DISQUS

Ness · 1 month ago

I don't think it's right that women get the short end of the stick when it comes to them being sexually free.

I like to think of myself as being sexually free. I have had my fair share of partners and I may shave one or two men that I have been with of the final list but at the end of the day, I know I'm true to my sexuality.

I agree, that men and women can be whores and I don't feel like any of the celeb women u listed are whores ;) There are both male and female whores out there.

The male whores are the ones who sleep with one woman then try to sleep with her friend, and another friend and another friend and maybe even a cousin our auntie lol.
There are men out there the f*ck for money, sneakers, nice clothes or gas money and a free meal so don't get it twisted Xilla lol.

Royal · 1 month ago

"There are men out there the f*ck for money, sneakers, nice clothes or gas money and a free meal so don't get it twisted Xilla lol".


yes and will do other men in exchange for these things in addition to women..SMH

Ness · 1 month ago

Oh u took it there huh! Lol.

Its very sad but its very true b/c I'm sure tht some guys will be a whore w/other men just so they could be fly or well off.

But wht wud the be without the slores both men and women lol. They make the good ppl a.k.a the freaks look like saints ;)
Its all a balance ;)

nynikki · 1 month ago

I disagree with your theory that a man cannot be a whore because women and society give him a pass. There are plenty of men who fall victim to their whoring ways. Most don't realize the damage they've done to their reputation because they can't see past all the random ass they're plowing through.

Some guys get a glimpse, i.e., the men falsely accused of rape after engaging in a train at Hofstra. After the news broke all I could think was, "Hopefully they've learned it's OK to say 'no thanks' to the easy lay".

true2me · 2 months ago

People who label and judge need to validate themselves. Using how much sex you do or dont have compared to others to gain more self respect and self esteem is silly and childish. What else you got going on in your life besides how many partners you did or didn't have. WHO CARES. I'm so over that nonsense.

true2me · 2 months ago

F*CK THE DOUBLE STANDARD. WE CAN ALL BE WHORES!!! Im going to take any and every lover I DAMN WELL PLEASE. PERIOD. I dont give two shyts how many lovers you had or didn't have long as you loving me right when you are with me. Does that mean I open my legs to anyone who wants it, NO. It means I CHOOSE who I sleep with based on my own qualifications and I dont give a crap what yall say about it. Eff your labels, eff your standards. Cuz I know I can walk out that door and still get someone to "wife" me. HA!..BOOM. lol

Nah serious tho..I dont give a shyt about who is a whore and who isn't. WHO THE HELL CARES. yall focus too much on what someone else does w their cooch/peen.

TheDuchess · 2 months ago

Women & Men are whores! Women just need to learn to respect themselves when it comes to having sex and at the same time demand that the men they sleep with respect them as well! I don't believe a woman who has had numerous sex partners is a whore per se, it is just how she has gone about sleeping with the numerous men that gives her the label.

Khadijah · 2 months ago

Hell yeah, a man can be a whore and it is not a option as far as I'm concerned. I agree with you that "players" tend to attract more women, but I'm not one of them.

Question BLOGXILLA?

If you define a "whore" as someone who accepts gifts or money then are all women are whores!? If a man takes a woman out and buys her flowers, he is spending Money. If she decides to sleep with him after a few dates, Is she a whore?

BlogXilla · 2 months ago

No not at all, I don't believe in the whole idea of whores or not, but in the world we live in it's women who place the stigma of whore on other women. and at the same time it's women who reward the male whore or player w/ more pussy.

TheDuchess · 2 months ago

Oh and I prefer a man that is the underdog.. I don't want the man that is pulling all the chicks and getting ran through..

BlogXilla · 2 months ago

Most women want a man who has ran through the whole hood though. It's just the nature of the beast we call society.

TheDuchess · 2 months ago

Word? I haven't EVER liked a dude that I knew dated someone I knew or knew of..

onebaddboo · 2 months ago

I don't agree... Never wanted to date someone if I knew someone they used to sleep with/ wifed up, etc...

Life is too short and the world is too big to be sleeping with the same people!!!

Miss Jia · 2 months ago

Hmm...I don't see the explanation of where women are whores. I see the initial double standard but there was no real breakdown on WHY women are whores and men never could be.

Like true2me stated, I'm gonna do what (or who) I want to do and don't care what society labels me as. I feel that if men are allowed to have a good time and do whatever, women should be allowed that same freedom and not be called names for it. If someone has a problem with that, it's just that...their problem. It's not my responsibility nor is it my business to fix other people's issues. People who find fault in how someone lives their life when it doesn't effect anyone else's truly need to get it together and find another hobby that goes beyond judging someone else for what they do.

I think the world would be a much happier place...maybe.

BlogXilla · 2 months ago

That part is on page two!

