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How To Be The Other Man

Started by BlogXilla · 9 months ago

There was a part of my life where I continuously played the position of the other man. When you’re knowingly the other dude there are a few things that you MUST do if you want to maintain a happy sex only relationship. The same can pretty much apply for females playing the other woman ... Continue reading »

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  • MayMay81

    9 months ago

    OMG! My ex-side called yesterday showin his ass talkin about "you know u act just like a n!99a sometimes, I don't like that shit at all yo!" He was askin how its so easy for me to separate emotion from sex and not trip off of talkin to him for months at a time...LMAO. All I could really say is "it is what it is..."
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  • yes

    9 months ago

    basically...lol

    if i had a side piece i would call him "runner up" or "second draft pick" or something along those lines
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  • Ness

    9 months ago

    side dishes are good b/c the compliment the main dish :)
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  • kingsmomma

    9 months ago

    Yeah if my side dish is yams and its Thanksgiving
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  • LawdHaveMercy

    9 months ago

    LOL..you a mess
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  • Killa

    9 months ago

    I wonder what the age group is of the people that think cheating is ok. I bet somehow the three of us are older.
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  • kingsmomma

    9 months ago

    im 24. I would say im a nympho but i like doing all that with one person. Maybe I'm old fashioned, maybe i just value my vajayjay (a.K.A Delilah)

    and i do know you can get cheated on and still catch things but you run a higher risk of catching a cold if you are shaking alot hands.
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  • Killa

    9 months ago

    LOL I love it Delilah!! Yeah I guess I'm old fashioned too. I'll be it!! lol
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  • LawdHaveMercy

    9 months ago

    LOL..I'm 31 and I am a nympho with my husband and if all of this makes us old fashioned,then dammitt I'll be old fashioned.
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  • NaijaWifey

    9 months ago

    Xilla,
    You should have wrote this damn post way back in July when my Sidepiece was acting all new, asking me why he can't come to my son's bday party and why I did not invite him to Disneyland. The hell? Now he cut me lose, cause he didn't have a real place in my life! Can you imagine??????
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  • Lissa

    9 months ago

    Wow. . .. Mine was on some stuff like that. I don't get how they agree in the beginning to be side pieces then get upset when you wont give them a real role. . .Duh that was never the deal
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  • The Jaded NYer

    9 months ago

    Man... I'm cracking up @ "Leave Nothing for CSI" HAHAHAHA!!!!!!!

    one thing you missed, though- the side piece needs to NOT be demanding of time or anything else, because they are very disposable and replaceable and one pouty demand will have their a** on the curb.

    not that I've done it, I'm just sayin... lol
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  • Starr

    9 months ago

    I agree with the whole selfishness thing. If you're in a relationship, then damn it, be in a relationship. All that extra bs of, "oh I'm not satisfied enough" or "I'm just not that into you" or even some "they won't give the business the right way" type mess is unnecessary. Just pack up your ish and LEAVE. Man the hell up and tell me what's good so that I can push you on out the door for something better to come along. I hate people who stay in unfulfulling relationships and complain about it. Break that shit up then. Be an ADULT. Just foolishness
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  • LawdHaveMercy

    9 months ago

    Thank you
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  • Killa

    9 months ago

    Tell 'em Starr!!
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  • Killa

    9 months ago

    It takes way too much planning and thinking to be or have a side piece...I stick to one at a time...besides it's too unsanitary these day to be swapping spit and/or fluids with multiple people even if you do strap up!
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  • mzvirgo

    9 months ago

    Not to mention being a participant on the Maury show aka the baby daddy show.
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  • VIChick

    9 months ago

    The other man needs to know his position, if he doesn't understand that he isn't worthy of the job. Most women have another man on the side because the one she is with isn't doing what he needs to do at home, so being vunerable she falls into something else. Women always let the side order know what the deal is and to respect her relationship with her man. Most men actually go along with it, then he starts catching feelings and that is the time to cut shit short.
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  • Lissa

    9 months ago

    I couldn't agree with you more. My side caught feelings after one month, and started stalkin. So to avoid being a breaking news story I had to cut all ties with that one. Luckily all that one knew about me was I had a man,my cell # and the color and make of the car he thought was mine (I used my cousins car when I went to meet him).
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  • Killa

    9 months ago

    I didn't realize most women had a side piece...none of the women I know do. What is the point of a relationship if you're going to sleep with other people, that's just selfish.
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  • LawdHaveMercy

    9 months ago

    I agree with you,I don't know too many females either with a side piece,there's way too many diseases for that.Plus if your man finds out,what makes you think he's gonna put up with that?
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  • BlogXilla

    9 months ago

    He might if the coochie is good or if he knows he did somethign wrong himself .
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  • LawdHaveMercy

    9 months ago

    Yeah but how long is the thought of good coochie gonna keep you,when in the back of your mind you're gonna wonder if she's stepping out on you again? I've seen that shit happen and it didn't end in a good way,now she's in the grave and he's in jail.
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  • Ness

