SAF makes very good points..the "buddy system" is a must! Always, let a friend or two know where you're going to be, what he drives, his name/phone number etc...
As far as the "if he has a gf/wife" there's really no way to know unless you do an all out investigation on the dude...a lot of men will lie about their situations no matter what...so yeah, be careful about calls and texts...
Off subject for a hot second: Can we as girlfriends/wives/1st priority jumpoffs, whatever our status, PLEASE get smart and stop approaching the "other woman"
There's really no point unless you enjoy playin yourself...
If your man cheats your problem is with HIM, not her...even if that other woman knew he was married/involved there is no reason to approach her, especially if she wants your man - she will tell you anything that she thinks will make you leave him....even if she doesn't want your man she'll tell you whatever is necessary to get you to stop callin and textin her! Either way you probably won't find out the truth.
VIChick
· 11 months ago
That is a wonderful point. I tell my friends all the time that this chick has nothing to do with you and your man. He cheated and you need to deal with him not that chick. I never ever called another chick when I found out my man was dipping on me. Just beat that nigga ass and u should be good.
Ness
· 11 months ago
Thank you! I wrote a post about tht. Women need to leave the other woman alone unless she's ur friend (soon to be ex-friend) or family member.... U couldn't have said it better... :) I hate getting those calls from other females... like wht do u want me to say...tht he blew my back out 2 nites ago. And if I do say that yeah ur gonna be mad at him but chances are u'll end up taking his b*tchass back...lol
HeadMistress
· 11 months ago
Yes! I read that one, and it was right on time when you posted that, I was feelin some kinda way cause I had just gone thru a "situation" with a dude lyin about his status, and his chick kept "drunk dialin" me all aggressive tryna question me like "b*tch you betta tell me"...
I was about to get real creative and tell her some ish she really ain't wanna hear but I opted for the high road via Verizon Wireless Usage Control Service instead - a good ole fashion phone block works every time :-)
Ness
· 11 months ago
I would've gotten creative...but that probably would've caused more drama than necessary so good thing you took the high road :) lol.
JMK
· 11 months ago
I totally second that... I am sick of hearing chicks complain about how SHE is this & that, but nothing wrong with the dude. As a guy I can man up to my business. I have never been in this situation myself but I have heard about it. Each time I ask the person, who should you really be mad at? But yet still bitch about the "other girl."
As a MAN if I cheat I can man up and take responsibility, but also if she cheats I can see it wasn't dude's fault it was hers.
Art2dope
· 11 months ago
Its funny you ask! I remember this one time that i felt weird cause i was like wait, wasn't i suppose to do that? Wasn't i suppose to leave? lol But this girl came in with the eye of the tiger, she knew what she wanted. We to my Casa and well i was still alittle tipsy =] Next thing i know she rip my clothes down and started tearing it up. I mean we was in my room, then she took me to the living room, tore it down in the couches. I was like damn! I made sure it wasn't J Holiday cause shorty put me to BED. Woke up with the condom still on and a note on the dresser like "Hey thanks for the night. Just what i needed! XOXO" And i looked at that letter and i was like, thats all that needs to be said. Went to the kitchen and made... LUNCH! AHAAAAAAAAA THANK YOU SHORTY WHERE EVER YOU ARE!
Alex_Delarge_From_Liveagl.com
· 11 months ago
*thumbs up*
HappyToBeNappy
· 11 months ago
Dudes really are the new females on this one. I've had a few one nighters and for me that's all they were, wish I could say the same for them. They kept calling & texting trying to see me again. It is what it is . . .move on. And if we bump into each other again, don't just assume it's gonna go down again (unless it was the bizness!!!)
ChucksFavorite
· 11 months ago
I have been a one night stand before. and it was def understood by both of us what the situation was and I was cool with it. wasn't good tho....after it was over, i actually wished I would have just went to my homegirls house and ate breakfast like i had planned to do!
SAF
· 11 months ago
I've had only 1 one night stand after meeting a guy at a club and it was awful! Not the sex.. but the aftermath. I didn't know this at the time, and he told me he was single, but he had a girlfriend!! And you guessed it, she called/texted/left me voice messages asking me who I was and why was my number in her man's call logs, what was he doing calling me at 2-3am in the morning, etc. I didn't pick up and just ignored her. I felt bad, because as a woman, I should of told her her boyfriend is no good and a liar, but I also didn't want to get involved with the drama since she came at me really nasty, and I figured she would of figured it out since she saw the calls he made to me at 2am. I dunno if he ever told her what went down but I sure wasn't going to tell her. It's been almost 2 years, but I still feel til this day for what happened for 2 reasons: 1. the fact he had a girlfriend and 2. the fact I didn't tell her what went down.