ADASIA MOORE · 2 months ago

wateva , if a man don't want to do it he won't same as a women if we don't we won't either .. some people just like having alot of reckless fun and thats for them, its just emphasized more on women because ever since the beginning we portrayed to be lady like and the weaker sex and the home body who could never do wrong ... men and women are just alike the only difference is our sex ...

Lady D · 2 months ago

1. Both men and women can be whores 2. I disagree with the notion that if I want a man other women want, then I want him to be a whore. I want other women to want him but I want him to value sex and have the self-control to not be a slut. 3. I agree that women allow men to be whores because there will always be a women willing to use sex to gain something for themselves.

babydoll · 2 months ago

This is such a myth. WHORES like other WHORES. So a woman that happens to be a whore love a man that is a whore too, that is who she is going to be attracted to.

Me on the other hand, prefer men that are NOT players, that are not cutting through women like hot knife on butter (eh). Because his risky behavior could effect me, STD's, AIDS, unwanted pregnancy. So this is biggest piece of bullshit i have read in a very very very long time.....

assofjane · 2 months ago

It's all symantics. Men are the biggest whores on the planet. You say "playa", I say (in my Norbit voice) "WHORE"!!

Keli · 2 months ago

I disagree...

"Whore" is an equal opportunity label!

I know a man whore or two or three!

I have watched men use women to get gifts, money, or what have ya...yep, whore knows no gender.

MsStylistik · 2 months ago

I agree with True2me.....FUGGK THE DOUBLE STANDARD because we're not living in "Color Purple" times anymore. The roles are reversed more now then EVER.....Men have become extremely bitchass and have embodied the mentality of what you men in denial call a "Gold diggin whore". The actions of men have become extremely selfish and self-centered beyond control because they "feel" women are out here getting over on way too many men & they want they same security & benefits they "see" women getting....hence the "DL Gay Man" or the most common male whore the "user-ass-no job havin-playstation playin all day-weed smokin Ni**a!!

Everything that you posted a "female whore" WAS......a "man whore" IS and will always BE!!! Too often the loneliest of men try to justify their trifling actions by blaming females for being less than a woman but 9 times of 10 those men pointing the finger are figments of their own reality and can't handle a woman as an opponent at the "man game"....WHORING!!!....so if we're going to talk double standard.... let's stick to the double standards script.

A man who uses women for money and gifts for sex is NOT a baller......he's a broke ass dude who's trying to find a woman to take care of him like his momma did or DIDN'T. A baller has his OWN and doesn't complain about spending money on ANYBODY....so you just insulted a lot of guys manhood. A man who sleeps with a lot of women is a NOT a player or a ladies man, he's just a WHORE plain and simple there's NO if's ands, or more blogs about it NOT being true, and that's the same equation for a woman doing the same thing. The truth of the matter is as much as you guys say you hate whores and find ways to degrade them publicly, MEN are capitalizing as well....Kanye has been blogged about more times than EVER because of his new accessory...and I'm not talkin about his handbags, no one knew who Reggie Bush was or cared about Ray J's ass until they decided to capitalize off Kim K, and NO ONE ever thought the "ugly kardashian" was FINE until Lamar Odom decided to marry her...athletes and music artists LEAD the whore wars and they are some of the BIGGEST GROUPIES because they only desire who the "basic man" wishes for but cant have...so their whore ass flaunts their fame and fortune around another whore and BAM...2 whores flockin together getting along better than ever.

What you MEN fail to realize is::::men & women are 1 in the same and you weak minded men let the rules of society dictate the roles instead of understanding we share the same WHORE-NA. The faster we all learn to understand and accept each other, the faster everyone can stop with their unruly ailments pertaining to the opposite sex....WE ARE ALL WHORES!!... So NOW YOU DEAL WITH IT.....or Be GAY! ;-y .....or be LONELY because this shyt is never going to change! This is my 3rd time saying this..this week...2 whores don't make a right so you losers might as well give up the fight! *drops mic*

true2me · 2 months ago

This reminds me of that TOOL ACADEMY SHOW. He had a nerve to say that his girl didn't deserve him..WTF..DUDE. YOU CHEAT ON HER, DONT SPEND TIME W HER, LIE TO HER ...but she dont deserve YOU. This is the mentality we have allowed men to have. He sincerely thought that she should be grateful when he was a peice of shyt..I HATE EVERYTHING. LIke I said..NO MAN WILL DICTATE MY WORTH (Nor hating ass woman)

ChellBellz AKA Mimz · 2 months ago

Thats what i'm talking about ma, men will do as much as a woman will put up with. I like tool acad only because women need to see this, and get a clue sometimes.

