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Re: 8 Reasons Never To Tell Your Boo You’ve Cheated

esskaye — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 15:56:15 -0000

I feel like my ex did cheat on me... but he won't admit it. I broke up with him... he was acting too weird.. he stopped being intimate with me telling me he was tired and other bs... being real distant... i feel like it happened more than once and he fell for this other woman.. so what i dont understandn is if he wanted to be with her why didnt he just end it and end the relationship. He had told me how he was in the past and when something wasnt working out when he no longer was interested he told the woman straight up.. i just dont understand why he couldnt do the same with me.

Re: 8 Reasons Never To Tell Your Boo You’ve Cheated

PI Guy — Sat, 14 Feb 2009 07:36:26 -0000

A very interesting article but if you are a woman reading this then maybe you should also read 'The Cheaters Guide to Valentine's day' http://www.allieddetectives...

Re: 8 Reasons Never To Tell Your Boo You’ve Cheated

Just A Thought — Fri, 13 Feb 2009 16:29:50 -0000

The only reason to go by this guide is if your significant other has NO evidence (hard or tangential) that you cheated. Case in point, I was in a relationship with a guy for nearly 2 yrs, and all the signs that he was cheating started to pop up. Since I didn't want to leave, I sat him down and had the "i know we've been having issues, but if you're going to stay, then we need to focus on just us and how we can make things better." Translation - leave them other chicks alone, cuz I know you're creepin and I'm halfway there to doing it myself. The relationship ended not too long after that, and he thinks to this day that I don't know who, when, and where. But two of his friends sold him out, and I had cell phone records, emails, the whole nine. As such, when I bounced, let's just say he had some personal property to replace.

Re: 8 Reasons Never To Tell Your Boo You’ve Cheated

rodeosbest — Fri, 13 Feb 2009 09:48:09 -0000

dont tell nothin.. its not even worth it and frankly.. there is not anything you can do to change the fact you was riding at another rodeo.. but always always always use protection! thats where people mess up.. aint noone worth getting the cooties over..LOL
my dud cheated on me and I found out.... that was 2 years ago... but where was I this year the night of his bday while he was with his boyz? I was "rollin in my 6 4" or he was rollin in me.. and I out did myself Iike it was my bday.. ha ha..
knew my man was going to drunk as heck cause his boyz were in town.. they drink too much.. so when he woke up I was all freakin perky like good morning happy bday and proceeded to get ready for the intimate lunch planned with his entire family.. see that little extra cirricular made the bday better for all involved! ;0)

Re: 8 Reasons Never To Tell Your Boo You’ve Cheated

ShUggaMomma23 — Fri, 13 Feb 2009 09:32:30 -0000

Dunno, I now question are we ( humans) designed for "Monogamy"!
Im startin to think ,Not!!

Re: 8 Reasons Never To Tell Your Boo You’ve Cheated

Natural wonder — Fri, 13 Feb 2009 02:20:30 -0000

Thanks for that 3rd pic.....I love chocolate brothers but that dude just stopped me dead in my damn tracks. I literally focused on every detail of that pic for a good 2 minutes, LMFAO! WHEW!!!! (long pause......breath)
I am happily married and agree with this post 100%. Although I have never cheated within my marriage I feel sometimes an isolated incedent should remain in the dark. In hopes of not only protecting feelings but also to keep some form of trust within the relationship. Now if you get to the point where you have to keep burying secrets then you need to spill the beans and run for the hills! Obviously you were not meant to be or are ready for a committed relationship.
**Please keep the pics coming**

Re: 8 Reasons Never To Tell Your Boo You’ve Cheated

Isis — Fri, 13 Feb 2009 01:12:44 -0000

It's not worth the head ache. . .I mean if you get drunk and accidentally sleep with a chick once I can deal with that. (it has to be all in that order. . .lol) but two, three times, dates and conversations, you have now entered another relationship you are confiding in her her opinion starts to matter now that hurts more then u fucking her, because then it goes deeper then sex.

Re: 8 Reasons Never To Tell Your Boo You’ve Cheated

HeadMistress — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 18:00:06 -0000

LOL!!!!! You are so right! (about the monkey bsnss)

Re: 8 Reasons Never To Tell Your Boo You’ve Cheated

HeadMistress — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 17:58:24 -0000

I'm on the fence about telling...I hate liars and cheaters and if he cheats, yes I deserve to know but what does honesty really accomplish other than a faster exit on my part?

"If you tell me, I will leave you" (in my best Field of Dreams whisper voice)

I'll know anyway, I pay very close attention to behavior and attitude, certain shyt you just can't hide...

