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  VIChick

  9 months ago

  I was in a situation years ago where one of my friends liked this guy and she wanted to introduce me to his cousin. I was down for it, when I saw him he was finer than Noami Campbell's hairline. But for some reason my attraction was more towards my friends guy and vice versa. I don't know why but it was something about him that intrigued me. Well come to find out he felt the same way and we started developing a secret relationship. My friend and him never got together, but the fact that she liked him made me tell her. It hurt me to tell her but I had to, it was starting to eat away at me. I told her and she actually said she noticed the way he looked at me and he showed more attention to me than her. I knew she felt bad so I ended the relationship with him.
  
  Jazmine Sullivan talks the truth, the majority of the songs actually dealth with something that happened in my life. It is crazy!!! The bonus track Switch kind of talks about this situation.
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  FRESH_DA_BARBER

  9 months ago

  one time I took a picture of a Charms Cherry blowpop right?
  
  next to this girls coochie for added flavor right?
  
  made it all cherrylicious right?
  
  and then I showed it to my friend and he was like BOOMBACLAT!
  
  BOOOOOOOOMBACLAT!
  
  he asked me can I do that to her to?
  
  I said how much you gonna pay me?
  
  starts laughing right....
  
  how much you gonna pay me?
  
  So he bought me a whole box of Charms BlowPops at Costco....
  
  On sale for 3.99 an 100 count.
  
  Can you believe that?
  
  Boombaclat!
  
  Sometimes you want to tell someone you want to fuck their girl ....
  
  and sometimes you just want someone to buy you a big box of Charms BlowPops....
  
  
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  youtube.com/freshdabarber888
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  ANuJS

  9 months ago

  Hasn't everyone banged somebody else's boo? Secret sex is the best sex.
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  BlogXilla

  9 months ago

  I think so, knowingly or unknowingly. Right?
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  Kee

  9 months ago

  WOW..this hits home for me..My BF of 11 years slept with my boyfriend...FYI: we're OVER, he and I (share a child) but OVER she and I shared a long friendship but OVER. and to this day its hurts a bit..the weird thing about it is that he has apologized many times and she has not...when I found out and approached her she attempted to meet up and talk but never followed thru and that in itself kind fucked me up. I got an apology from a nigga who NEVER admits when he's wrong but none from who used to be one of the most important ppl in my life...but you live and you learn...Xilla when you said on Twitter yesterday "when a person shows you who they are..believe them" I felt that son!
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  BlogXilla

  9 months ago

  Oh yeah you got too. I have a problem of having a hair thin trigger. But.... Question would it have been different if your girl would have came up to you and told you?
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  Kee

  9 months ago

  Different as far as us not being friends? I can't say for sure because she never tried to even talk to me. She was that friend where I would always go to the ends of the earth for and felt she would for me..she was my heart. I will say this though. I think that's what it took for me to take my blinders off and to see ppl for what they really are...I mean through my relationshipo with my child's father( 6years)...there were hella rumors bout her tryna push up on him and at the time (being naive) I beleive that folks were just not too fond of our "friendship" what a joke, right?!? (LOL) but it wasn't until he and I were over (3 years after) that it was brought to me from someone who was there when all of what was going on was goin on...and it hurt like it had just happen...not becuase of HIM, but because I felt like damn..its one FUCKED up ass thing to have done this but not even hear "my bad" from HER is a whole other issue...I just thought that our friendship meant a lil bit more than that even with her doing what she did but it didn't..
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  ANuJS

  9 months ago

  Not trying to make light of your situation, I couldn't imagine. But in my many years, I have come to find out that a woman is scand-e-lous. The shit I've seen women do to one another is unreal. I don't think men hurt one another the way some women may. This is why I NEVER share with anybody who I know (in person) and they know my husband how good/bad the sex is b/c they want to test it. I also never let them know what kind of man he is b/c on his shitty days they'll try to change him. And for real never let them know if you have a good man-she'll try and steal them. Like Madea said, very few friendships grow roots. I have been heartbroken by how many "branches" have passed through my life.
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  Kee

