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Haniplease — Fri, 28 Nov 2008 22:54:52 -0000

hi5 stephy! i mean fa real! i live on the wesside of chicago and you just preached the hood gospel! kudos!

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Haniplease — Fri, 28 Nov 2008 22:51:56 -0000

so you're proud of the fact that you gotta stand-in babydaddy while ur sperm donor's locked away? is it a good thing that the man you should be co-raising your daughter with is scared of you? i'm not trying to play u out. i'm just saying........

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Haniplease — Fri, 28 Nov 2008 22:43:29 -0000

AMEN! so i just blogged about this... peep the tomfuckery i just went thru! ARG!

on one recent RARE occassion this male. we'll call him Blucralpha stepped to me. He had it goin on,intelligent, great dresser,taller than me, kinda chubby, great job in an office building near mines, nice car, went to church sorta often and loved him some Hani. he couldn't make me cum by fucking, but his head was something like oscarworthy dramatic and he spoke the entire time. HEY THERE NOW! tell her how good it is...meeemories...ANYwho. our freakometers were eerily in tune! in the bathroom at the taste with the frozen chocolate bananas? ok i have on a sundress and thigh-highs. its NOTHING! i'll have Rob buzz you up for the apetizer....moving along, Blucralpha and I dated for a hot minute. Never did I know of the tomfuggery that would beseech my sweet soul...BLAM! his babymama leaps out the Pjs like a rat round ol' jewtown.Did Blublu reallyhave a 10month old son by a hoodrat that decided to stalk me? nah. this will all go away after i finish this bottle of Soracco[fellas cop that wine] so I meet the trollop on the wesside, on my turf in case i gotta phone the goons to get her right. [Don't get it twisted, i've been known to beat the breaks off hoes while donning brooks brothers and prada. ASK about the kid....side bar ,the CPD should utilize babymama's supersleuthin skills and find Alexi's ass cuz blublu's trollp shole NUFF found me! i STAY lowkey wtfugg? AAAANYwho] after speaking with her and being urged to just stay away from her babydaddy, I was left dumbfounded and completely confused. I cried for days. Not because I thought Blucralpha was my futurebabydaddy, but more for the sorry state we're in as young blacks trying to love/date. How did he find her block to hump her? Judging by her appearance she definitely was a potential slamonella or hiv carrier, so why would he go raw?he went in it for some quick easy lowkey no work booty and is now saddled down with a40-life sentence. [when u have a kid ur attached to that person for ur entire life span. i figure u live to about 80 so u and the trollop gone have ta at least be social for 40 or so years past the humpin pt] Have we lost out minds?!!? ARG!?! needless to say, I never spoke to him again and to this day he shoots me the side eye or tries to randomly call. I love me so damn much I'm not interested in any explanation. thas why i'm unhappily single i guess. i don't do conflict well at all. i'm evil and cut people off quicka thanna skrippa lose clothes... i hope you went to blogxilla's site. he has some REALLY dope posts on there. REALLY! everything i'm reading is making me rethink my whole situation...mmhmm! sho nuff!

i, and many like melooking for what u mentioned above but he is settling for whoever sparkles the most or is easy. i know 3 brothas right now, probably paying for everything their chick wants only to not get a thank u/be fighting tonite. all this because she's light/gotta phatass. mmm? yes! my guy told me "my girl nuttier thant sherise[this crazy chick from hf] but i mean i like when niggas look at me like i gotta bad one. its not that u like ain worf dating,u ain ugly and u cool as hell, but a nigga see you and think that's somebody's mama material, and u prolly gotta man.i wanted to snap my phone in half but i totally got what he was sayin. it was real. i have a huge heart and am more maternal and love to look out for those i love, so that makes me undatable to black men in chicago? wowzers! it irks me to my core how men have soooo many options and i'm stuck internet dating and or dealing with somebody's husband. i'm worth more than that. and have more respect for somebody else's union than that. i mean a brotha can have the white freak,the asian assistant to do the work, the indian to run the money, the latina for hot sex,all while bn married to a sista. FUCK THAT!

