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  red

  8 months ago

  thats where the problem occurs with me, men think that women should automatically give head as if its a requirement, when their head is awful or they dont even do it..or its once in every blue moon he eats out. thats niggas problems and when niggas have dat type of attitude they really miss da fuck out....dudes get spoiled by hoes and tellin dem how they want the head and when.. but in reality when u wit ur woman u need to stfu ...u wanna beg den get mad u get half assed head....for example..you knew u was the person to take out the trash and in ur mind u were eventually gonna do it but when u constantly get nagged, y ou end up takin da trash out wit tha most shitty attitude..same thing applies to females n head...dont ask and a bitch might jus do it wit a smile on her face...she'll do it when she's ready.
  
  and also....ppl need stop assumin that ALL females give head. thats totally not true. but if u shut tha hell up, you might ca get it
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  Ess

  8 months ago

  Funny. I guess its the irrational mind of this female. BUt if you ask.. chances are I wont do it.
  
  You'd be surprised how fast a female would do something when you dont stress it, ask for it.. or make it seem like its something SHE MUST DO. Gtfoh.
  
  Ive heard this saying alot.."a closed mouth wont get fed.."
  Well with me.. "a closed mouth may actually get you head... "
  
  I agree with JLbean.. never ask.. if it isnt just DONE then maybe they wont want to do it AT THAT TIME.
  
  Here is a question for the fellas..
  If you are in a situation with a female and you see she isnt doing it.. (Which to me means she dont want to do it then) Does it really make sense to ask... get it.. but get half -assed head?? ONLY because you asked..? Pity head, if you must...Or would you rather just wait and get it when she's ready to give it.. and know that you about to get your toes curled...?
  
  Im just saying...
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  Killa

  8 months ago

  LMAO...A closed mouth may actually get you head!!
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  Ms.310

  8 months ago

  I'm so glad someone mentioned pity head...I actually stopped talking to a guy because of the tantrums he would throw because he wasn't getting head from me. I even tried to explain to him that men in my life before him never had any complaints, and got head on the regular- only because they didn't whine about it or constantly bring it up.
  
  Asking for it or getting an attitude because you didn't get it when you want it will get you nowhere.
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  BlogXilla

  8 months ago

  oh see ms.310 let me ask you a question. You didn't like him whining... he was whining because you wouldn't give him head... you had no problem giving head because you've done it in the past...yet you didn't give him any head.. That ideology right there is the problem I have with it.
  
  It's not a logical or rational reason its simply spite. So why not just do it and do it good? lol
  
  What he eating you out?
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  Ms.310

  8 months ago

  May not have been rational, but he got on my nerves with that mess...sex should not be irrating and it should not turn into a debate about who will do what, my reason wasnt spite, but he constanly killed the mood with his whining about not getting head. Men can talk their way out of some good head.
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  BlogXilla

  8 months ago

  but it wouldn't have bene irrating if you would have done it the first time he asked because you aint have a problem doing it... lol right? i mean i see your point but he probably loved it.. i like head more then pussy and you can tell who has good head and who doesn't so he probably just wanted what he likes best...
  
  not he shouldn't have shown his bitch ass ness but you probably should have just did it.
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  BlogXilla

  8 months ago

  I feel what you're saying I mean don't we all do things we don't want to do? But I'm just saying why we gotta wait if we both know its going to be done. Do you wait until the cereal is gone before you reach in and get the surprise? do you put the tv dinner in the over because it will taste better or do you just pop it in the microwave and eat it ten minutes later? But we cant all be as lucky as you ms I don't ask i just got men wanting to give me tongue spankings...lol
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  Kee

  8 months ago

  CTFU - a whole mess Xilla.
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  V.I.P. JiGGa

  8 months ago

  Finally someone said it!
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  Xilla

  8 months ago

  I know right! I don't under stand this thing! lol we both know she's going to do it lol
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  Xilla

  8 months ago

  hey Kee what can i say head is a must what is she looking at? she know she wants to do it... lol
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  Brothers' Blog

  8 months ago

  Preach on it man!! I second this motion and co-sign it. LoL.
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  BlogXilla

  8 months ago

  Thank you my brother thank you a lot
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  Killa

  8 months ago

  There is that difference...a female can ask a dude to do it and to the dude it's sexy, if he asks her to do it...not the same reaction at all.
  