Here's my necessities to a One Night Stand: (for the ladies)
1-Always use a condom! 2-Let a girlfriend know you're leaving with this person, or if you'll be "kicking it" with him later. That night, I brought him over to my apartment and my roommates were out of town at the time. I didn't tell my girls that he was coming over when I got home. I realized how stupid I was because I had just met that guy and I was inviting him into my home. What if he was some psycho who could of harmed me? No one was home at the time. But scary because I put myself in that situation. 3- Make sure he doesn't have a girlfriend/fiancee/wife. It's hard to know if a man does.. so this leads me to..... 4-Don't exchange numbers. He might have someone and she will go through her man's phone if he's coming home at 5am when the club ends at 2am. (as you can see in my case)
Ms.Htown
· 11 months ago
OMG!!! Guys are mos def the new female. So last Monday I went to this guy house we were friends but I never expected any sexual relations from him. To make a long story short, ole dude sucked at kissing and he didnt even last a good 2 mins!! I was more interested in watching law and order that was on! An he texted me 5 mins after I left. "Are we a couple now?" HELL NAH NUCCA!!!
yes
· 11 months ago
damn lmao
Ant_from_Chi
· 11 months ago
I fell sorry for some of the cats yall meeting. Actually I feel sorry you had to go through that ish.
VIChick
· 11 months ago
I have never had a one night stand before to my knowlege, but I did meet someone in the club some years ago and I thought he was cute. We hooked up the next day and the nigga freaked me like I never been freaked before. I let that nigga spend the night and silly me allowed him to take a shower in the morning. After he left I went into the bathroom and started to straigthen it up, I took the dam wash cloth up to see skid fucking marks on my shit. I NEVER EVER EVER TALKED TO THAT NASTY MUDDA FUCKER AGAIN. YUCK THAT WAS THE GROSSIEST SHIT I HAVE EVER IN MY LIFE SEEN. YUCK..... THAT NASTY ASS NIGGA IS EMBEDDED IN MY MEMORY FOR LIFE. CALL HIM SHAWN SHITSTER.LOL
Ness
· 11 months ago
Yuck....lol! Tht's crzy. And tht's hard to get outta ya' mind....damn....lol....
VIChick
· 11 months ago
That was the most nastiest shit I have ever saw in all my days. Yuck. I never saw his ass again, nasty mudda fucker. lol
Ant_from_Chi
· 11 months ago
It was a one night stand sweetie. unfortunately it was a shitty one. no pun intended. lmbao
VIChick
· 11 months ago
Well whatever it was, that shit was gross.
Ant_from_Chi
· 11 months ago
I don't disagree. that's some nasty shit. Better luck next time. Oh, i forgot, there won't be a next time.
Ms. Smith
· 11 months ago
This is my first time posting but I had to. Where were these notes last week when I really needed them? lol. Well, technically I have known him almost three years but since we ran into each other in the club and left for my house and, he hasn't called since...then that makes it a one night stand. :(
Karma is a bitch!
yes
· 11 months ago
i had one, never again
i was weak yall! lmao we did it in the car(blah) and he wanted to do it again but i was feelin a little woozy so i knew that wasnt a good idea so he took me back to the club, my head was poundin, threw up in the bathroom and sat outside to wait for my cousin
404
· 11 months ago
Yes...........I felt good at the moment and felt like shit the next day.................prolly cuz of my monster ass hangover.............lol
Ant_from_Chi
· 11 months ago
Damn I need to meet you Sugar!!!! Where you at?
404
· 11 months ago
A-Town Baby
Ant_from_Chi
· 11 months ago
When did men become the new women? I must have missed that memo because I don't get it. Y'all must be meeting some bitch ass niggas out there, and if so you can't be calling them men because that is entirely something different and if you have never had the pleasure of experiencing one, then I can see where the confusion is coming from.