anywho my adventure with Blucalpha the babydaddy broke my heart. not because i loved him but because i felt so damn powerless. i've even been trapped by a guy in the[the damn STEELerho wasn't even working with a sphaghettithumb. at 320lbs i shouldn't need my contract readers on to see it] and i will openly admit i headed str8 to the chop shot to handle my bi. bc failed me....i REFUSE to have a baby by someone i don't care for! and i would have been set for life! mmmm these haffas and trollops out here popping babies out like the rats they are and struggling and fuckin for free. i don't understand it. i'm gonna keep my tight p-u nice and spawn free. even if i do have a baby i'm getting a c-sections and tummytuck cuz my goodies need to stay right! yaDIIIIIIG!? its time for this bs to END! NOW! i ain' playin! i swear i'm not! while these losers are humping the bowl movements l mean baby mamas[i got confused] they are passing up winners like myself! WEAR A DAMN CONDOM or pull out! seriously!

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me — Tue, 23 Sep 2008 21:14:25 -0000

Only woman i feel do that are woman who have low self esteem and they can not find that good DICK or they were trying to trapp you and nowwww they hate you because it did not work. But I am a BM and that is why they say wait until you get married to have children because naturally whoever you have a chikld with you feel connected to even in sex with out a baby you leave a part of yourself with tjat person but alot of times you can shake that off because you dont have a constant reminder that you have giving yourself to someone for theest of your life

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Im Grown — Tue, 23 Sep 2008 15:13:23 -0000

First off how old are you and your B.M? my opinion is that women only sleep with men more than once because they have some feelings deep inside for him, however, she is craz because you sound lik a guy that is first off young and inmature. Any real man does not put their hands on a woman. you should have enough respect for her as your sons mother not to hit on her. and further more how triphalin are you to say that the only reason you still sleep with her is because you don't want to be taken to court for child support. if you do what you need to do for your kid she should not take it to that level. Young man I dont know how old you are but you need to grow up!, because, i would hate to have your son date any young lady out here if he is anything like you. you ought to be ashamed of yourself and if i was your childs mother. I would have someone knock your dick in the dirt hust for putting this on here.

what you need to do is grow up and try to be a role model for your son! cause you think you doing somthing by as you call it " beatin dat Azz up" Well let me put you up on somthing cuzzo,! it's another man out here that will respect her and treat her like the lady she is and take care of your son and beat it up like you could only imagine...lol and you would not have a chance in he!! believe that...!!!!

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StraightShitNoChaser — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 22:24:24 -0000

This has go to be the most ignorant thing I have ever read. I realize that you were joking about the Ike Turner reference, but it's not funny at all to make light of hitting a woman like Ike Turner. It didn't sound like a joke either but whatever. There is too much violence suffered by black women at the hands of black men right now for that kind of "humor." You sound ghetto and ignorant as hell. Your son doesn't even idolize you. He idolizes John Cena??? That's not something to be proud of. You wrote a poorly written piece with all of your business out there, yet still you come off insulting to the women who responded. I wouldn't be so full of myself if I were you.

And this is coming from someone who is not a baby mama. I pray that you get some common sense and a sense of respect. I hope you get some training and I hope that you show yourself to be a better man than your post conveys.

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Carmen Sandiego — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 19:19:17 -0000

Dido

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Kimber — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 18:30:26 -0000

First, I love your site it's way better than most so keep that shit up!! Second., I too have ill feelings toward my baby daddy and his ass wish he could still have access to this pussy. I let that hate shit go a while ago because that just gave him more power than he even deserved. Our daughter is 16 and that's how long it's been since he hit dat, but to hear him tell it he still has action.

Depending on the lengh of the relationship, history will often times make that accomadation possible for replay sex especially if it was good. In my case this dude did me toooooooooooooooo durty to eva neva give his bitch ass some cooch. I dont care how good it was and it was one of the best but the person attached to the dick wasnt worth it.

The ego in general belonging to either parent at times can be so out of touch with reality that the priority (the kid) is just used as a tool of attack for the other parent when you dont play by the other's rules. That's why I'm glad i stuck to my guns, fuck it i'm still gonna be a bitch right? Only I'll be that bitch you REALLY wanna fuck and cant. I like that much better:)

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HappyToBeNappy — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 17:14:26 -0000

just noticed this wasn't written by Xilla. . .my bad P. Lee, my comment should be addressed to you

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HappyToBeNappy — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 17:10:48 -0000

Sorry Xilla, I got no answers for you. I stopped letting my Baby Daddy beat it up the day I kicked his good for nothing ass out of my house. I like to more forward, not backwards!!! Even though the D was good, (which is the only reason I stayed as long as I did), it wasn't good enough to make me deal with him any longer. When I'm done, I'm done!!!!