  And never ever under any circumstances push her head down there.
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  Ess

  8 months ago

  and funny enough.. Ive never asked.. and never will. And I have NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO problems..lmao..
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  BlogXilla

  8 months ago

  its the legs.
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  Ess

  8 months ago

  Sssshhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.... ;o)
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  BlogXilla

  8 months ago

  ok i'll close my mouth because as you said a close mouth might get you head.
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  Ess

  8 months ago

  lmao....mmmhhmmm...
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  Killa

  8 months ago

  Me neither...never had to.
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  BlogXilla

  8 months ago

  That's cus you're a killa!!! lol
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  Killa

  8 months ago

  You got that right!! You betta recognize!! lol
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  tiki

  8 months ago

  i think that if she laying on your chest and LOOKING AT IT (LOL) then chances are she's about to do it. and if she doesn't for some odd reason and you have to ask then ask in a cute way. I think it is all in the way you ask. i.e. can i get some head? or baby can i get some lips?( while gently rubbing her lips). Guess it's a women thing......
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  BlogXilla

  8 months ago

  i could have sworn i replied to this but that's normally what i do but it shouldn't be a debate i had this chick who would come over just to give me head and she would do that long pause... i got frustrated and pushed her head down there i mean she knew what she was there for...
  
  she gave some great head too so it like teasing a starving tiger
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  Killa

  8 months ago

  That would have been a fight...don't ever push my head...hell naw!
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  BlogXilla

  8 months ago

  but she knew she was there for head!! lol She knew that I called up and said why don' you come over and have something do what you do.
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  Killa

  8 months ago

  That's like a chick just walking up to you and sitting on your face...but then again...you probably like that shit lol
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  BlogXilla

  8 months ago

  yep i probably would!! depends on the female. I'm selective with my tongue
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  99 probs but a bitch aint 1

  8 months ago

  you're selective but the woman you're about to stick your meat in doesn't have to be?
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  Killa

  8 months ago

  More selective than your with your Manxilla?
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  BlogXilla

  8 months ago

  Umm as bad as this sounds yes. only because i've had sex with women I never ate out. I guess its because it's a lot easier to get a condom rather than a dental dam... I guess. Now i have to reevaluate my whole line of thought.
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  tiki

  8 months ago

  See that's the difference in casual head and in a relationship head. if you see what i mean. lol
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  BlogXilla

  8 months ago

  i guess so I guess im just spoiled lol
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  Ess

  8 months ago

  Exactly.. Which is why the casual thing is WACK!
  I enjoy doing it ..and when Im in a casual situation..Im NOT going to give my all.. like I would if I was in a relationship.. plus my man WOULD KNOW BETTER THAN TO ASK!
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  BlogXilla

  8 months ago

  that goes back to the whole sex with out feelings being wack. Sex when there is a connection is way better. But those little things like head and just watching a movie together or drinking or smoking together goes a long way to build that connection. I know i take pride in the fact that i can do other things and not have sex and still feel like i've accomplished something
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  tiki

  8 months ago

  same with me. casual means casual. so i am not going to give my all. Casual is very wack. its way better in a relationship, then you don't have to ask. you don't have that akward pause and all of that. IT's all good! We comfortable.
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  ms. head banger

  8 months ago

  I HATE when a guy ask for it, no matter how he does it, it annoys me! Dude, if wanna taste it, then I will. Don't go asking for sh*t. That's like me asking you for a Gucci bag all the damn time, chill the f*ck out & u'll get wht u want (believe me). I may have a tooth ache or something lol.
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  BlogXilla

