DISQUS

Summer Warm · 10 months ago

DAMN!!!! You and these pictures!! (fanning myself)

Summer Warm · 10 months ago

If i get caught cheating I'm not telling a damn thing. My man would never find out if i did or if i didnt and if he says something. boi bii gtfoh

Chinky · 10 months ago

damn @ that 3rd pic

the only time I told I cheated,is when I found out he did.Couldn't let him think he had one up on me! but other then that,I never tell.

Xilla · 10 months ago

yeah I try to add a little spice for the ladies every now and then.

You don't think it would have been much more rewarding to know you got over on him and keep that as your fuel not to get mad at him thinking he got over on you?

Chinky · 10 months ago

it probably would have been now that I think about it. But at the time I guess I just wanted to hurt that fool as much as he wanted to hurt me

Xilla · 10 months ago

He got a quick injection of bitch in him once you told him didn't he? It's a man's pride we want to have it all, but can't stand to let anyone else have something we THINK is ours.

Chinky · 10 months ago

lol.yea.this dude broke down and cried.I didn't even cry when he told me he cheated!

I can't lie tho.Im the same way.I always want whatever I want but it kills me to think of somebody messing w/mine

CavetteB · 10 months ago

I understand everything that you've written..I was in a relationship for 2 years and I recently wrote a blog to the whole world letting everybody know I cheated on him for the whole 2 years..I had to get it off of my chest..Now...Would you tell your new significant other that you cheated? I did this and it has my man paranoid that I would do it to him...even though I tell him all the time that I won't...

Xilla · 10 months ago

yeah it's almost impossible for him to believe you. It's hard to break old habits. Even though you might be able not to cheat on him it will always be in the back of his mind. You would have to provide an in dept explanation on what you wouldn't cheat again.

CavetteB · 10 months ago

Well..we've been together for a 1yr and 2 months so we are very solid...and I've told him that I wouldn't cheat on him because he is fullfilling every aspect that I need in a relationship as a whole. I also told him that I was degrading myself and that I wouldn't ever reduce myself to that level again... I hope he understands that...LOL..If not, I can't help him..

Xilla · 10 months ago

you can't make anyone believe you right? lol it's weird though, as a man even if i say I believe you there is always a small piece of doubt in my mind. That's why if i dip out, even if its just on a date, I say might as well go all the way because if she ever finds out she's going to think i slept with the chick so i might as well get the reward right?

CavetteB · 10 months ago

LOL...No!!! I might have to cut you!!! Nah...I think my views on cheating have changed quite a bit..If that were to happen, I would be angry but I would also just leave the situation and contemplate if I need to be there...

musicalnote · 10 months ago

CavetteB why u stay in the relationship for 2 years and u cheated the whole time why didnt you just get out of it?
jus curious to know

CavetteB · 10 months ago

I truly thought in my mind that I was in love with the person...we had went through so much together..Everybody from the start never liked the idea of us being in a relationship, so we were out to prove them wrong..The first two times I cheat..I told him and he accepted it and moved on...I never told him about the rest of the 2 yrs...

It's funny because his frat brothers told me to get out of the relationship with him because they saw that he wasn't treating me right. I've always said that when women cheat, most of the time, it's for emotional reasons. My ex was selfish and he didn't really care about me...Until I met my new man...LOL!!

R.E. · 10 months ago

Cosign this whole post. But I can't say anything else.

musicalnote · 10 months ago

i thought the L in love stood for LOYALTY wha happen to that

Xilla · 10 months ago

The L in love stands for LIE!! it's short for Let you down!! Love don't love nobody.
I'm hating love.

Breezy · 10 months ago

It really depends on the relationship and vibe that yall have going. If he is mature and understanding enough to realize that things happen and won't throw shit in your face all the time, good for you...other than that keep ur mouth shut. One reason I wouldn't tell someone I've cheated on them would be because it will ruin the chances of me doing it again. Ha! (i kid i kid, but it's a possibility).

Xilla · 10 months ago

lol Nah there is no such thing as an understanding like i said that joker card will always pop up. dude might not use it as often as a woman does... but it's always in the back of the person's mind.

Breezy · 10 months ago

Cosign With Xilla on the "L"= let you down
lol

Buzzy · 10 months ago

Yeah, it's best to just keep it to yourself. I cheated on my ex hubby for 4 years before we divorced, and he never suspected, or found out. I thought it was smart to just keep it to myself. The divorce was painful enough for him, why add insult to injury.

Xilla · 10 months ago

See this is the perfect example of not to tell because you care. Sometimes certain factors lead you to stray doesn't mean the love is there its just a need needs to be fulfilled.

Ness · 10 months ago

This is the EXACT reason why I don't really plan on getting married! lol.

It's the exact reason why I don't take guys seriously

musicalnote · 10 months ago

don't lose hope..

Ness · 10 months ago

I didn't loose hope....I just refuse to put 100% trust in a human being who are proned to disappoint! :)

Xilla · 10 months ago

Why? Because guys don't tell if they cheated? Really? LMAO!!

Ness · 10 months ago

BECAUSE!!!!!

Everyone cheats or has cheated or will be cheated on tht's why :)

Buzzy · 10 months ago

Oh, and Xilla I love that last pic...it's sooooo European....cause you know those European men love them some chocolate sista's.