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MsRae @twitter — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 16:58:33 -0000

I think that shit is so untrue. I feel that happen only in some cases. i will give you an example my son is about to turn 6 next months. I and his father was on and off 7 years before I had him. Two months ago we had sex with was the biggest mistake I could of make. It was so trebbile and I see why I don't fuck with him any more. I think people who do that all the time really want that person and just don;t know how to say it and use the other excuse you used in the story. Ladies leave them alone you did it for a reason before.

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Shannon — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 16:33:18 -0000

The truth of the matter of all this baby momma drama, is HOPE, hope will drive a woman crazy everytime! I hope he gets his shit together, i hope he sees that i am the best woman for him and no one will ever love him like i do, I hope hes sees that i have had, and am taking care of his child(ern) and i hope that will make him realize that he really does love me, I hope that i give him the booty one more time and that it will be so good that he will get lost in this place between lust and love that he cant tell the difference. He dont love that new bitch he messing with....does he, i hope not! I hope that if i take him to court it will bring to such a low point in his life that he will realize just how much he needs us(me)! I hope that when he told me he loved me those times when we were having sex he really meant it, I hope that if i keep myself available he'll be able to reach for me when hes ready, I hope he will grow up and be a father to his child and a husband, hell a least a boyfriend to the woman who has always been there for him when he was low. I hope i dont have to spend the rest of my life alone, I hope my new boyfriend( that i dont really love by the way, and am only with because the love of my life the father of my child wont have me, and am just using to make my baby daddy jealous) is not touching my daughter or son( down low niggas are still out there sistas!), alot of women cant help it, we are emotional creatures and we were created that way, I believe this is one of the reasons why we end up, with un wed mothers and fathers and why they so often end up back in are bed rooms, sex is a way to escape, what better way to lie, to yourself, the one you love,and the one that is not sure, or just doesn't love you!

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Ess — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 16:28:01 -0000

I seriously tried to read this blog.. but after this..

Let’s start off from the top that I have a B.M. now me and her haven’t had sex in a number of years. But we haven’t been together as a couple for longer then that. Up until I meet my last girl we still kicked it from time to time, even though the b*tch hated my guts

I dont have much to say..

Interesting topic though.

This is why I just stay my childless ass in the corner.. and chill..

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ANuJS — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 14:16:06 -0000

LMAO. I'm not mad!

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ANuJS — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 14:06:35 -0000

Xilla from my own experiences, I think that child support is WORSE to a man who actually wants to do right by his child(ren). I knew a married man who paid child support for kids from a prev. marriage and she played GAMES. constantly hauling him in asking for an increase and taking taxes, etc. Me on the other hand look at my BD who continues to do time away at "school" (earning a PH.D...his masters wasnt good enough SMH). When he's out he just won't work-no recourse. In 16 years, we've been to court 3 times and it net me about 3 mos. of support at $100 ea. In the meantime he is living high on the hog ilegally while I struggle to do for our son. Child support makes it HARD on legit, honest men....it's just the truth. @ Cheddar, I taught in Cleveland for 3 years. If you only knew the amt. of ain't good for shit women (cracked out, out all nite, letting MEN abuse their babies) who got their kids taken away and didn't pay child support or even care that their child was alive...you'd cry. That's keepin it real. Times have changed. BTW I won't even start on the # of kids that were being sexually abused by their "step-daddies" and their mom knew all along....

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V.I. — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 13:55:51 -0000

Girl until the good lord blesses me with the man I am suppose to spend my life with, I am married and in a very exclusive relationship my Jamal (my bullet has a first name...its J-A-M-A-L. LOL

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ANuJS — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 13:50:17 -0000

LMAO @ u and ur bullet. No STD's or babies...right? :)

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V.I. — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 13:28:47 -0000

Steph I agree with your approach. Women just let these men do whatever the hell he wants to them and loose focus on what is most important. I have a friend that has 3 kids for a man that she actually stole from a girlfriend of hers. He had about 3 kids at this time and she went on and married him. I guess she thought since she had the ring and the last name he would do right by her. Now they are divorced and she has three kids. He pays her nothing and he doesn't even spend time with his kids and he lives like 10 minutes from her apartment. She calls me all the time stressed out and cussing because he isn't doing right by the kids. He was that way from before but she just felt but she didnt want to see that.