  8 months ago

  head should not be compared to a gucci bag.... head is free
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  ms. head banger

  8 months ago

  Head is not free!!! Ther'e a lot of hidden fees in head that ya'll mean over look. We have maintenance to do to make sure your oral experience is an enjoyable one! lol. So when u get it, u have to appreciate it!
  
  ur right, u can't compare my head to a gucci bag b/c my head is worth much more than a designer bag! ;)
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  99 probs but a bitch aint 1

  8 months ago

  So why is it that some men say that they don't go down on "random" women, but it is expected to suck a dick off the rip? I don't understand.......
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  BlogXilla

  8 months ago

  that's because you never know she might have to have some left over nut in her.... and wetness is different from a guy getting head. We don't get wet we get hard so it's less nasty when we get head unless you let us nut in your mouth. So nothing other than skin has to go in your mouth while wetness goes in ours...
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  99 probs but a bitch aint 1

  8 months ago

  What if it's your first "date", you know there is no left over nut, ya'll have spent the entire day together. Goin all over the city, eatin, laughin, drinkin whatever.......get back to the crib, telli, either or and you wouldn't take the sweet nectar of the woman that you've spent all day with but you'd want some head while watching a re-run of the BET awards?????
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  BlogXilla

  8 months ago

  I am not watching the negro awards while getting head!! lol but I've done it if the mood was right it all depends i'm selective like i said
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  99 probs but a bitch aint 1

  8 months ago

  I'mma want you to be more selective with your meat.......you don't wanna eat the disease but you'll fuck it? I don't get it.......I still got love for you tho
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  BlogXilla

  8 months ago

  i am selective with my meat, but i just said that i've slept with more girls than i ate. Should it be the other way around?
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  99 probs but a bitch aint 1

  8 months ago

  That's a question only you can answer darlin. I have had more sex partners then men I gave head to. I don't give every man I have sex with head.........It's too good and I don't want him to try to blowup my spot!!! And it is really personal cuz I dont like the flavored condoms so if Imma suck it, it will be raw and sometimes they not around long enough to enjoy the warmth and wettness of my mouth.
  
  It beeeeeees like dat sometimez!
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  I Want It

  8 months ago

  Xilla, can I use u as a pacifier
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  shhwhisper

  8 months ago

  I don't really liked being asked but it turns me on when it's more of a command, like "put daddy in your mouth" or if he pulls it out and says "kiss daddy".
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  DC_REALEST

  8 months ago

  iight, i'ma jump in here late. but here's my two cents.
  
  i agree with most, if your in a casual situation then asking is iight, but the timing is key. and if you in a relationship, to me it should be a given. meaning, when i wake up...i want my 'stick' in ya mouth. i makes me have a better day...real talk. on the flip "she can have whateva she like..."
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  ms. head banger

  8 months ago

  U want it in her mouth when u wake up...wht about morning breath...that's not cool.
  If the dude I'm dealing w/ doesn't eat is as often as he wants head then I cut back on the head. I'll let him know why he's not getting it as often as he likes so he can make an informed decision to do it more.
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  DC_REALEST

  8 months ago

  iight, Ms Head Banger LOL @ morning breath shouldn't be an issue if you brush at night before bed. i didn't say i wanted a kiss...so when she do it then it don't matter b/c after she's gonna catch those babies then im hoping in the shower anyways so there's no issue here.
  
  as for returning the favor...i don't have a problem with compromising but i know few females that wake up dripping like us dudes wake up with a stiffy. if i don't get my morning head...then i'll have erruptions all day like on the train or something where im not supposed to.
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  Mz. Fiyah

  8 months ago

  and I am one of those females...if you are next to me when I wake up you better expect to get it on...or else it's going to be a long day.
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  ChucksFavorite