  9 months ago

  From what was told thru the grapevie..she felt like he "stoled her bestfriend" so I guess thats reason enough to go fuck him him, right?! I never gave details of what was with with he and i during our relationship...he had a bit of dough cheese so I'm guessing that played major part in it too but whatever..she's a ho andIheard she contracted some shit u can't rid yourself of 2 years ago (that was so petty of me but WTFE (LOL)) and he's not even happy with himself right now...karma's a bitch...as church folk say "the battle is not your it's the LORD's"
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  ANuJS

  9 months ago

  Amen. HE stole her friend so she did that? WTFE! She did it b/c she could.
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  Ness

  9 months ago

  @ JustStep u do have a point. I learned a long time ago to keep that type of info to myself. Women like to challenge your bond or ur relationship.
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  VIChick

  9 months ago

  That is crazy. The fact that she couldn't apologize to you after all the years you've known her. Welll at least you found out her true colors.
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  ANuJS

  9 months ago

  Women....what makes it worse for a woman is that they smile in your face, come to your house and chill, know all you and your man's business and will still be fucking your dick on the side.
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  Women

  9 months ago

  Women will do that, but those women aren't your friends. True, if I consider you a friend I will never touch anything that belonged to you without asking.
  
  However, if you just a chic I know the "hands off rule" doesn't apply. If I want it and the feeling is mutual, then I'll approach. If he bites the bait, then you need to be feeding him something better cause obviously he is still hungry. And depending on how I feel I MIGHT send him back.
  
  Nothing personal, she just was never my friend.
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  BlogXilla

  9 months ago

  So there are a lot of associations huh? I think that goes to show people that we need to watch who we actually call our friends.
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  ANuJS

  9 months ago

  I agree. This is how I no chicks are ruthless. Back in the day, I was that chick that u kept ur man from b/c if I wanted to *uck him, I would. Point blank. This is why everyone is so shocked at me now, ppl change right? My true friends, I would never consider doing this to (except that one time and I was real young). I also know from experience that no matter how much food you feed your man and no matter how great it was....nevermind you feed that nigg* dessert TWICE...he will still stop by another chicks house to eat. He'll stop by not only b/c he's greedy, but b/c the menu is different.
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  Kee

  9 months ago

  Tru dat...when I found out...I spent many nights crying and shit..My boyfriend would say "what is that you need to hear from her" and I couldn't never come up with a straight answer...I just wanted her to say something instead of just nothing, you know? but it is what it is...better late than never to realize that a person is not who you though they were, or they've definitely changed throughout the years.
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  VIChick

  9 months ago

  Sometimes you just want to hear I'm sorry. Even though it doesn't change the situation at least you know the person cares enough to apologize. She was scoping your man for a min. and when she got what she wanted she didnt care anymore about the friendship. There are alot of trifling ass women out there. You have to always watch your back.
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  dc_realest

  9 months ago

  Wow, what a topic. Yes, I agree 'secert sex is the best sex' although I was the single (never when I was in a relationship). so does it really count?
  
  but is it the same if the 'lovers' had been broken up for sometime? its an unwrtten rule right...i mean they should be fare game at that point right?
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  BlogXilla

  9 months ago

  Should be but to some people they are not! it's weird though but hey to each its own. I have many stories to tell about my friends and exes...
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  ANuJS

  9 months ago

  @Xilla Weed? Did somebody say weed? My whole mindset changes after partaking in a small toke. For this reason alone, weed should only b smoked with ppl you are allowed to fuck. If we ain't fucking, then we ain't smoking! @ my house this is called entering the "zone"....not to be entered with just anybody!
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  BlogXilla

  9 months ago

  HAHAH I used to have a weed jump off. I would call her she would bring good weed, great head and great sex!
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  ThatchickNik

  9 months ago

  Youre absolutely right Xilla-If this were a woman, sh*t could've gotten REAL ugly. I know a guy who's friend slept with his girlfriend and the guy turned around and married the girl. But if that were a chick, chances are all HELL would break loose!
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  BlogXilla

  9 months ago

  Sure would have females are territorial
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  Ness

  9 months ago

  I've never f*cked around w/ any of my home girls boyfriends b/c all that is off limits. But to one female that i knew, that wasn't how she felt. a few yrs into our friendship I realized she was a bunny and would do anyone with a pulse and I ended our friendship b/c I don't roll like that.
  
