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But I have another factor thats important to me.
Be a woman, and follow MY Lead.
I lead the way, some women are so used to being without a man they don't know how to let a man lead. I understand you're independant and doing things on your on; that's fine when you are on your on. But when you are in a relationship, you have to learn to fall back and trust that what that man says or does is right for the both of you.
And I'm not talking about getting with a controlling man; if you can't tell the difference in a man thats is the head and a control freak. Bless your heart.
Sometimes we female make things a bit too complicated because we don't understand how simple men can be... hell we know we ain't like that lol.
My point is once I got my mind right, acknowledge the type of dudes I attract things become super simple. I got to go after what I want rather then settling with what I don't want. You can't play a good game blind.
Im done with this love and relationship crap..good luck yall
Now me personally everything was fine. Then i found out he was Bi-polar, and not medicated, and a functioning alcholic. I mean i felt like I never had a chance in the first place once I found all those things out. So instead of saying alot of men, i will say some. Some men will never be pleased, so don't know what to do with a good women, and some just don't give a damn. I still know there are good men out there, though but like you said before, there are so many ppl out here, and as long as I am able to get to know them. I'm not settling yet. I feel like as long as I'm not sleeping with everyone that "im getting to know" then I can be choosy also as far as who i settle with. Whoever I settle down with has to be worth it.
I know it's a lot to ask for because i myself am not all that, I can be better but i get better every day. It's what it is.
Back to the matter at hand, yes, a lot of us men, 'want our cake, and eat it to' or however the saying goes. It's a maturity issue and until we put away those 'player' like wants and needs from our woman, her, nor him will be happy.
All a man, real man, wants is: A woman to be there at the end of the day. You as a woman are the fulcrum to the balance in our lives. When the stress of being a man, a black man at that, out here in this world begins to weigh us down, you step in and reassure us that it'll be alright. That even, 'When the money goes' you'll still be there. A woman who acknowledges when her man is working hard, not to praise him as you would a dog, but to commend him as you would a successful person striving to achieve something. A woman who will be a freak, with us, but wise enough to not show off too much of 'the goods', when our boys come to the house. Yes, sit and watch the game with us...but don't be afraid to jump up and demand attention by stripping away your clothing seductively while standing right in front of the tv (if you do that, fuck the game, score, who's playing...it dont matter no more!)
And yes MzVirgo if we ask this of you, we definitely need to obliged you all by fulfilling your needs in return. Basically what you should take away from everything my man Xilla posts on here, is that communication is key, especially in regards to a relationship. As for the jumpoff/side chick...shut up while i watch the game :)
Like rochelle said, reading this shows that it takes pretty much the same things to get to woman's heart as it does a man's. Getting to a man's just takes a little less. Reading this post helped me see how past relationships failed because I lacked a few of these things, but luckily I am growing daily to better myself for me and my future man. I do believe I possess all of these qualities, I just have to actually show them and act on them. Thanks for this post, Xilla. It shed a whole new light on men. :)
At the end of the day, we decide whether we want/choose to cheat or not. More often than not, instead of coming to your main chick/shorty with the issue at hand, we figure the solution is to just have a chick on the side who doesn't do what it is that we don't like.
True, we all 'need love' just like LL spoke about, but we also need to speak up...and that's some real shit. If not, it won't matter if your woman can get to your heart...cause you ain't thinking with it.