    9 months ago

    just b/c u don't have a side pc doesn't mean u can't get burned....it happens to ppl all the time. girls thinkin their man is 'faithful' and letting him raw dawg it...and when she goes to the gyn, she's confused when they tell her she got an std. just as long as ppl protect themselves it's all good.
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  • Killa

    9 months ago

    Does anyone believe in relationships anymore...shit!!
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  • LawdHaveMercy

    9 months ago

    I do Killa and I'm sure there are other people that do too.
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  • Killa

    9 months ago

    I was starting to think I was the only one.
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  • Starr

    9 months ago

    I STILL believe in relationships. HONEST relationships with two mature minded individuals working towards a common goal. I have no interest in cheating. I have no interest in lying. I have no interest in fakin' the funk. If that's the case, then buddy you can just do you, so I can do ME. That's all it is.
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  • LawdHaveMercy

    9 months ago

    Condoms won't protect you from aids or herpes,and you're right even women who think their men is faithful end up finding out different but the point is if you don't want a committed monogamous relationship,why not be upfront about that with your man,why go along faking like he's your only one when you know you're doing dirt? It's too much time and effort to cover lie on top of lie and eventually you will get caught,so in the end is a piece of side dick really worth it?
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  • Tyrease

    9 months ago

    A-Men! lol
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  • VIChick

    9 months ago

    I agree I got a friend that was married and her husband started cheating on her and she got an STD from that nigga. She thought he was faithful husband but he was nothing but a dog. If you take the proper precautions when sleeping with someone that everything should be all good.

    I dont personally have a side order, but i did have couple years ago, and when that nigga started talking about marriage I had to let that dude fly.
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  • kingsmomma

    9 months ago

    Maybe I'm a Prude but I definitely don't wont more than one "plumber" clearing the pipes. I have much too much of an imagination and would only be thinking if he does these things with the next chick-- wait how long ago was he with the next chick. Am I tasting her no no parts? No not a good look. Besides I put my 100% effort on my B/f so I and my vagina would have no time/stamina for a side piece.

    And like it has already been mentioned, i'd like to not end up on maury (liek the girl who had fraternal twins by two different men)
    If i needed a side piece my man will wear a costume
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  • ANuJS

    9 months ago

    LMAO on the costume.
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  • Killa

    9 months ago

    Thank You Momma!!! I Agree completley!!
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  • LawdHaveMercy

    9 months ago

    Amen,Preach on it..
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  • Ness

    9 months ago

    The complications of LOVE is crzy...and the complications of Sex is even more crzy. I feel like in my past life I was a dude or something b/c I don't have the same views as most females.
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  • VIChick

    9 months ago

    I know I was a man in my past life. All my friends say I think just like a man.
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  • ANuJS

    9 months ago

    Me neither. I'm married and I remain faithful. HOWEVER...if I ever had the chance. @Ness, I told u how I feel about strange. I no what u mean. LOVE is hard m-f-in work. I don't no if I would ever put my all n2 another relationship again. He'd have to match my soul, real talk. I'd settle for some good dick. Long d, fat d, long thumbs, wet lips, rhythm filled hips....my starting 5.LMAO! My reserves btw would be all Jamaicans (duh) J/K! I'm sorry. However, I think there is a way to practice safe sex. If two adults agree to mutually enter into a satisfying relationship where both ppl know the deal-then have at it. I've known married ppl who have caught diseases in a faithful relationship. I've known ppl who have slept w/everybody and are childless and disease free. It's all a chance. Every relationship run risks
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  • NaijaWifey

    9 months ago

    Well as far as age goes I am 27 years old. Married with a 7 year old! and yes I had a sidepiece. Every relationship is different, there is always a story behind the madness.
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  • Killa

    9 months ago

    There is NO story behind cheating...cheating is a selfish act regardless of the situation UNLESS you both agree to an open marriage...end of story.
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  • NaijaWifey

    9 months ago

    Well, to each it's own opinion. And I stick by mine......
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  • Starr

    9 months ago

    Egg damn zackly. If you're fed up with the bs, LEAVE. People who cheat are so damn childish. Making up stories to cheat. Stressing out just to cheat. Just be real. And open marriages? Now I know the world is really coming to an end. A marriage is a blessing from God. Whom God joins together, let no man put asunder. People who are married and are accepting an open door like that DON'T need to married.
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  • LawdHaveMercy

    9 months ago

    Dammitt,we all have to be sistes because we see things the same damn way...Man I love ya'll here on Blogxilla because we can talk like adults and keep it pushing,keep it coming ladies.
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  • Kandy Red

    9 months ago

    Why would you want two different men running up in you? I can't & I would never understand a female that accept the fact; that it's alright to have more then one man beat it up. If you’re unhappy with him and he isn't doing something right, then find a partner that satisfies your needs, it’s to much trouble, aggravation defiantly too much damn diseases going around f*ck around and catch that Fed-Ex then it’s a wrap, pin it up doobies & pins.
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  • VIChick

    9 months ago

    OK...totally off the subject, but who has seen Usher's video Trading PLaces? That shit is too hot. Now that shit is cheating and I know his husband was tripping when she saw that. My underwear was soaking after I watched that shit..... Thanks Steph for telling me about it. LOL
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  • ANuJS