  8 months ago

  i have only been asked by one person and it annoyed the hell outta me! he sounded like a lil ass kid. he thought i was scared to do it. so i finally had to shut that ass up........and from then on out, he never asked again ;-) but i agree with most of u about not asking. and i never asked for it either until i got with my current bf...the difference with him is that he likes for me to tell him what i want, and i happily obliged to do so!
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  k-dc

  8 months ago

  I love to give head. I love when my man climb ontop of me and place it right in my mouth and fuck the shit out of my mouth with his stick and hands on my hair. It drives me crazy, I be spitting, lick and downing that bad boy....whewwwwww let me calm down I'm still at work.
  I'm just being honest.
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  VIChick

  8 months ago

  I am so late for this conversation, but you know I have to put in my 2 cents. First off, I love giving head but you can't just go giving it to every Tom,Dick, and Xilla. LOL. I think if you are in a relationship( real relationship, not those casual shit) head is implied. And it goes the other way around. If your my man I expect head without asking and you wont have to ask me. But I also feel head doesn't have to be given everytime sex is performed. Then it gets a bit routine. When you get the shit just enjoy it, and stop complaining.
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  nichellewalker

  8 months ago

  you should come up with a look that she knows what you want once you stare at her. or say baby can I get some kisses. that works with me.
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  jlabean

  8 months ago

  now that im not tweetin i can further explain. What i mean by that is you should never HAVE to ask. Chicks nowadays need to stop playin and only doing it cause he asks. No...the d*ck should be lovingly slurped on a regular basis. That should be law!
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  JMK

  8 months ago

  Damn Xilla... maybe you should post a blog about women claiming their head game is good. I know you did the pussy one, but I think I have met more girls (and see a lot in this thread), claiming their head game is good, the best etc. In all reality I have no found many girls with this special feaature and to be honest when I do... I make sure I keep them around. If your head game is that good ladies 1. Your guy is asking because he likes it that much, 2. If you don't suck it someone else will, 3. Do not put it off cause I can guarentee a good head game will keep your man around. 4. If you are good expect the guy to try that much more to please you, half-ass it and expect half-assed tongue/dick too.
  
  I agree with Xilla though, I would take head over pussy most of the time, and if a girl is not doing it on the regular, expect me to stray.
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  VIChick

  8 months ago

  See that is triffling ass shit. "if a girl is not doing it on a regular, expect me to stray". And is this person who is suppose to supply u with head is ur woman? Now a days relationships are built on shit because of wack ass statements like that. What if she said mother fucker if you don't eat this pussy on a regular I will let your bestfriend continue the job. That shit wont be so cute then huh?
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  JMK

  8 months ago

  I have no problem with eating pussy... just like the lady should not have problem giving head. If you are in a real relationship you should be willing to satisfy your partner. If that is what satisfies them you should be willing to, just like the eating pussy part. I am not saying give head when I want, where I want... I am saying if head is Never or rarely involved in foreplay or just for fun ocassionally, thats the problem.
  
  Tell me why if dude is your man you are not willing to satisfy him orally?
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  Ms. 310

  8 months ago

  I agree, just keep in mind any dude that has to ask for head- we probably aren't too concerned about him leaving, take that bitch assness to the next lady.
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  shayna

  8 months ago

  a dude that ask me to give him head will never get sucked off, not happenin.
  && then if you try to push my head down there, you get the "nigga please" look.
  for me; im only willing to give head to dudes im in a relationship w. or someone i really really really like.
  if its just some friend w. benefits type shit, then you should not expect me to go down.
  thas just me.
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  virginized

  8 months ago

  Hello Xilla,
  
  I read your blogs alot but I've never commented (until now). Only reason I am commenting is because I find this topic quite interesting. I agree w/ most of everyone's answers - I feel like if your in a relationship there should be no boundaries & head should be a no-brainer (no pun intended) however if its strictly platonic, why bother w/ head? If your simply a "fuck" buddy, why ask for head ? If your not planning on pursuing this person as his or her's "boo-thang", sex should be the only option right ?
  