  But men can share women no problem for some reason, and I'm guessing b/c they're not an emotional rollercoaster like women.
  
  I do admit that if I deal w/someone and I feel like he's not for me but would work w/ someone I know then i'll try to plug that situation for them to link up. It doesn't happen often but it has happened.
  
  Secret sex is fun, but one time, my secret sex ended up being a triple secret sex, come to find out dude was messing w/ two other friends of mine and of course we were all having secret sex w/ him lol. when we all discovered what went down we laughed at it b/c it wasn't anyone's man.
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  kyas_mami

  9 months ago

  If you feel like you have to sneak to do it in the first place
  chances are you already know or have a pretty good idea of how the person you are hdidng it from will react once they find out
  so, avoid apolo-LYIN' and just keep it to yourself.
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  richkid

  9 months ago

  I had a situation a couple of years ago, i was dealing with this young lady out of my neighborhood. She always said that she was dealing with someone but not that serious so i didn't care who this dude was. Come to find out when i'm at her house one day i see a pic of this guy on her dresser and when i looked closer it was my little man from around the way. None the less i still tapped it but i never let her know i knew him. I didn't want her telling him out of spite if they ever got into a arguement, and i didn't tell him cause he would have been heart broken because i've heard him speaking on older dudes taking them young girls(legal age) away from the younger dudes.
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  ChucksFavorite

  9 months ago

  Oh yes, there are definately 2 sides to this coin...the man side, and the woman side. men really don't trip...woman, on the other hand, will draw blood! for years i always said that i could never sleep with, or even date someone for that matter, that one of my friends used to be with. then one day, i found myself in that very situation that i had always avoided. my current bf and i share some mutal friends and one of them happened to be one of my closest friends from high school. all throughout hs, they "kicked it," slept together, etc, etc. but he was always her side piece. for 2 years, she cheated on her bf with him. so, i went away to college, came back and we all started hangning out again. then things began to sour between me and my female friend, but me and our guy friend remained cool, and even began getting closer. one day, he told me that he saw me as more then a friend and had developed feelings for me once we started spending more time together. by this time, my relationship with our female friend was pretty much out the window (even tho we had been friends for years, she had constantly abused our friendship, and had not only done some f'd up stuff to me, but to my family too, and thats where i draw the line!)
  
  Once he told me how he felt, I confesed that I felt the same, but never allowed myself to act on it because of the history that he had with our friend. we thought about it long and hard, and talked to a few people about what we should do, and if we would be wrong for deciding to be together. no one seemed to have a problem with it. we planned to tell our friend, together, about us. by the time we decided to tell her, our friendship was over. i felt bad for telling her, but those who are to close to us said that we don't have any reason to feel bad because he was never anything to her other then a side dish and that u can't help how you feel about someone.
  
  to this day, I'm not sure if she knows or not, but we both live in the same city and still communicate with some of our same friends, so i'm sure she does. she's even seen us out together, but she didn't speak. i'm not sure if this would fall under the umbrella of this post, but idk. what do u think?
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  philly gurl made in 88

  9 months ago

  I BELIVE ALL DUDES THAT UR FRIEND LIKED B4, HAD A REALTIONSHIP WITH OR EVEN IF THE DUDE LIKE UR FRIEND IS OFF LIMITS... ITS JUST A TOUCHY SUBJECT... WOMEN ARE TERRORTORIAL. I KNOW I AM VERY SO IF I LIKED A BOY B4 OR IF WE WENT TOGETHER NONE OF MY FRIENDS BETTER NOT EVEN LOOK AT HIM AND I WOULD NEVER LOOK AT THE OTHER IF I WAS ON A DIFFRENT SIDE OF THE PICTURE. ONCE IT WAS THIS GUY THAT LIKED MY TWIN SISTER BUT I WAS IN LOVE WITH HIM. MY SISTER DIDNT LIKE HIM THOUGH AND I WAS MADLY IN LOVE WITH THIS DUDE. BUT FOR THE SIMPLE FACT THAT HE LIKED HER AND THEY COULD HAVE POSSIBLY HAD SOMETHING GOING ON I NEVER SAID NOTHIN.. I WAS SUFFERING CAUSE HE WOULD COME AROUND AND WE WERE FRIENDS BUT I LIKED HIM. I TOLD MY SISTER LATER BUT I KNOW I COULD NEVER BE WITH HIM. I STILL GOT A LITTLE CRUSH ON HIM TO THIS DAY. BUT SOME THINGS ARE NEVE MENT TO BE.
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  just_passin_by