    9 months ago

    Y, no Meat Eater. I haven't seen the video yet. Let me go watch it RIGHT DAMN NOW..................lol
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  • VIChick

    9 months ago

    Girl that video was hot to death. I think I am in lust with Usher again.
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  • ANuJS

    9 months ago

    Unlike u, I will share. U may have him for the rest of TONIGHT and I'll get the next 6-7-8-9 or maybe 10 days and u can have him again. Fair? Definitely!
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  • VIChick

    9 months ago

    LOL dam that aint fair, but its cool I'll just roll with Vick while you with Usher. No biggie!!! lol That tall drink of water yummmmmmmm.
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  • ANuJS

    9 months ago

    Did u say VIck, now u know that he is OFF limits. Take Usher back, I'll watch the video but I "got it bad" for Vick. Sorry.....slowly taking a step back and letting u do u.
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  • VIChick

    9 months ago

    LOL take Usher back I dont want him anymore...OK I will take D'angelo in the "Untitled" video. That man boils my ovaltine. Back then...Pre crack....Pre fat! LOL
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  • ANuJS

    9 months ago

    I swear that I thought that there have only been a cpl of SEXY videos. When I saw trading plcs I went back to untitled. The video that had u sitting close to the screen beggin God to let that camera go farther down. Okay, I will gladly take Usher back. I KNOW I can handle them both. It must be my birthday!
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  • VIChick

    9 months ago

    Girl I am listening to D'angelo as we speak, this man was so dam sexy. Girl I had that video and I prayed that the camera would go down. Lawd. But girl i know u could handle both of them. Tigeress!!!!
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  • nichellewalker

    9 months ago

    Wow this world is going down hill ten years ago women would never be talking about side pieces and dips. God is on his way back we better start getting our house in order. When the world thinks it cool to cheat I can't take it anymore. What about our daughter’s do we raise them and say it's okay to sleep around. wtf.....
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  • LawdHaveMercy

    9 months ago

    I feel you on that...
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  • VIChick

    9 months ago

    Folks we are just having conversations and stating our opinions. Xilla asked a question and we give our opinion. This site is for SEXUAL INTELLECTUALS WITH SWAGGER. IS IT NOT? This website lets us talk openly about sex, but some folks on here acting like certain shit is beneth them when their the ones you gotta watch around your man. That shit kills me!!!!
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  • ANuJS

    9 months ago

    Ditto. I totally co-sign with my girl, Meat Eater!!!! This is an outlet. I come to be silly and express my opinions and my desires. Where else can I share that I want to f*** the hell out of a Jamaican and nobody cares but here. It is what it is. This is for GROWN folks with GROWN folks business. Do u and while ur at it...bust a nut!
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  • VIChick

    9 months ago

    That's what I'm talking about girl!!!! At least someone agrees with the kid.
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  • Tron

    9 months ago

    I don't believe in love. I feel like nowadays even though you might be in a relationship, it's more or less for companionship.....best friends who happen to have sex. You should always have options on the side because there will always be somebody that's better for you than the person you're with so why settle? Problem is....men wanna make the rules but don't wanna follow them.
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  • ANuJS

    9 months ago

    "men wanna make the rules but don't wanna follow them." My thought exactly. MEN!
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  • Kim

    9 months ago

    Xilla, whats the difference between a sexual intellectual and an unpaid whore?? I'm just sayin...
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  • nichellewalker

    9 months ago

    you will always find somebody better for you if your in a realtionship why ya looking? and also do you suposse to dyke hop until you get old and nobody wants you. after 37-40 u can forget about getting a husband really. all the old man marry young women... it's not judge it's the state of this world and why young girls run wild becuase we older women think it's okay to sleep around becuase men do it. but not knowing men sleep with women. so if women stop sleeping around men would to. there would be nobody for them to sleep with unless there gay.
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  • FRESH_DA_BARBER

    9 months ago

    i call her rhinocerous ass.

    that ass run wild.

    and its big too.

    i go to walgreens and waste one bottle of baby oil on her big ass all the time.

    my pinky loves her pink ass hole.

    Pinky meet the other Pinky
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  • FRESH_DA_BARBER

    9 months ago

    When the coochies good all we doin is eating egg rolls and chinese food. She can jack off next to me watchin a porn. Thats my coochie and she knows it. I eat it lovely dovely.

    The only place she going is to drop off some movies we rented and back to her moms house for more clothes.

    When she come back its drippin down her leg so much she anticapating another pie eating contest.

    Now I have a rash on my upper lip and it looks like I've been eating cherry icey all day. Dammit

    My puss aint goin ANYWHERE word to a newborn baby GAWD!
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  • dc_realest

    9 months ago

    LOL....its cool. fellas (we) must know our place in that situation. just don't catch feelings and don't make yourself so available.

    i must admit its a dirty feeling...but it kinda gives you a rush. just to know that somebody else's girl/guy can't lay that pipe like you are. therefore, you mission is to lay da pipe...no feelings...and keep it moving.

    my motto...."fun wit me...done with me"
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  • Kandy Redd

    8 months ago

    Trying
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