ChellBellz AKA Mimz · 2 months ago

Nice...nice choice of words. This whore shit is stupid, we are living in a day and age, where causal sex is what people do. Men do it to get experience, and woman participate because they think its the way to keep a man, then she ends up getting dumped only to do it all over again. Then you have some women who just aren't shy anymore, they are sexually liberated and love sex just as much as men, and that whole stereotype of men thinking about sex all the time is out the door.

Mistareal · 1 month ago

not so fast there missy.... Everyone know who Reggie Bush was and Ray J before the wack ass Kardashian chick.. If anything she benefited from them... however I do agree that there are both male and female whores... The thing is this... WOMEN ARE LABELED AS WHORES DUE TO THE DOUBLE STANDARD THAT THERE NANI IS SUPPOSED TO BE SACRED AND CHERISHED! MENS PEEN IS SUPPOSED BE SACRED AND NOT SHARE EITHER UNTIL MARRIAGE BY THE GOOD BOOK.. BUT THATS BEEN OUT OF THE WINDOW A LONG TIME AGO. I personally wouldnt wife a chick who's been through the whole hood... women are more proned to settle down with a man who's been promiscuous though because its an accetpted part of society that men sleep around. News flash! The Nani is no longer sacred... chicks are open like 7/11 now adays! and men are taking advantage. Also lets get something else straight people.... women love sex just as much as men so don't get it twisted...the persona that women don't is false.. men realize it and have taken away the pussy power...now no one has any morals... we f**ck who we want when we want...LOL

ChellBellz AKA Mimz · 2 months ago

MEn will only be whores when we start putting them on blast, and stop settling for that shit. me personally I dont even bother to date, just because DC has to high of a AIds rate, and i dont feel like it anymore. DC is too small, everybody knows the same ppl, and every fucked the same ppl.

Point Blank Period, Xilla your right. Woman glorify a man who has been around. Me personally, if i know somebody who sexed somebody that im talking to. I'm no longer attracted to them. Thats just me.


That whole list applies to men also, but like you said a man will get props for it before a woman does. Thats the way that is it, until Woman stop taking the shit.

Blacksand · 2 months ago

Being that I am in the same vicinity, I hear you loud and clear Ms. Mimz. I also see your point regarding putting brothers on blast. As a matter of fact, I agree with everything you wrote.

It is not cool to share oneself with every woman you come in contact with. Discretion is the better part of valor. I prefer quality over quantity. Be easy...

ChellBellz AKA Mimz · 2 months ago

Thanks Blacksand! I swear nobody never knows who i'm dealing with. I never bring anyone home, or around my friends, and half the time they never make it past 2 weeks, once their open thier mouth and all they can talk about it sex, and can't hold a conversation about anything else. If i was looking for a "No Strings" they would know it.

If you want to keep your business on the low, then be good at it. No need to tell everybody who you been with, or gossip to your friends about it. I'm just a big fan of not putting my sex life business out there, or dealing with anybody who kisses and tells.
I'm no angel, but I wouldn't consider myself a whore. But i have had relationships, and it involved sex nobody is perfect.

Blacksand · 1 month ago

You are welcome. I apologize for the tardiness of my response. I believe in being very discrete myself. That way people are not in my business. And if the woman is not intelligent it is a wrap. If she can't stimulate my mind nothing is happening. There is nothing wrong with getting it in. I just don't want everyone to know which woman I am touching.

BlogXilla · 2 months ago

Thank you very much!!! That is exactly what I'm trying to say with this blog. A man can't truly be a whore because chicks dig the man whore. They will make a player their boo in a minute while a man will only give a whore hard divk and bubble gum.

ChellBellz AKA Mimz · 2 months ago

Yeah, its true, and some girls will take a player, the really naive ones, for what reason i have no clue. The throught that he probably ran through a rack of broads is not that appealing to me, then to think who the girls probably let him, and then who those guys hit.... Call me Paranoid, but i'm straight with staying healthy.

Which is why i will say again, I don't date. I don't feel like it anymore. Seems like its too risky with all these rates, and new dieseases coming out.

ChellBellz AKA Mimz · 1 month ago

More like a Wet ass and a Bus Pass.

Royal · 2 months ago

I'm a District of Columbia resident and native and I wholeheartedly agree with this entire post.....promiscuous men are NOT my cup of tea. Folk can be attracted to your partner and or you etc without getting any, and to me self discipline, self control along with mongamy is a huge turn on, esp once a mofo is grown. esp over 35.......you crazy as hell IMO phcuking around randomly in this area and must have a death wish!
Not to mention that DL behaviors, followed IV drug use s, are the leading causes for all this HIV in DC according to the CDC...ya'll can have that sh*t. I been chillin hard=abstaining for a long minute LOL will continue to do so until I meet something like THE ONE.


Not understanding how observing a promiscuous persons actions,behaviors, and patterns is suppose to validate the observer tho, ones self esteem is never based on the actions of others, its called SELF esteem which is about the actions, attitudes, beliefs treatment of and toward self. True valiation never comes from another human being but a much higher source.

