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Re: 5 Reasons She’ll Let Your Man Smash

Michsi — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 08:57:58 -0000

I have never been a side chick. I have been a jump off with a single man, well a good friend so i guess that would make up friends with beni's. But I can't recall any reason why I would want to sleep with anybodies boyfriend on purpose. I think that could get ugly if the other woman found out...my mind wouldnt be at ease knowing i'm sleeping with somebodies man that they are potentially head over hills with.

Re: 5 Reasons She’ll Let Your Man Smash

DaRuler — Sat, 07 Feb 2009 18:29:17 -0000

for some reason i always look at the title of your topic meaning something else. like on this one. i thought it was from you and your homeboy situation and 5 reasons that your girl would let him hit, but that's just my outtake...

Re: 5 Reasons She’ll Let Your Man Smash

hazysin — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 15:20:01 -0000

I'm 24 and i have been the other woman willingly several times. When i was younger i rationalized it as a way to eliminate emotional attachments or drama (im not in the business of wrecking homes). I actually maintained a relationship with a married man for 5 years, simply because when we met he had only been married 6 months. Throughout the tenure of our situation at times he became overbearing and had to be reminded that he had prior obligations(a wife and child). Due to his situation, our interaction were on my terms. When we took trips...it was according to my schedule and I went shopping it was with his credit card. Our children who are only 1 month apart actually still interact everyday although the relationship is dead....he actually thought i would want him when his wife left him, although i never gave any implications to that effect.

The biggest benefit in my opinion (based on personal experience) is the freedom. The freedom to decide when and if i wanted to deal with him. Plus the escape clause.

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Omnipresence — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 09:43:21 -0000

the main's a prude & the side piece is a cooold freak! Whew!

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Buzzy — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 20:11:12 -0000

Oh, and what's up with the STD comment whenever someone says their seeing someone that's in a relationship.....that doesn't seem very logical....the other woman normally (well the smart one's) will make a man put on a condom because she knows the real him, but a wife very rarely makes a man put on a condom, so who is more at risk for a STD? Ecspecially if he's really out their.

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Buzzy — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 20:01:16 -0000

Why is it when a woman decides to do it her way...the sheep dog come out, and try to bark her back into the heard with all the ....you ain't shit...you a bish...you are this and that....look I'm a human being living and navigating this world just like all you self righteous chicks, and whatever decision I make, I make for me, so for those that have an issue...I say stay focused on the road in front of you, and don't worry about the road that's in front of me....I'm good. If I only want to F*ck married men, for the rest of my life, than you know what.....it's my business. And I wouldn't call me old p*ssy, I like to call myself, A FRIEND! That sounds better....don't you think?

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Xan — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 19:36:37 -0000

well, as you can see, most of us who've seen the light have positive responses...

so fuck your depressed opinions. hope your method works out for you! :)

(i'm 98.2% sure it won't, but good lucking handling all that!)

Re: 5 Reasons She’ll Let Your Man Smash

Xan — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 19:31:48 -0000

exactly. sure. lol.

men like the ones you date. thanks for sharing!

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EbonyLolita — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 19:17:15 -0000

Oh gosh, all you chicks kill me. You are as important/special as the man that you're fuckin' makes you. Just b/c a dude tells u his house business that doesn't make you special, it means a nigga needs a therapist and it's cheaper to fuck u and talk about his problems. But all of you dumb bishes think your good pussy makes him do all that shyt. Most men I know and fucked will tell u the best pussy is the newest pussy. So, if you spend 1 yr or more fuckin' a dude as a side piece, you OLD SIDEPIECE PUSSI!!!