  P.S ; fellas, what is considered "good head" ?
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  BlogXilla

  8 months ago

  hey thanks a lot for the comment I hope to see your name in the comment section a little more. But I believe i have a blog on here about what is good head.
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  HeadMistress

  8 months ago

  never ask, bcs if I (or most females, according to the response thus-far) go the pity head route then your last words will inevitably be "Tha's it?" with a confused and disappointed look...
  
  NEVER EVER EVER push my head down, because u'll NEVER EVER EVER get it / get it again
  
  when I am INSPIRED to do it, I know what I'm doin so let me, AGAIN, do not push my head down, I don't need help...if you do it n e way u'll be askin "Tha's it?" with the same confused and disappointed look...
  
  that's not to say "hands off" completely, you can play with or pull my hair and/or gently or even "slightly" firmly :-) guide me while I do my thing but if you grab it like a basketball in the last 3 seconds of double o/t of the NBA playoffs with "SUCK MY DICK, BITCH" force, then, well u know... "Tha's it?"....followed by that confused and disappointed look
  
  absorb that and then we'll talk about INSPIRATION....
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  Bie.

  8 months ago

  i'm always willing to give head.. but i don't know why i just find it sexy when a guy asks for it!! when he does, i just grin and go for it. so should a girl ask for it??
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  Avhnz

  8 months ago

  A woman shouldn't have to ask for it. It should already be in the plans. That type of your laying in the bed & he just comes & devours the goodies.
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  yes

  8 months ago

  maybe u should just start strokin it while she's lookin at it to give her a lil visual stimulation boost, then say "i'm ready when u are" so she feels like its her decision *shrugs*
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  HappyToBeNappy

  8 months ago

  I'm the kinda chick that needs to be told to give head. I never offer it & I never initiate it. But if it's somebody I'm really feeling, all he has to do is tell me to do it & I'm there. I love a guy who takes charge in the bedroom. . .tells me what to do & when to do it. I like him to be a little forceful, not violent or nothing like that. . .but just kinda ordering me around. It's funny though, cause outside the bedroom, I wish a N@@@ would try to tell me what to do. It aint going down like that.
  
  So guys, if you come across a girl like me, please tell her what you want. . .and you shall receive!!!
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  kyas_mami

  8 months ago

  Ummm...NO!
  Firt things first, do these rules apply to men giving had as well??
  So I'm just sposed to open my mouth an wait for you to stick that shit in my mouf...
  NO SIR!!
  Shit, head is an extra curicular activity...
  I mean don't get me wrong I LOVE giving head, but dot have no stank ass attitude about it like I should feel privileged to wrap my lips around yur shit...
  BOY BYE!!!
  If you gonna have that kinda attitude then you better be on your way down south too!
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  Avhnz

  8 months ago

  Lol... I can't stop laughing at your post here. Yes, its true no one likes to be teased but that goes both ways. Women expect the kitty to be paid attention to too. Me personally I absolutely love giving head not just b/c it pleases my babe but heck if I'm that much into it I can please myself (since we're talking grown up). I don't want to sound too vulgar so I'll leave it at that. No I don't like to play games b/c I don't want him playing games with Tiger when she needs some special attn.
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  6 years n countin

  8 months ago

  why is nobody stating the obvious? head is a PRIVILIGE not a RIGHT. i mean, so is gettin ass in general, but still. this goes for both men AND women. and i will tell you this much, if my dude has been acting a fool all day, been unhelpful or just a jackass in general, the chances of him gettin head are ZERO. now, if he's been a good boy, offering to do something around the house or with/for the kids, showin me respect and affection, i will jam that thang down my throat and choke on it like a whore. so men, treat women how they wanna be treated and you will ALSO get treated!
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  jazzy

  8 months ago

  if were all adults, then shouldnt niggaz be eatin pussy too?
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  JR Get Em

  4 months ago

  cosign
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