ChellBellz AKA Mimz · 1 month ago

Yeah, I don't understand it either. I personally got tired hearing women say men aint shit, when they go and sice these dogs up. They give them attention, they chase the men, and if they men chase them they fall for it... me personally I can't understand why people in DC are thinking that oh well, he looks fine. I had to tell my cousin who is 16 about herself, messing with some boy and not using a condom. I damn near choked her ass out, while calling her stupid and lame....I was a bit angry, it actually worked.

But yes Royal, there is so much you have consider these days. Blacks are using crazy drugs, just like whites, crack, all that shit, and they are just as careless when they are under the influence. I don't know I guess people will never learn, but my rule is this, we have to get tested together, and pick up our results together. Even that isn't accurate if they went and did something the day before getting tested. But its a start.

rochelle · 2 months ago

Both Men and Women are whores.. Women are just put out to the public MORE as whores. A Whore to me is someone who sleeps around for money sex, to be famous,etc..BUT they glorify themselves as that and don't care who they hurt or manipulate(family & friends) or FUCK to get to where they are.

hissweetestdream · 2 months ago

I believe in whores....but when I think of a whore I think of a women who lets a man fuck her. Meaning she isn't getting near as much out of it as he is...except a sore coochie.
A man whore is a dude who uses his stroke game to get shit he NEEDS not WANTS but NEEDS. It's one think to lay it down and come out with some shoes or new hat. But it's another if he's swappin dick for minutes for his cell phone.

I feel ya on women giving men the option to be playa's. I see it all the time. My gurl's till this day still tell me I'm too pretty for my husband. But I'm a smart girl. I knew what I was doing. You can't make anything work with someone who gets coochie thrown his way every time he step out the house. And since won't no women just be kickin it with him like that..they'll never get the chance to see why I'm so crazy about him.

ChellBellz AKA Mimz · 2 months ago

"....but when I think of a whore I think of a women who lets a man fuck her. Meaning she isn't getting near as much out of it as he is...except a sore coochie."


AMEN!

Xan · 2 months ago

[enter the Voice of Reason...]

Technically speaking, a "whore" is synonymous to "prostitute", "harlot" etc...so if there's no exchange of payment in an envelope for services rendered in which a monetary amount was previously agreed upon (i.e. "$30 for a blow job") then all that other shit can just be classified as "dating" or "marriage" LOL!

Blacksand · 2 months ago

This is a good question. The oldest profession is one of equal opportunity. The term can be used to describe a male or a female. The proper definition reads as such:
1 : a woman who engages in sexual acts for money : prostitute; also : a promiscuous or immoral woman
2 : a male who engages in sexual acts for money
3 : a venal or unscrupulous person

There you have it ladies and gentlemen. The term is applicable to both sexes. May whoever reads this journey be a peaceful one.

ambernetasha · 2 months ago

welllllll done ladies!!!
the WOMEN have spoken.
i agree whole-heartedly agree with MsStylistik
::::let the church say AMEN::::

V_Delicious · 1 month ago

stuff like this make me glad I'm still a virgin at the age of 25......... definitely don't regret waiting this long!

TishaRene' · 1 month ago

This is an interesting point of view. I believe that there are women and men whores alike. One of the reasons that it is not acceptable for women is because we are supposed to be sacred. We are the mother's of the world and who wants to have a mother that is a whore? Not me! So if women would stay in her place instead of trying to compete with the men, this word could never be used to describe us. I choose to be a Queen, let a man be a man. If being nasty is the definition of a man, then You Go
Boy!!! LOL Good stuff Xilla

juliju2 · 1 month ago

I’m all kinds of late on this blog, and I don’t comment a lot, but here’s my 2 cents. A whore is a whore. Will there always be a double standard, yep. Can a man be a whore.. of course. What someone does with their body is their business, but personally I wouldn’t date a whore nor would I want to be known as one. I think you can be sexually liberated, and not have sex with an entire town, village, city… whatever. When I know or come to the conclusion a man has been with a slew of random women, I think of the probability of how many of those chicks had std’s or just nasty, why would I want to run up behind that? I wouldn’t want to hold someone’s past against them, because most of us have done something socially taboo I’m sure, but if they are an active whore, id have to pass. Sex is meant to be an enjoyable experience, but just be wise about it.

LOVELEESuccess · 1 month ago

I'm happy being who I am; & I don't care how society labels me. I'm happy just being me ; & if that means I've slept with people and received gifts ; well damn. So be it. I don't open my legs to any and everyone; but I do live in the moment and do what I feel like I want to do. p.s : I love your blogs.

Callmemissjoy · 1 week ago

assofjane & true2me... {sings in falsetto voice} Did you know that your my hero?!