I was played for the side piece, unknown to me, and when I found out I high stepped it outta there. I will not ever make it easy for sum dumb/coward MoFo to hurt/lie to his woman/wife/whatevaucallit. I will not take scraps or bustdowns from anyfuckin' body. Now, there's a difference w. men who date multiple women, but have noone who can claim them. I have nuff respect for a man who is honest about dating multiple women and I can date multiple men. However, when you choose to settle down then you both know what you have to do. Commit.
If u a wife who stays w/ a cheater, then u get what you deserve. If u a side piece and u know and stay w/ dude. You get what u deserve too. Let's just hope and pray that u don't get a gift that keeps on givin' like HIV/AIDS.
*two fingas in da air, PEACE*

Re: 5 Reasons She’ll Let Your Man Smash

Haniplease — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 18:59:53 -0000

exactly Xilla! seriously! i don't mind listening getting my back broke, and like Buzzy said, the power! i mean niggas ACT like they don't care, but THEY DO! trust! lots o' handbags and fun come outta that there card. BELIVE IT!

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HeadMistress — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 18:22:49 -0000

Wait....it was bad enough when wives and girlfriends were the only stupid ones ignoring and putting up with their men's lies and cheating....so now side chicks believe they have the upper hand, that they're in control and are NOT being lied too??? ROFLMAO

Stupid main chicks + stupid side chicks = a bunch of triflin men who have outsmarted you both

Wooooo chile, ya'll n*ggas have really stepped up your game huh...

Re: 5 Reasons She’ll Let Your Man Smash

luciouskitty — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 16:58:23 -0000

I have been a side chick before and u do eventually get attached to the man and you start to want more from the relationship. Always remember what goes aound comes around. These chicks are lying to theirselves and only have sex to offer a man. They think that they have the upperhand but I don't think so. They need to wake up and get some real self-esteem. It is soo obvious that they are lacking. Men cheat because they are immature and cowards. And their girlfriends can be giving them everything they need. Find your own Men.

Re: 5 Reasons She’ll Let Your Man Smash

Buzzy — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 15:23:58 -0000

Actually my marriage was pretty typical...ups and down's, but for the most part it was good....I left because I just wasn't happy in the marriage anymore, and I knew we were making each other miserable....I thought it best that I go find my happiness, and let him go and find his....so not scorned at all. I'm very happy, and like I said previously, I date, and they've all been single men....I just have this ONE friend who'se married that i've been hanging with for 6 years. I'm not out looking for the married men in the world. But I also understand women that only want to attatch themselves to men in relationships.....men can be 4 handfuls, and sometimes you just want to do you without the hassle of a committment. So yes I believe in free will. I'm also not a big propnent of monogomy.....so......yeah

Re: 5 Reasons She’ll Let Your Man Smash

AnitaFoxx — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 14:59:24 -0000

Hi Xilla,
You are a very wise man. The last that said to me and his whole church was the same words -its about making new mistake, having a different set of problems. He graduated 4th in his class. He taught me and my girlfriend alot about relationship problems. At least I know you are speaking from experience.AFoxx
How do I get my picture to show up on the blog.

Re: 5 Reasons She’ll Let Your Man Smash

kay — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 14:31:08 -0000

and it's the type of person you are that is depending on the type of men you seek and draw in. Clearly, the men the two of you surround yourselves with are men who are pussy hungry, without sense, impulsive and find it difficult to use logic; not my type

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kay — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 14:28:28 -0000

both of you are pathetic. You got shorty up there that like's to fuck girls and guys and this other one that is a scorned divorcee, I seriously rest my case. That "free will" you speak of will bite you in your ass something serious. It's not about marriage its about respect for woman hood. Oh and I wouldn't be a "jump off" I got far too much respect for myself and women thats the reason why women will never rise because of poisonous venom like the two of you, smh

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Buzzy — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 13:17:03 -0000

My parents have been married for 40 years....so.....nope that's not it......and it was very healthy....I received a full scholarship and graduated from a top university, so it's not the education thing either.....and if a woman wants a no strings attatched relationship with a man until she's 55 who cares....It's her life, and she gets to choose. And why wouldn't having free will make a person happy. So the only happy people on earth are MARRIED.....I watch Dr. Phil, and I was one of those HAPPY people for 12 years...IT'S ALL A LIE! Not sure where i read this, but it's been proven that the happiest people are SINGLE WOMEN AND MARRIED MEN. Which would indicate that married women are miserable, because they have to deal with the fool everyday, and the single men are miserabe because they don't have anyone to help out with the bills
.
I'm not justifying what I do, but I do it....and right now it works, if in 2 years or 2 days it's not, i'll move on, it's called free will, and I love that.