I WILL CONTINUE TO SAY THIS...I KNOW THE DICK CAN BE THE SHIT SOMETIMES BUT DO NOT DISREPECT URSELF FOR A NO GOOD NIGGA. I MIGHT NEED TO GET INTO THE TOY SELLING BUSINESS CAUSE YOU CAN NEVER GO WRONG WITH A FAST ASS BULLET. ESPECIALLY THE TWO HEADED ONES.

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kingsmomma — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 12:48:50 -0000

I think it is quite foolish for people in the predictament to continue to procreate, however, I do understand why they would get back together. From a female perspective (i am in no way saying this is my situation so please no name calling, this is just a theory)
I think women are just hurt and they say hate where they mean love. For whatever reason, they are estranged from their "boyfriend" bd and they really don't want to be so they take the occasional dalliances as a something more than what they actually are: Bootycalls.
I don't condone downing the mother or father in the presence of the children or arguing in front of the child.
and let's face it as Biggie said Some say the X make the sex spectacular (although i think B.I.G meant ectasy, I always took it to mean the EX) You have been with this person for a while, they know you, you know them. the sex just works.

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kingsmomma — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 12:41:02 -0000

I don't know why she used quotes but I used quotes when speaking to my son's father b/c I am the only providing for "our" son so as much as I know he is his son, I am the only parent. Can't speak for kesha but i know that is why i haved used the quotes in the past

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ANuJS — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 12:27:38 -0000

Exactly. I know a lot of women that not only keep messing with a BD but continue to birth his children. A lot of women feel sorry for these men and will stay out of child support. To me thats f'ed up. How can you care more about him not feeling the pinch of child support than you do with your child going without. I can't get with this. What really trips me out is the woman that will watch a man dog both his child's mother and that child, then they have a baby with them and think they'll do you and yours right. Out of all this nonsense, I think that most women's self esteem is in the gutter and they accept so much less then they deserve. It's a man out there that can love you right in a drama free way....if not be single and peaceful. Concentrate on raising your child b/c most times all this drama leaves them feeling worthless too. Bad enuf that their daddy don't care, but now their momma to wrapped up to care.

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ANuJS — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 12:19:46 -0000

I had my 1st child at the ripe old age of 16. I was an honor student and on the high track to "being something"-this didn't change. I messed up and got caught up in a light skinned green eyed n**** who wasn't shit, his daddy wasn't shit, his mommy wasn't shit, etc and treated me like shit. He thought that he could plug any hole that he ran across and still come plug mine. NO SIR! I cut his ass off... before I even had the baby. I deserved more than that b.s. I was in. After the baby (BTW I gave birth on Thurs. another chick gave birth that Sunday) I went to child support and played no games. Since then he has like 6 kids (lost count) and he only takes care of the ones whose mommas he can blast thru. However, he has NEVER taken care of my son (in the 16yrs. he has paid about $300) and I have never laid back down with him. I love me too much and I love my son too much to honor a n**** who can't EVEN call on b-days let alone pay child support. That's the key love urself and that baby enuf to keep out that mess. I don't believe in moving backwards. Fucking with a dude that fucked me over would most DEF be a move in the wrong direction. I don't care how good the dick was....I'd buy a bullet.

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kyas_mami — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 12:10:53 -0000

The hell if I kno!
I havnt f*cked wit my daughters sperm donor since I was 3 mos prego...and I never looked back
I never understood this logic... SMH

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CathrynMarie — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 11:30:09 -0000

why do u have quotes around "our" when speaking of your daughter? do you doubt your daughter is his or do you simply not know how to use quotes?

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CathrynMarie — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 11:26:39 -0000

Ya may be thinking too much into it, too be honest. First off, that whole BM & BD term is PLAYED! My sons Father has never called me anything but his sons Mother - never his BM! We haven't had sex since we broke up in 2001. When I say you're reading more into it, think back to your exes - how many of them have you carried on with sexually after breaking up? What makes that situation any different than sex with your "BM"? Chances are, if the BM & BD didnt have a kid, they would probably still be getting down after they broke up - its called the sex with my ex is good. Or just possibly being comfortable with that certain person and not wanting to strap up or start over and find new booty.