my time or emotions and just be up front...