  9 months ago

  Secret sex is the best sex indeed! But...never with the man of somebody I consider my friend. That's off limits. Even if I had a slight crush on him or whatever. The minute he becomes involved with my friend is the moment the crush will be over ABRUPTLY.
  But I do have a crush on this dude that has a girl. And I have to admit that I don't know if I'll be strong enough to resist temptation if he makes a pass at me. I don't know his girl, so....
  I know I sound like a hypocrite, but dude's got me crushing over his ass for 3 yrs now.
  
  I did almost sleep with a friend of mine, but I couldn't do it, because he had a girl. And eventhough I didn't really know her, I just couldn't bring myself to do it. We were kissing and things really started getting hot and heavy, but I just had to walk away from it. The kissing and everything felt good, but I didn't want to feel the guilt the next time I saw him with his girl.
  And besides, I know how shitty I felt when it was done to me. A girl I used to call my friend slept with my then boyfriend. And it felt awful. I can't imagine putting someone I love through that.
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  Friends?

  9 months ago

  If the other person is your friend (true friend) you would never even go there. But let say it happens, then I would tell my friend becuase that's my friend and he can be replaced. if she doesn't understand then you revealed her true colors.
  
  But check this, what to do when. . . one of my best friends baby daddy tried to holla at me (basically take me hom eafter the club). Not only di dhe know who I wsa (his baby mama's bestfriend), but also I was fucking with his connect (this he knew as well). He approached me in the club and I handled it, lettinghim know drunk or not, never in his life approach me like that. First, his baby mama is my BF (damn near blood), and the love of my life at the time was his connect.
  
  However, afterwards, I didn't want to tell my best friend that I had to check her baby daddy in the club. First reason, it would have only hurt her because I already knew she would still be with the nigga after I told her. Second, I had no intention of ever being with him, so what was the need to tell her. Situation handle right?
  
  However I consulted with my other best friend (we all are best friends) and she us down and we all talked about. She wanted to know why I didn't tell her, I gave her the reasons and then told her I didn't want her to worry. I didn't want her to think that he wanted me even though he did, I just didn't want the tension between us cause he was a dick.
  
  6 years later we are still best friends (all together 10 years strong). And yeah her and him are still together as well. Has his opinion of me changed, probably not and if given the opportunity he would jump at it. But he has never and I mean never approached me like that again. It was akward at first but I guess we all put it behind us.
  
  Long story medium, she is my best friend and my loyalty is to her, so question for you all, should I have immediately told her, even if I knew she would be with him? Was I to make her more insecure or keep it to myself?
  
  Anyway, when you are friends regardless of anything (attraction, affection, whatever) some lines you just don't cross. We ask permission. Not really permission but acceptance, for instance if a guy I like now use to date my friend, we talk about it. How did she feel about him and then we make a decision. More than likely we all have moved on. So just ask first, then afterwards you won't feel bad and you would have made the right choice.
  
  Our happiness is most important. I'm loyal to my friends is all I can say.
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  Starr

  9 months ago

  Loyalty to your REAL friends. I agree. REAL friends don't do things like sleep with each other's swag behind backs. If there is any interest of some sort, REAL friends do ask just out of consideration for the other person's feelings. But just to up and be like 'oh yeah I'm gon' hit that one!" I know of plenty of ASSOCIATES who would jump at the chance because to them, ain't nothing to do it but to do it. But in the end, what will they have accomplished? A hit on some other chicks meat? Bragging rights? What's the real purpose? In situations like that, don't even worry about revenge. I like to think, "Hi my name is Karma. Yes I'm that b*tch" Oh cause you WILL get yours!
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