Re: 5 Reasons She’ll Let Your Man Smash

Xan — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 12:07:38 -0000

wow.

i wouldn't know about 45-year-old side pieces, that shit is sad. i feel sorry for you, damn.

whoa that must totally suck....good thing its not me! that'd probably depress the hell outta me.

i don't even see that anywhere in my future, real talk.

is this a personal reflection? if so, thanks for the advice. i won't be stupid and stay with a philandering male until i reach 45. shit, i won't stay with a man until i'm 25 lol...i date women. i just get bored sometimes when i'm single, and then your husband strolls along with his ring off trying to take me out-of-town/to the club/to the show he suddenly realized he'd rather watch with me than you (he didn't sell those tickets, silly!).

see how many of these females in this forum are willing to be faithful? usually they're more honest with their shit too (not always, but the odds are higher). i don't give a fuck. besides, i don't base my station in life in relation to other motherfuckers...so I am not ever any "his" or "her" side-pieces, the individuals i'm fucking are all Xanpieces to me. i uniquely cherish, admire, respect and care about all four of my fuckbuddies. we do our thing safe and sound and keep it real with each other about what we expect and want.

what's a broken home? i mean, my parents (married for 23 years, by the way) have a new beautiful house in Atlanta, i think its totally fixed. and since you don't know me but wish to practice your diagnostic skills on a nigga, peep it: Xan is a college graduate with two parents who are also. i had a great family structure and was given the option to choose my own path in life on all levels, because i don't follow. i do what i please.

again, this typically attracts your man to me and people like me.

stop your shit, ms. lady.

i don't have a metaphorical "elevator", all my thoughts are originally on a higher plateau.

i don't recall validating "cheating". i don't cheat when i'm truly commited to a situation, and i don't sit idly by watching someone else cheat. i'm just not retarded enough to believe in the cute little lies that make optimistic women--like you, obviously--think that because some nigga has added a pseudo-title to your status in his life it actually means something...

"since i'm his WIFE, that means his dick will only become stimulated by and/or function with ME! see my ring?! my man LOVES me!!!"

you're right sweetie, your man does love you.

ALL your men love you, ladies--they tell me this every time we fuck.

Re: 5 Reasons She’ll Let Your Man Smash

kay — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 11:36:23 -0000

this is just a mere example of an individual who comes from a broken home. Anyone from a healthy home would never say the things this person has said. Trying to justify cheating, side chicks, extra chicks whatever shows the marturity level of an individual and judging by their thoughts the elevator doesn''t reach the top floor. You can be the side piece for so long, 45 year old side pieces are not cute nor are they happy, grow the fuck up and quick time is wasting hun

Re: 5 Reasons She’ll Let Your Man Smash

Xan — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 11:26:59 -0000

word up, thanks. i ain't saying no shit i heard about or read--i know exactly what i'm talking about.....lmao...

okay, if you wanna play THAT game, go ahead. I don't give a damn. I'm still gonna get laid by your nigga, end of story, and chances are he likes my shit a little more than yours which is why he's willing to potentially throw away your relationship.

9 times out of 10, the other person sleeping with your man DOES NOT EVEN WANT HIM LIKE THAT. cause if she did want him...she'd have him.

if y'all married, it'd be a good-ole-fashion affair. if y'all are just dating and other chick is putting in work where you are not (its not only about sex, sometimes theres another reason--like you're a boring bitch, pretentious, too ghetto/bourgeois etc) then you'll suddenly find yourself single and your ex-boyfriend wrapped all up with "that bitch".

so reposition that focus on who's really the "hoe" here....

