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Re: Dear Xilla… “Help Me My Man Can’t Stay Hard”

mealfits — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 16:17:33 -0000

To be honest he is probably masturbating to much and in the wrong way. Its called TMS (traumatic masturbation syndrome). what happens is that a man can masturbate a million times a day, but he has to use his hand grip. Some men instead do it layin on their stomach or something. Well what happens is that that puts bad pressure on his penis which cannot be replicated in a vagina. He needs to refrain from sex and masturbation for 7-10 days. then do it correctly for 5 days. U will see a difference.

Re: Dear Xilla… “Help Me My Man Can’t Stay Hard”

ShesTheGoodOne — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 17:57:51 -0000

try cock rings?

Re: Dear Xilla… “Help Me My Man Can’t Stay Hard”

BlameITonDaGoose — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 05:06:04 -0000

There is a good chance that his porn habbit may play a part in him not stayin hard. I am a 27 year old male who started watching a lot of porn at a young age(14) up until last year...Masterbating too much while watching porn over the years caused me to either, not get hard when it was time for me and my girl to get busy or going limp shortly after gettin into sex. Suggest that maybe its time for him to lay off the porn and if he can't he may need professional help. tell him to go cold turkey on porn and masterbation for a week then holla at him

Re: Dear Xilla… “Help Me My Man Can’t Stay Hard”

bogart4017 — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 16:07:37 -0000

Tell him to lay off the porn for a month or two and then check him out.

Re: Dear Xilla… “Help Me My Man Can’t Stay Hard”

J_Squared — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 16:03:18 -0000

It may not be his porn habit.

It could be a compatability issue. I'm referring to the phermones between the two, could be causing him to go limp.

I had a similar situation with one particular female. No matter how hard I/she tried, I could not stay up for her. Every other female I was good to go.I did some research and just attributed the problem to the whole phermone thing.

Re: Dear Xilla… “Help Me My Man Can’t Stay Hard”

TheDuchess — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 15:35:36 -0000

His porn habit IS the problem! My ex used to like that with me when he had a habit.. Your dude needs to get help for his problem first and then he will be good to go..

Re: Dear Xilla… “Help Me My Man Can’t Stay Hard”

Fancee — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 02:47:17 -0000

You never really connected when you saw him in the 1st place that was your mind over imagination. It would have been a complete connection instead of fractionally. Thats why its better to wait on God to bring you somebody. He know what you have needs for. Stop trying to fix your ownself up. Pray Girlfriend.
God can send him somebody who don't need but six pumps. Wait..AND PRAY

Re: Dear Xilla… “Help Me My Man Can’t Stay Hard”

looking — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 20:42:46 -0000

He should try extra sensitive ones, trojans have one that comes in purple package that is bigger than the one that comes in the grey package. So if its because of the condom thing that may help out.

Re: Dear Xilla… “Help Me My Man Can’t Stay Hard”

BeautyMarkThis — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 18:15:57 -0000

He could try changing the condom type that he is using, well if you are using one(I hope). Or you may need to boot him....he could be one of those dudes who rarely use condoms and because he doesn't.. he can not perform well with one on..I'm just saying......

Of course there can be many other factors BUT these 2 stick out me.