Re: 8 Reasons Never To Tell Your Boo You’ve Cheated

Xilla — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 17:49:00 -0000

I think women in general are a tad bit insecure. Hell men are as well. We are all insecure. Who wants their boo taken from them by another person. Have you ever seen Animal Planet when the monkey's creep? Then the main monkey keeps his monkey bitch right next to him for the rest of the mating season! lol

Re: 8 Reasons Never To Tell Your Boo You’ve Cheated

islandvirgo — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 17:41:27 -0000

another reason for not cheating is that the girl or guy may become insecure, and always will question if the sex was better with the other person

Re: 8 Reasons Never To Tell Your Boo You’ve Cheated

Buzzy — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 16:05:22 -0000

No, but I lived their for a couple of years when I graduated from college, many years ago :) And yes I think the whole mixing of cultures is a beautiful thing.

Re: 8 Reasons Never To Tell Your Boo You’ve Cheated

KD — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 15:46:56 -0000

Xil, bruh your last reason is dead on it. That should be the number 1 reason for not telling/cheating. The relationship will never work after a couple months of her pondering about that shit, needless to say I dont been chopped and screwed by this.

Re: 8 Reasons Never To Tell Your Boo You’ve Cheated

Ness — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 15:15:48 -0000

BECAUSE!!!!!

Everyone cheats or has cheated or will be cheated on tht's why :)

Re: 8 Reasons Never To Tell Your Boo You’ve Cheated

Ness — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 15:15:16 -0000

I didn't loose hope....I just refuse to put 100% trust in a human being who are proned to disappoint! :)

Re: 8 Reasons Never To Tell Your Boo You’ve Cheated

CavetteB — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 15:13:59 -0000

I truly thought in my mind that I was in love with the person...we had went through so much together..Everybody from the start never liked the idea of us being in a relationship, so we were out to prove them wrong..The first two times I cheat..I told him and he accepted it and moved on...I never told him about the rest of the 2 yrs...

It's funny because his frat brothers told me to get out of the relationship with him because they saw that he wasn't treating me right. I've always said that when women cheat, most of the time, it's for emotional reasons. My ex was selfish and he didn't really care about me...Until I met my new man...LOL!!

Re: 8 Reasons Never To Tell Your Boo You’ve Cheated

CavetteB — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 15:10:17 -0000

LOL...No!!! I might have to cut you!!! Nah...I think my views on cheating have changed quite a bit..If that were to happen, I would be angry but I would also just leave the situation and contemplate if I need to be there...

Re: 8 Reasons Never To Tell Your Boo You’ve Cheated

SaTownHoney — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 14:38:42 -0000

i really wanna jump in this, but mum's the word here so i will just say, it's true, telling only will add insult to injury. i've been on both sides of this discussion so i more than know and understand the outcome.

Re: 8 Reasons Never To Tell Your Boo You’ve Cheated

LenaSoul — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 14:37:21 -0000

Another reason not to tell: They may beat the shit out of you or worse!

Re: 8 Reasons Never To Tell Your Boo You’ve Cheated

Dizz — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 14:36:10 -0000

Ugh I hate the word Mullato, mixed or biracial, but Mullato...it sounds like a breed of dog.

Back to the topic...I think at the end of the day honesty is the best policy. strip everything away and our word is the only real thing we have to stand on. Keeping it honest regardless of the outcome is the best way to go, anything else is just selfish.

Re: 8 Reasons Never To Tell Your Boo You’ve Cheated

Xilla — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 14:22:49 -0000

See this is the perfect example of not to tell because you care. Sometimes certain factors lead you to stray doesn't mean the love is there its just a need needs to be fulfilled.

Re: 8 Reasons Never To Tell Your Boo You’ve Cheated

Xilla — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 14:21:48 -0000

Are you from Europe Buzzy? I noticed that though. It's a good thing. I think the cultures should mix. Mulatto's are beautiful.

Re: 8 Reasons Never To Tell Your Boo You’ve Cheated

Xilla — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 14:20:47 -0000

Why? Because guys don't tell if they cheated? Really? LMAO!!

Re: 8 Reasons Never To Tell Your Boo You’ve Cheated

musicalnote — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 14:18:51 -0000

don't lose hope..

Re: 8 Reasons Never To Tell Your Boo You’ve Cheated

Buzzy — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 14:08:34 -0000

Oh, and Xilla I love that last pic...it's sooooo European....cause you know those European men love them some chocolate sista's.