WHY OH WHY ARE WOMEN SO QUICK TO BE COMPETITIVE WITH ONE ANOTHER RATHER THAN STAND TOGETHER AND CALL BULLSHIT ON THESE NIGGAS WHEN IT OCCURS?

men do this shit cause they can.

if YOU ain't doing the shit you can & really want to do, fuck that shit and CTRL+ALT+DEL it.

don't you just hate it when you realize you've wasted a year of your life???

Re: 5 Reasons She’ll Let Your Man Smash

KD — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 10:03:25 -0000

Like Pimp C said, "you have some women who do and some women who don't". It depends on the female, if she's been severly scorned by a prior relationship she is more likely to play both sides of the fence. If she has dealt with the typical man-woman sh^t and been hurt a lil bit then she is less likely to be the second toe. So it depend on the chic and her boundaries................publicly its 50/50 privately 70/30...the bigger number being the dip on the side.

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SugarTits — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 09:29:03 -0000

Well said.............

Re: 5 Reasons She’ll Let Your Man Smash

Buzzy — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 09:26:29 -0000

Very Powerful! Mind you, I've been on all side's of this, and being a wife takes an illusory mind..." he loves me, he would never do that to me, and if he does, that other bitch is the problem, because he treats me like a queen, and we have kids, I put it down, and he loves me....and....blah, blah, blah." The wife forget's that he had a woman when she met him, she forget's that he was getting with her, and another woman at the same time, and she had to MAKE him choose....but he didn't. Good Sex is powerful, felling free is powerful, and as most men say 'a'int nothing better than some P*ssy, except some new p*ssy.'
So do I believe that ALL men cheat? Nope, but i believe that men that CAN cheat, do.
I know more about this man then his wife, I'm not a hoe. But I know that pain, so if it keeps your illusion in tact, call me what you want.

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Xan — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 08:38:48 -0000

second place, first loser....fuck all that, when did this become a competition?

ohhh, i remember. it became a competition when he fucked that chick.

don't sweat the sister for getting her genital workout...but the nigga for even causing this discussion to be possible.

Re: 5 Reasons She’ll Let Your Man Smash

Xan — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 08:05:28 -0000

wow, you sound so adamant regarding your position. strong-minded, i like that.

...you're gonna need that strength to tide you over while you sit home alone some nights while your man is fucking somebody else. true story.

"...if you like not having another person in your life to share and grow with that respects you and treats you like the queen you could evovle[sic] to be..then hey hoe on..."

looks like either way you slice it, it still won't come to fruition.

treating someone like a queen doesn't entail dipping off on her to screw some bird that'll be a memory in two years (but a memory that'll replay multiple times while he's trying to keep his dick hard to fuck you...again...).

respect doesn't include playing you like you're the fool or issue, essentially respecting a "relationship intruder" more than you (and you're the one that invested YOUR time into this motherfucker! how dare he?!). Right now (or last night/tonight/whenever he fucks her again), he's saying all kinds of shit about YOU and YOUR relationship, shit you may have had no idea about...to a stranger whose face you can't even describe.

He only has good things to say about her...to his friends, not you. They're in on the secret, they can't wait to hear more about and even meet this alluring, exciting new chick that you're in the dark about--high five!--and all the while you're somewhere hanging up this bastard's clothes and wondering why he's not home from work yet.

Sooooo....scorecard:
YOU: zero. NEW BITCH WHO WANTS MEN LIKE PIZZA DELIVERY: 2.

what part of the game is that?

well, he has a dick. and no matter how lovely the love is, how long its lasted, how many kids are involved, or how good he is/you are--it doesn't take a whole lot to attract Dick's attention.

Xan's not bitter, not completely jaded, and not a woman scorned...just a free-spirited, happy Pomosexual (look it up, not with an "H") into peace and happiness without bullshit and irrationality. Dig?

"...the other bitch can be cute or whatever...she can be the unequivocal shit, shit. but she can't force your man to go fuck with her. he chose that route. she probably wasn't even thinking about your man...HE'S the one that said 'fuck it' to your relationship...and don't think he won't again. prepare yourself right now to deal with the fact that its damn near guaranteed to happen, multiple times sis. better luck with a man that used to be a female lol......"
--xan, to a friend in 2007