Xilla · 10 months ago

Are you from Europe Buzzy? I noticed that though. It's a good thing. I think the cultures should mix. Mulatto's are beautiful.

Dizz · 10 months ago

Ugh I hate the word Mullato, mixed or biracial, but Mullato...it sounds like a breed of dog.

Back to the topic...I think at the end of the day honesty is the best policy. strip everything away and our word is the only real thing we have to stand on. Keeping it honest regardless of the outcome is the best way to go, anything else is just selfish.

Buzzy · 10 months ago

No, but I lived their for a couple of years when I graduated from college, many years ago :) And yes I think the whole mixing of cultures is a beautiful thing.

LenaSoul · 10 months ago

Another reason not to tell: They may beat the shit out of you or worse!

SaTownHoney · 10 months ago

i really wanna jump in this, but mum's the word here so i will just say, it's true, telling only will add insult to injury. i've been on both sides of this discussion so i more than know and understand the outcome.

KD · 10 months ago

Xil, bruh your last reason is dead on it. That should be the number 1 reason for not telling/cheating. The relationship will never work after a couple months of her pondering about that shit, needless to say I dont been chopped and screwed by this.

islandvirgo · 10 months ago

another reason for not cheating is that the girl or guy may become insecure, and always will question if the sex was better with the other person

Xilla · 10 months ago

I think women in general are a tad bit insecure. Hell men are as well. We are all insecure. Who wants their boo taken from them by another person. Have you ever seen Animal Planet when the monkey's creep? Then the main monkey keeps his monkey bitch right next to him for the rest of the mating season! lol

HeadMistress · 10 months ago

LOL!!!!! You are so right! (about the monkey bsnss)

HeadMistress · 10 months ago

I'm on the fence about telling...I hate liars and cheaters and if he cheats, yes I deserve to know but what does honesty really accomplish other than a faster exit on my part?

"If you tell me, I will leave you" (in my best Field of Dreams whisper voice)

I'll know anyway, I pay very close attention to behavior and attitude, certain shyt you just can't hide...

Isis · 10 months ago

It's not worth the head ache. . .I mean if you get drunk and accidentally sleep with a chick once I can deal with that. (it has to be all in that order. . .lol) but two, three times, dates and conversations, you have now entered another relationship you are confiding in her her opinion starts to matter now that hurts more then u fucking her, because then it goes deeper then sex.

Natural wonder · 10 months ago

Thanks for that 3rd pic.....I love chocolate brothers but that dude just stopped me dead in my damn tracks. I literally focused on every detail of that pic for a good 2 minutes, LMFAO! WHEW!!!! (long pause......breath)
I am happily married and agree with this post 100%. Although I have never cheated within my marriage I feel sometimes an isolated incedent should remain in the dark. In hopes of not only protecting feelings but also to keep some form of trust within the relationship. Now if you get to the point where you have to keep burying secrets then you need to spill the beans and run for the hills! Obviously you were not meant to be or are ready for a committed relationship.
**Please keep the pics coming**

ShUggaMomma23 · 10 months ago

Dunno, I now question are we ( humans) designed for "Monogamy"!
Im startin to think ,Not!!

rodeosbest · 10 months ago

dont tell nothin.. its not even worth it and frankly.. there is not anything you can do to change the fact you was riding at another rodeo.. but always always always use protection! thats where people mess up.. aint noone worth getting the cooties over..LOL
my dud cheated on me and I found out.... that was 2 years ago... but where was I this year the night of his bday while he was with his boyz? I was "rollin in my 6 4" or he was rollin in me.. and I out did myself Iike it was my bday.. ha ha..
knew my man was going to drunk as heck cause his boyz were in town.. they drink too much.. so when he woke up I was all freakin perky like good morning happy bday and proceeded to get ready for the intimate lunch planned with his entire family.. see that little extra cirricular made the bday better for all involved! ;0)

Just A Thought · 10 months ago

The only reason to go by this guide is if your significant other has NO evidence (hard or tangential) that you cheated. Case in point, I was in a relationship with a guy for nearly 2 yrs, and all the signs that he was cheating started to pop up. Since I didn't want to leave, I sat him down and had the "i know we've been having issues, but if you're going to stay, then we need to focus on just us and how we can make things better." Translation - leave them other chicks alone, cuz I know you're creepin and I'm halfway there to doing it myself. The relationship ended not too long after that, and he thinks to this day that I don't know who, when, and where. But two of his friends sold him out, and I had cell phone records, emails, the whole nine. As such, when I bounced, let's just say he had some personal property to replace.

PI Guy · 10 months ago

A very interesting article but if you are a woman reading this then maybe you should also read 'The Cheaters Guide to Valentine's day' http://www.allieddetectives.co.uk/blog/the-chea...

esskaye · 4 months ago

I feel like my ex did cheat on me... but he won't admit it. I broke up with him... he was acting too weird.. he stopped being intimate with me telling me he was tired and other bs... being real distant... i feel like it happened more than once and he fell for this other woman.. so what i dont understandn is if he wanted to be with her why didnt he just end it and end the relationship. He had told me how he was in the past and when something wasnt working out when he no longer was interested he told the woman straight up.. i just dont understand why he couldnt do the same with me.