Anyway back to the one night stand. First thing. If you find yourself in a situation where you meet somebody and you're like damn. I'mma bump it with this Cat/Chick, the one thing that can fuck up the whole situation is TOO MANY QUESTIONS about what else they got going on. Let it do what it's naturally gone do. If you start getting into all the what if he has a woman or what if her man finds out ish then you're going to ruin the moment, plus feel you're going to be feeling something bad the next day. All you should be feeling the next day is the afterglow of some hopefully good sex. All the other ish is irrelavant. Save that shit for your real relationship. Also, like SAF and The Headmistress said, pass the Niggas info to your peoples. It's some ill thangs going on in the world these days, and I'm sure none of us want to be involved in it just for the chance at what you thought might be some good good.
Yall stay safe and happy O's to you all!!!
HeadMistress
· 11 months ago
That's a man with a good head on his shoulders - we like Ant_from_Chi!!!! ;-)
All Comments
As far as the "if he has a gf/wife" there's really no way to know unless you do an all out investigation on the dude...a lot of men will lie about their situations no matter what...so yeah, be careful about calls and texts...
Off subject for a hot second: Can we as girlfriends/wives/1st priority jumpoffs, whatever our status, PLEASE get smart and stop approaching the "other woman"
There's really no point unless you enjoy playin yourself...
If your man cheats your problem is with HIM, not her...even if that other woman knew he was married/involved there is no reason to approach her, especially if she wants your man - she will tell you anything that she thinks will make you leave him....even if she doesn't want your man she'll tell you whatever is necessary to get you to stop callin and textin her! Either way you probably won't find out the truth.
U couldn't have said it better... :) I hate getting those calls from other females... like wht do u want me to say...tht he blew my back out 2 nites ago. And if I do say that yeah ur gonna be mad at him but chances are u'll end up taking his b*tchass back...lol
I was about to get real creative and tell her some ish she really ain't wanna hear but I opted for the high road via Verizon Wireless Usage Control Service instead - a good ole fashion phone block works every time :-)
As a MAN if I cheat I can man up and take responsibility, but also if she cheats I can see it wasn't dude's fault it was hers.
But this girl came in with the eye of the tiger, she knew what she wanted. We to my Casa and well i was still alittle tipsy =] Next thing i know she rip my clothes down and started tearing it up. I mean we was in my room, then she took me to the living room, tore it down in the couches. I was like damn! I made sure it wasn't J Holiday cause shorty put me to BED.
Woke up with the condom still on and a note on the dresser like "Hey thanks for the night. Just what i needed! XOXO"
And i looked at that letter and i was like, thats all that needs to be said. Went to the kitchen and made... LUNCH! AHAAAAAAAAA
THANK YOU SHORTY WHERE EVER YOU ARE!
Here's my necessities to a One Night Stand: (for the ladies)
1-Always use a condom!
2-Let a girlfriend know you're leaving with this person, or if you'll be "kicking it" with him later. That night, I brought him over to my apartment and my roommates were out of town at the time. I didn't tell my girls that he was coming over when I got home. I realized how stupid I was because I had just met that guy and I was inviting him into my home. What if he was some psycho who could of harmed me? No one was home at the time. But scary because I put myself in that situation.
3- Make sure he doesn't have a girlfriend/fiancee/wife. It's hard to know if a man does.. so this leads me to.....
4-Don't exchange numbers. He might have someone and she will go through her man's phone if he's coming home at 5am when the club ends at 2am. (as you can see in my case)
THAT NASTY ASS NIGGA IS EMBEDDED IN MY MEMORY FOR LIFE. CALL HIM SHAWN SHITSTER.LOL
Karma is a bitch!
i was weak yall! lmao we did it in the car(blah) and he wanted to do it again but i was feelin a little woozy so i knew that wasnt a good idea so he took me back to the club, my head was poundin, threw up in the bathroom and sat outside to wait for my cousin
Anyway back to the one night stand. First thing. If you find yourself in a situation where you meet somebody and you're like damn. I'mma bump it with this Cat/Chick, the one thing that can fuck up the whole situation is TOO MANY QUESTIONS about what else they got going on. Let it do what it's naturally gone do. If you start getting into all the what if he has a woman or what if her man finds out ish then you're going to ruin the moment, plus feel you're going to be feeling something bad the next day. All you should be feeling the next day is the afterglow of some hopefully good sex. All the other ish is irrelavant. Save that shit for your real relationship. Also, like SAF and The Headmistress said, pass the Niggas info to your peoples. It's some ill thangs going on in the world these days, and I'm sure none of us want to be involved in it just for the chance at what you thought might be some good good.
Yall stay safe and happy O's to you all!!!